labryinth Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 I am having this sudden urge of breaking nc and contacting my 'ex' .. I am on day 15. Been unwell for last few days and during these days when am low I feel like reaching out to him more. Guys, pls talk sense into me so I stay strong!
Salvatore85 Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 If you do it it's only going to hurt you, he's not going to care. Do you want to prolong the pain or do you want to work to overcome it?
Author labryinth Posted September 9, 2013 Author Posted September 9, 2013 Of course, the latter. I fail to understand while being nc and inspite of being busy in whatever work you are doing, there are thoughts of him creeping in and the next thing you know is you are fighting for or against him in your mind and heart. Why do dumpees have to go through this hell. I wonder whether he thinks of me or misses me? Even after the bu I stayed friends wherein he always reminded me "hey u aint my girlfriend so I am not obliged to tell u where am I" considering he is far away texts and calls were the only means of staying in touch. How come a person who so convincingly said they love us change and say "yes I have changed I do not love u". Makes u drift away and think there is no such thing called love.
forgetmenot75 Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 Hi, I just broke no contact after 3 months. What I can tell you is that I feel horrible. Don't do it, you'll regret. I'm feeling very anxious right now, I know that no matter what he tells me, it won't be any good, that in the case he'll contact me. Please, don't contact him. Stay sane.
Author labryinth Posted September 9, 2013 Author Posted September 9, 2013 Sad. They never say anything nice never ever! possibly this the reason why I am refraining to contact him.. possibly!
forgetmenot75 Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 Look, I broke no contact 20 minutes ago and I'm felting worst every minute that passes. Now I feel worst than 3 months ago.
forgetmenot75 Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 Yes, they'll never say what you want yo hear, because our feelings are still so strong, but they don't feel the same for us. We are puppets for them.
Author labryinth Posted September 9, 2013 Author Posted September 9, 2013 Imo, dear do not feel bad... as I see it from your post it does not seem you completely broke nc. What if after seeing that you have visited his profile.. it is fine.. calm yourself down
JPMC Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 Don't worry about it. You had a few drinks and you let your guard down. You're didn't speak to him or email him. You were curious. Go to a different dating website.
JDPT Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 You will have many ups and downs, understand them and learn to embrace them. Find that inner strength you have to propel yourself day in an day out. I commend you on the time you have remained strong and committed to NC. Understand that by breaking NC you will only exacerbate your current situation. And will eventually accomplish absolutely nothing but setting yourself back to square one. Be strong, no need to expose your feelings to your ex any further, you are stronger than that, we are all here for you.
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