Rapunzelle Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 I am in my late 40s, and divorced. I have tried 3 different dating sites and had no luck. I have been repeatedly stood up, get contacted by guys who don't have a job and/or live with their parents, are older than my father, can't write a comprehensible message, scammers, or men who are hideously butt-ugly. When I have gone on a date with a guy from a dating site, they always start acting sexual immediately- always in contrast to their profiles, which say they are looking for a LTR. I have a middle class income and life. I am attractive, although I am plus-sized, I've had the same bad luck on sites for plus-sized people. On those sites, it seems almost no one reads profiles and just responds to pics. All I want is a reasonably intelligent guy, who has a job and a car- he can be fat/short/bald or whatever, just not FUGLY. It seems that this is impossible to find. I've been trying for two years now. Are others experiencing the same? 1
atomicdog Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 This is going to sound harsh, but I think it's the truth. It's because you're in your 40s. All the "good" men are chasing younger women, who are in short supply. The younger women are a tiny minority and pretty much own the world and can pick and choose from the top 5% of men. Until they get to be your age, which is when all the good men start to disappear. There was once an institution called "marriage" to prevent this from happening, but that obviously didn't work out so well, as the trend for men is increasingly toward marrying late or not at all.
El Brujo Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 All the "good" men are chasing younger women, who are in short supply. Actually, the "good" men have taken themselves off the market. 1
clia Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 Try Meetup. Look for groups geared toward people your age and attend some events. I had much better luck with that than with OLD. I don't agree that your age is the problem. There are plenty of older men out there who have no interest in dating much younger women. You just need to put yourself into the right venue.
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