reddragon588 Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 I've "known" it's over for a while... but now that its been over 3 months... it has really fully sunk in. I deleted her on Facebook and such a couple weeks ago and she got upset at me but hasn't made an attempt to add me back. Hasn't really reached out to me either. It's really over, and now I'm starting to freak out. I'm still in NC but I want to break it so bad.
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 I've "known" it's over for a while... but now that its been over 3 months... it has really fully sunk in. I deleted her on Facebook and such a couple weeks ago and she got upset at me but hasn't made an attempt to add me back. Hasn't really reached out to me either. It's really over, and now I'm starting to freak out. I'm still in NC but I want to break it so bad. It's a pain isnt it? Its such a tough road because your mind and feelings play these tricks on you that make it so much harder to move foward at times. I know how you feel I assure you. HUGE congrats on the deleting facebook and whatever. My biggest advice I can give you from my actual experience: DO NOT BREAK THAT!!! Honestly, the less you see, the better. There are always SO many sayings you hear that kinda ring true, but whoever came up with "Ignorance is bliss" speaks the truth!! The less you see and know, the FASTER you move on. Thats a big issue with those going No Contact (including me) because they dont take social media sites into account. I had to download a website blocker, block EVERY site I could, and had my roommate password protect it with a password I dont know lol. I have a HUGE issue of being nosey lol. Anyways, keep moving on my friend. You are doing much better than day one. It will keep getting better! 3
melell Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 Trust me, this is the most important part of the healing process. Without it the pain can go on for years and years. The sooner that realization comes the sooner things get better. I was feeling okay, then the realization hit me, and it was the worst part, but after that things fell into place. Hang in there, get through this little patch and things will improve a lot. Just before the second month with the realization part for me. Now almost in the third month, and I am feeling more 'ok' everyday. 1
Author reddragon588 Posted September 9, 2013 Author Posted September 9, 2013 It's a pain isnt it? Its such a tough road because your mind and feelings play these tricks on you that make it so much harder to move foward at times. I know how you feel I assure you. HUGE congrats on the deleting facebook and whatever. My biggest advice I can give you from my actual experience: DO NOT BREAK THAT!!! Honestly, the less you see, the better. There are always SO many sayings you hear that kinda ring true, but whoever came up with "Ignorance is bliss" speaks the truth!! The less you see and know, the FASTER you move on. Thats a big issue with those going No Contact (including me) because they dont take social media sites into account. I had to download a website blocker, block EVERY site I could, and had my roommate password protect it with a password I dont know lol. I have a HUGE issue of being nosey lol. Anyways, keep moving on my friend. You are doing much better than day one. It will keep getting better! I made the mistake of using a friend's profile to look at hers today. Maybe that's why I'm feeling so bad. At least my own life is in order- I'm doing well at work, I've lost weight and I've joined a Meetup group. But I wish my emotions could get to the place where the rest of me is!
mtnbiker3000 Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 Stay 100%, absolute, social media included, NC!!!! That is the only way. Not saying it's a great time, but it beats the alternative!!! 3
Salvatore85 Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 I sort of knew it was over while we were still together. When I started to dread coming home from work cause I knew she would start bitching the moment I walked in the door. There's nothing worse than being lonely when you're still in a relationship. 2
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