loveiswar101 Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 Hi All, Started new thread here with scenario here. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/second-chances/423333-where-here I going to start today as Day 1 NC. 99% percent of my thoughts are about her but iv'e expressed them to her and she's asked for space and time. So here goes day 1...
TrblinMN Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 Congrats! Stay strong and everyone here is supporting you.
Author loveiswar101 Posted September 9, 2013 Author Posted September 9, 2013 Start of Day 2...All day yesterday was a nightmare, broke down in front of 2 people who asked about her..Couldn't stop thinking about her all day. Buddy of the her best mate and me caught up for beers, he'll not letting much out the bag but says he's heard snippets that after a year she wants/wanted me to either move in or move closer. All she wants is to be with me, but believes I'm holding back. (holding back because got screwed over in marriage I guess..read other thread..link at top) Ring her he say's and get it sorted. I told him she asked for space and said I just couldn't and have to respect her wishes. But after hearing that it made me want to ring her last night, this is just hard to &%&^% hard. Still not hungry but slept a little more last night. Day 2 of NC starts today...
love1336x Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 The first couple days are the toughest, but eventually with time. It gets easier! Good luck my friend, and stay strong!
Author loveiswar101 Posted September 10, 2013 Author Posted September 10, 2013 Well this morning is day 3, can't hold on any longer, feel i've done well to get here. She asked for some time, haven't seen her in close to a week. Miss her. Biting bullet, going to have to text and ask if this can be fixed, I need to know, haven't slept, not eating...Going to make it short and sweet in way of missing you and can we fix this if fixable..
thishatteredsymphony Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 'I hope I could be wrong, but I don't think this is not going to end well for you. I know it's hard, but the pain you're feeling now I'm sure is just going to be amplified.
Author loveiswar101 Posted September 10, 2013 Author Posted September 10, 2013 Had no choice, gotta know. The pain is unbearable... Hardly any sleep for 3 days, im fed up off screwing up my life, she is/was the best thing to happen to me for many a year and basically im over the **** and need her love..
Author loveiswar101 Posted September 10, 2013 Author Posted September 10, 2013 I tried to make it short... "Hi, just touching base and that I'm thinking of you. Do hope to hear from you so have a chance to fix this if fixable. xxx" At moment i'm in the bottom of hell and need to know if I have a chance to fix this or not. We'd see each other nearly everyday and now I haven't seen her for over 5 days, to many it might not seem alot but to me it feel like a lifetime.
Author loveiswar101 Posted September 10, 2013 Author Posted September 10, 2013 Some might say I look need and weak with this action. But I think there nothing wrong with trying to fix what I have messed up, to be with someone I sincerely love and cherish. Sitting on the sidelines I feel is just not an option.
Johnny1983 Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 Dude! i just came out of an off and on relationship (6 months long distance seeing her every weekend), its really off right now, hurts like hell, to help you out, i remember a period when it went off to on, i remember telling her when it went off, that i was going back with my ex, that if she wanted to see me one last time she had to hurry! she did not bite on those treaths, so i actualy went on with my ex, and stop the persuing of her, i was on the withrawlls of her all along with my ex, left for a vacation with her, then suddenly she called me out of the blue, she wanted to know if i was thinking bout her, and i made a date and it was on again, i know its hard, and to say the truth i never loved my ex again, im still with her today,and after the other one turned it to off again, i still communicate once a week WICH I REALLY SHOULD NOT. This time its over, after i tried the NC she just vanished for good, i guess it reached its end. i am not saying this will be the case for you. since mine already cameback once from NC. not only it was NC but the whole thing was her acting out of desperation from my threaths. Im devastated btw, and its been a month now LONG STORY SHORT. if you guyz werent off and on, or this is your first time on off, TRY THE NC REALLY!!! I give it 2 Weeks max she will call you, if not that means theres someone else WICH IF THE CASE U CANT DO NOTHING ABOUT. the only thing youll do is poor out anger. ruining any chance in the futur if the other guy is a dumb ***. Go to youtube, type in coach Corey Wayne, best strategy to get an ex back Scuse my english im a french Canadian from Montreal, my woman, was a beauty from Boston.
Author loveiswar101 Posted September 10, 2013 Author Posted September 10, 2013 Thanks buddy, just watched the clip you mentioned, what he say's makes good sense. But it's the thought of not holding, touching her again that really hurts. Anyhow I shouldn't not of text her this morning. But what is done is done, guess i gotta TRY and be stronger. But at least if she does contact me back I have a better idea of what to say thanks to the video. Cheers Bud
Johnny1983 Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 cheers man, yeah what that man says is good stuff. I know its hard dude, im actually living this right now aswell. but at the end of the day you have no choice. theres nothing you can do except beging, trying to make her understand? that does not work out you know that.. if you really love her give her the space, show that you can move on, walk away and mean it actualy builds attraction in a woman, makes her feel the emergency level. LMFAO i wish i could listen to my own advise. i know dude, i wish i could hold her again, but theres nothing i can do, i cant beg, or try to make her understand. if you do that the polarities will be reversed... i did that... its pushing her away! This is my final advise, say to her what you want out of her, only once,walk away, outwait her watch her come after you in a few days or weeks. if she doesent, shes moved on... there is nothing you can do about it, you will have stated what you wanted. like a boss.
Author loveiswar101 Posted September 11, 2013 Author Posted September 11, 2013 Day 4..is it day 4 or back to Day 1 after text yesterday morning. Didn't hear nothing back so I'm going to say Day 4 with no contact. Now been an exact week since I saw, held and kisses her. Watch a whole lot of you tube of the Corey Wayne yesterday that Johnny1983 recommended and what he say makes sense and that got me through yesterday. Only thing is he talk great but seems like he believes this one doesn't work out there be another. I WANT THIS ONE.... But thoughts now are that if she does love like she said how can she allows us to be apart this long and not give a sh*t it seems. Wish me luck today guys..this ones going to be tough especially as we get closer to weekend...
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