pteromom Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 I hear ya pteromom but chances like the one this young man was lucky enough to get the chance at and sadly not take rarely, RARELY happen.. They most certainly do not come about twice Only one way to find out.
Dallers Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 If i was to send a message. If, not that i would OP. A standard hi my name is Jeremy would you like to play checkers just won't cut it. If your whole situation evolved around this bedroom thing you need to get her attention with it. A standard message she will just brush aside. Shock her and she will respond. You have to be so tactful however you must not come across cocky but have to be above and beyond to be able to hit her where it hurts and get her attention. A real man accepts what he has done wrong and not blame another so you have to bring in the situation to your message while making it clear what your intention was at the time. In a way lying as you just bottled it. As before i am not condoning sending a message and cannot give any reassurance. But i would send something like. Every now and then i think about that night we spent together, you know the one, when you made me feel like a million bucks inside and even though nothing actually happened between us in many ways i am glad it didn't, because i daydream a lot you see and you are the only one that came into my life, and ended up my fantasy. ( your name ) 1
Author Drewx2 Posted September 10, 2013 Author Posted September 10, 2013 (edited) If i was to send a message. If, not that i would OP. A standard hi my name is Jeremy would you like to play checkers just won't cut it. If your whole situation evolved around this bedroom thing you need to get her attention with it. A standard message she will just brush aside. Shock her and she will respond. You have to be so tactful however you must not come across cocky but have to be above and beyond to be able to hit her where it hurts and get her attention. A real man accepts what he has done wrong and not blame another so you have to bring in the situation to your message while making it clear what your intention was at the time. In a way lying as you just bottled it. As before i am not condoning sending a message and cannot give any reassurance. But i would send something like. Every now and then i think about that night we spent together, you know the one, when you made me feel like a million bucks inside and even though nothing actually happened between us in many ways i am glad it didn't, because i daydream a lot you see and you are the only one that came into my life, and ended up my fantasy. ( your name ) If I go for it I'm using; "I want to see you again. I'll call you tonight" It's quick, to the point, confident & a little mysterious... it will keep her wondering all day. If she still has any feelings for me, she'll melt. I think anything longer than that would kill my chances. I'll explain all that stuff If I can get her on the phone. It wasn't just about bed, I was shy in other areas as well, but I think the bedroom was the lack of icing on the cake. Edited September 10, 2013 by Drewx2
Dallers Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 (edited) This post has gone on for 7 pages and been viewed by over 1500 people. After all of it you have got as far as: "I want to see you again. I'll call you tonight" Please explain what part of your message will make her melt? Your message consists of you telling her what you feel and then what you are going to do. It does not mention her at all. If I was her I would just laugh that you think you can just tell me what to do after what happened the last time we were together. I would then reply with I don't care if you want to see me, do not call me. I wont answer. You need to make a woman feel good, amazing, special without giving her too much to make her think you are desperate. In your situation you also need to recover from a terrible problem that you created and so you have to counter that with an explanation especially after rejecting her like you did. You need to make her realise that there was good reason for it and that actually she should not feel rejected because it was all about you not her. Hence my message. Not specifically my message, but if you can create one that beats it you will have a message that will get her attention. P.s If this convo continues for much longer I am going to start charging by the hour. Edited September 10, 2013 by Dallers
Author Drewx2 Posted September 10, 2013 Author Posted September 10, 2013 P.s If this convo continues for much longer I am going to start charging by the hour. You volunteered to stop a long time ago haha I think I'm right on this one though..make her wonder during the day, poor it on her during the night. 1
pteromom Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 You volunteered to stop a long time ago haha I think I'm right on this one though..make her wonder during the day, poor it on her during the night. I think your message is fine. It shows some confidence (assuming she will want to hear from you) but isn't arrogant. Go for it! 1
Author Drewx2 Posted September 10, 2013 Author Posted September 10, 2013 I think your message is fine. It shows some confidence (assuming she will want to hear from you) but isn't arrogant. Go for it! I think mushy & sweet would kill my chances. I'm not her puppy dogg, I'm a man ... short and sweet is the way to go in this case. 1
Author Drewx2 Posted September 10, 2013 Author Posted September 10, 2013 Alright sounds good, I'm done for now, this thread is beginning to circle. I'll update you guys if I try anything. I appreciate all the opinions. I gave you guys the opportunity to stop lol
Dallers Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 "I want to see you again. I'll call you tonight" is really going to interest her after your amazing performance in bed.....seriously make an effort please this is pathetic.
Author Drewx2 Posted September 10, 2013 Author Posted September 10, 2013 "I want to see you again. I'll call you tonight" is really going to interest her after your amazing performance in bed.....seriously make an effort please this is pathetic. Why should I trust you? If I fail, you win. 1
pteromom Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 "I want to see you again. I'll call you tonight" is really going to interest her after your amazing performance in bed.....seriously make an effort please this is pathetic. If she is interested, just hearing from him will be enough. If she's not interested, he could write her the world's most beautiful sonnet, and she'd be all "meh". So it isn't worth a great deal of effort to come up with the perfect message. Right now as she sits alone, when she thinks of him, she either wishes she'd hear from him or not.
Dallers Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 Why should I trust you? If I fail, you win. No you misunderstand I always win, because I never go crawling back. I never chase, I walk away and find someone new. Hence why I have so much dating experience. What do I gain from helping you? Nothing. But you are backing everything on the fact that she is sitting alone thinking about you. You are living in a f**king dream world. She isn't she is probably enjoying herself with her mates or a potential bloke who is not on a forum talking about a text message that won't change a thing. Nothing is fool proof, everything is a gamble. So send her your message I really have wasted so much time here please end this thread.
