introspective Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 Im going out of my mind here and i cant figure this out. I have the perfect girl, and she deserves so much more than this. I feel like i cant do anything right and its killing me. She is away at college now and it is extremely rough. She is an R.A., she works 2 other jobs, and she has a full load of classes this semester. She told me tonight she feels like i dont know how to communicate with her and i dont know how to support her and that should come naturally. She is exactly right, but i dont know what changed. Before we got together we were friends, and we could sit and talk for hours about absolutely nothing. Now, all i know to talk about is asking her how her day went. She tells me how much stress she is under and how she thinks i dont realize how much it is, and all i can say is hang in there, itll get better. That seem to be my answer everytime. Tonight i asked her what time she had to be up in the morning, and she said 7. I said thats not too bad, and i got "maybe not for you because your used to it, but its pretty rough for me". Im on pins and needles here and there is no reason i should be. I love her very much and she is the the perfect example of a soulmate. When we are together there is never an arguement, never have any trouble.. so why now do i face this horrible problem. If anyone could helpp or offer any advice it would be greatly appreciated because im afraid the end is near.
Aedra Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 Damn, this is practically identical to what I'm going through with my bf. Know what she needs? Expressions of love. Write her a sweet letter, send her a cute gift (depends on what she likes) show through actions you care about her and that you're by her side through her stress. It's really tough in long distance because the physical part is absent so it makes it much harder to feel close to someone sometimes. You should also be blunt with her. Ask her what she feels she needs.
justwhoiam Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 So you sit there, asking yourself what you could do, instead of doing anything to help your relationship grow and evolve? Remember, it always takes two. What are you really putting into the relationship? What kind of effort? You shouldn't wait until you feel you're losing her, because that's often too late. Do something.
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