avasaur Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 I'm 25 and I spontaneously clicked with a girl on the tinder phone app and we decided to go out after some texting. When we went out we had an amazing time, we went to a really cool bar and clicked a lot. Great banter, lots of shared interests, some physical contact (we were standing as it was crowded) - we then went to another bar and had another drink, then a third cool bar and we were making out and then we wandered the streets, walked along a river and somehow ended up at my place and made out some more on my balcony..it got pretty far before she said she should go and that was the first date. The second one we went out for dinner after work, we kissed as soon as we met, and again it was great, we held hands, kissed, and after dinner went over to a nearby bar for cocktails, and then walked for a while and then had frozen yogurt and walked some more and then eventually she said a "I should go" when we got dangerously close to my place again. Third date we went to a movie that was playing in a park, we lay on a beach towel and shared some wine and cheese, cuddled a bit, kissed and spent most of the time talking. Again ended up at my place totally unplanned and then somehow making out on my bed this time topless until her "I should go". Between each of the above dates there has been about a week and a half gap so in total it has been about a month, bit more since we first met. Tomorrow we are grabbing dinner after work as I just got back from a brief vacation and I'm feeling pretty antsy. I don't know how to interpret what she's doing, I really like her, I want her to be my girlfriend but I don't know when or if it's appropriate to ask or whether I should just keep riding this wave of uncertainty which is making me more and more nervous the more I keep doing it...what should I do? It's getting more nerve wracking as I fall for her more. Why is she letting things go so far (like making out very very heavily) and then saying she has to go I'm confused here too...
emva07 Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 You guys should talk. She is probably confused too. All dates almost ended in sex? she might also be wondering if you are serious about her or just want sex.... just as you are also wondering if she is serious about you.
todreaminblue Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 I'm 25 and I spontaneously clicked with a girl on the tinder phone app and we decided to go out after some texting. she said a "I should go" when we got dangerously close to my place again. making out on my bed this time topless until her "I should go". Why is she letting things go so far (like making out very very heavily) and then saying she has to go I'm confused here too... all of the above....she doesnt want to have sex with you ...not yet...maybe not for a while........maybe she is waiting until you are boyfriend girlfriend...maybe she gets carried away but is able to pull back..........who knows...she is showing you affection, lets you go further than what some women would including me so ....what is it you are confused about? you need to clarify the relationship and what you want or would like, tell her exactly how you feel, ask her to tell you how she feels what she would like to happen and then you will know for sure...be straight up be honest be clear on what you want....no ambiguity no confusion, straight forward question straightforward answer hopefully for you............i wish you well...good luck..deb 1
stillafool Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 She doesn't want to sleep with you until she knows it's going to be a relationship, which to me is a good quality. She isn't easy to bed. 2
Author avasaur Posted September 9, 2013 Author Posted September 9, 2013 I see, I imagine this to be the case but my concern is that bringing the subject up might make me seem really eager. At the moment we just have fun, banter back and forth, we have never had a "serious tone" conversation it has always been story telling and such. This makes me think I should try and show her I'm serious and not seeing anyone else without breaking out of that fun interaction and explicitly bringing up "the talk". I think I've done this because I show her a lot of interest, I text her, I've told her of lots of places we should go - things like that. So what I'm wondering now is whether she is waiting for something to happen or she's just waiting for a certain number of dates..and figuring this out without asking is a little puzzle I've been thinking about.
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