Author Drewx2 Posted September 10, 2013 Author Posted September 10, 2013 If she is interested, just hearing from him will be enough. If she's not interested, he could write her the world's most beautiful sonnet, and she'd be all "meh". So it isn't worth a great deal of effort to come up with the perfect message. Right now as she sits alone, when she thinks of him, she either wishes she'd hear from him or not. are you saying a beautiful sonnet would be acceptable? Because I wrote one and everybody shot me down & called me a creep "You're the most beautiful woman I've ever seen. You have an incredible smile, gorgeous eyes and an awesome personality. I should of told you this a long time ago and I've been kicking myself for a while now. Honestly, i'm not interested in continuing our friendship. It might be different if I could be sure that you were never really attracted to me, but my gut tells me you were. Talking to you just reminds me of everything I failed to do when I had the chance. I hope you understand."
Dallers Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 are you saying a beautiful sonnet would be acceptable? Because I wrote one and everybody shot me down & called me a creep "You're the most beautiful woman I've ever seen. You have an incredible smile, gorgeous eyes and an awesome personality. I should of told you this a long time ago and I've been kicking myself for a while now. Honestly, i'm not interested in continuing our friendship. It might be different if I could be sure that you were never really attracted to me, but my gut tells me you were. Talking to you just reminds me of everything I failed to do when I had the chance. I hope you understand." NO. (10char)
Author Drewx2 Posted September 10, 2013 Author Posted September 10, 2013 No you misunderstand I always win, because I never go crawling back. I never chase, I walk away and find someone new. Hence why I have so much dating experience. What do I gain from helping you? Nothing. But you are backing everything on the fact that she is sitting alone thinking about you. You are living in a f**king dream world. She isn't she is probably enjoying herself with her mates or a potential bloke who is not on a forum talking about a text message that won't change a thing. Nothing is fool proof, everything is a gamble. So send her your message I really have wasted so much time here please end this thread. I don't have chemistry with most people..I'm not a people person. But I felt good around this girl and actually enjoyed her company. That's why I'm taking it so seriously.
Dallers Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 I don't have chemistry with most people..I'm not a people person. But I felt good around this girl and actually enjoyed her company. That's why I'm taking it so seriously. Send the message. No more talk. Easy way for you to learn is to send it and face the outcome. If it is positive and she ends up back in your bed. Don't you dare show your face on this forum again if you pussy out! 1
Trimmer Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 If I go for it I'm using; "I want to see you again. I'll call you tonight" What do you mean "If I go for it..."? ? ? AWMAHGAWD, just send it, and everybody else shut up for a while, please! 3
Atem Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 What do you mean "If I go for it..."? ? ? AWMAHGAWD, just send it, and everybody else shut up for a while, please! This. Just do it bub. In the best case, she'll give you another shot. In the worst she won't respond. Either way - you - and all of us - will finally have an answer. Good luck PS: In the meantime, find another girl you like and go out with her. The day after - repeat. Get the idea? 1
amy10 Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 If you really like this girl try to contact her and just explain that you were nervous. Maybe she will understand and you can have another go. don't put yourself down just talk to her if you want to keep dating that is. 2
Author Drewx2 Posted September 11, 2013 Author Posted September 11, 2013 What do you mean "If I go for it..."? ? ? AWMAHGAWD, just send it, and everybody else shut up for a while, please! AWMAHGAWD, Like totally, fer shurr but I am going to wait a few weeks before I do anything. I might be going to visit one of her female friends, who happens to be one of my best friends. if she ever found out she might get jealous. It could help my case.
almond Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 Game playing, trying to induce jealousy and waiting a "few weeks" to make contact with a girl after she gets into your bed probably won't have the desired effect. 3
Author Drewx2 Posted September 11, 2013 Author Posted September 11, 2013 Game playing, trying to induce jealousy and waiting a "few weeks" to make contact with a girl after she gets into your bed probably won't have the desired effect. at the same time I don't think it would hurt.
pteromom Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 are you saying a beautiful sonnet would be acceptable? Because I wrote one and everybody shot me down & called me a creep "You're the most beautiful woman I've ever seen. You have an incredible smile, gorgeous eyes and an awesome personality. I should of told you this a long time ago and I've been kicking myself for a while now. Honestly, i'm not interested in continuing our friendship. It might be different if I could be sure that you were never really attracted to me, but my gut tells me you were. Talking to you just reminds me of everything I failed to do when I had the chance. I hope you understand." No, I wouldn't send a beautiful sonnet, but it is very sweet that you are able to verbalize all your feelings like that, and it will serve you well in a relationship with the right person who will appreciate it. 1
pteromom Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 AWMAHGAWD, Like totally, fer shurr but I am going to wait a few weeks before I do anything. I might be going to visit one of her female friends, who happens to be one of my best friends. if she ever found out she might get jealous. It could help my case. Nope, this is game playing. Send the message. It's good for YOU to just send it now as well, because otherwise, within a few weeks, it has built up to this major deal in your head, and rejection will sting a lot worse once you start building up fantasies around what she will say and do. Just SEND THE MESSAGE you wrote right now, and call her tonight. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. 2
Author Drewx2 Posted September 11, 2013 Author Posted September 11, 2013 Nope, this is game playing. Send the message. It's good for YOU to just send it now as well, because otherwise, within a few weeks, it has built up to this major deal in your head, and rejection will sting a lot worse once you start building up fantasies around what she will say and do. Just SEND THE MESSAGE you wrote right now, and call her tonight. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. I guess you're right, she either wants to hear from me or she doesn't. period. 2
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