Drewx2 Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 Is there anything I can do to make up for it? I was so nervous. I just laid their like a fish...How does she see me now? Did she probably loose all respect for me? Before going online I had no idea that this was such a huge offense.
Dallers Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 New post for the same questions answered in another post? I will just quote what I said here then. When a girl enters your bed of her own accord. Its like giving candy to a baby. You have less than 0.1% of it happening again with her after not following through. 1
twinkie0 Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 lol entire different post to adress this specific part, huh? I guess it makes sense. It's not an offense, but maaan, you can't miss this type of oportunity. They don't come around very often. She may think you were not interested and moved on. But if it was recent, don't worry. Just try to get yourselves into that scenario again.
Dallers Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 Do not beat yourself up mate, just learn from it for next time. Do not miss another chance like that. See my signature..... I am the same.....just not with a girl when she is in my bed 2
Author Drewx2 Posted September 8, 2013 Author Posted September 8, 2013 Do not beat yourself up mate, just learn from it for next time. Do not miss another chance like that. See my signature..... I am the same.....just not with a girl when she is in my bed thanks! It wouldn't hurt so much if I was currently able to date, but I'm back in my parent's house and I have 24/7 to dwell on it with no real opportunities to improve
Dallers Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 Hit the weights why do you need a woman to enjoy yourself. I am taking a year out from women and focusing on me. Use your free time wisely so that when the time comes it will be a lot easier to get what you want. Improve you. Learn and research as well. Intelligence especially between the sheets is a valuable trait for a man to have
Author Drewx2 Posted September 8, 2013 Author Posted September 8, 2013 Hit the weights why do you need a woman to enjoy yourself. I am taking a year out from women and focusing on me. Use your free time wisely so that when the time comes it will be a lot easier to get what you want. Improve you. Learn and research as well. Intelligence especially between the sheets is a valuable trait for a man to have I love weights...can't afford a gym membership right now though. I might ask my parents to get me one for Christmas. Also, with my job situation I could end up anywhere in the country..don't really want to pay a huge downpayment on a gym.
Dallers Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 I love weights...can't afford a gym membership right now though. I might ask my parents to get me one for Christmas. Also, with my job situation I could end up anywhere in the country..don't really want to pay a huge downpayment on a gym. Gym is for posers my friend there is plenty of space to lay down a yoga mat, store some bars and bells and plenty of pavement to skip and run. Just focus on a solid diet and workout routine and enjoy your spare time. I like nothing better than to spend my day working hard, playing hard and then working out even harder! Then before bed come and listen to some fascinating stories from other people's problems on here while sitting stress free, drinking green tea and giving my opinion from my past successes and failures. Why would you ever want to jeopardise that? At least not till I am 30. 5
Dolphono Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 Gym is for posers my friend Only the commercial girlie fad gyms is for "posers".
Author Drewx2 Posted September 8, 2013 Author Posted September 8, 2013 Gym is for posers my friend there is plenty of space to lay down a yoga mat, store some bars and bells and plenty of pavement to skip and run. Just focus on a solid diet and workout routine and enjoy your spare time. I like nothing better than to spend my day working hard, playing hard and then working out even harder! Then before bed come and listen to some fascinating stories from other people's problems on here while sitting stress free, drinking green tea and giving my opinion from my past successes and failures. Why would you ever want to jeopardise that? At least not till I am 30. sometimes I do the farmers carry & hill sprints..I started building a weighted sled with sandbags for hill sprints. But over the past month or so, I've really let myself go. What are some of your past failures? They might make me feel better haha 1
Dallers Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 sometimes I do the farmers carry & hill sprints..I started building a weighted sled with sandbags for hill sprints. But over the past month or so, I've really let myself go. What are some of your past failures? They might make me feel better haha I am pretty bored now, if I was in your bed and we were having this conversation you would have lost me by now. Kidding! My friend I have been through many failures in my life but a true man does not ever divulge his secrets. I still fathom to believe that you really had this girl climb into your bed.....sigh.....We must not dwell on the past
emva07 Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 We must not dwell on the past Dumbledore quotes work in any scenario. 2
Dallers Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 Dumbledore quotes work in any scenario. " Great man Dumbledore, great man ". 1
almond Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 Call her up, tell her you have a voucher for a hotel that someone didn't need/gift/etc. that expires in a month. Ask her if she'd like to get away for a weekend with you. May as well give it another shot.
Atem Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 Not a huge offense but, as many here said, you likely won't get the chance again... By the way - why did you go that far if you weren't sure about whether you'd have the balls (no pun intended) to follow through? Women usually do not forgive a guy who "rejects" them when they offer themselves up to him. Well - unless she's really into you, that is. I actually conducted an experiment on this - just check out one of my previous threads (the one where everybody flamed me to death... ) Leave the teasing to the pre-naked stage. An example: I went out with this little, fit girl this Saturday. She was clearly into me (as in wanted to **** me), so I backed off and let her do all the touchy-ness and all the clinging. Then, after a 1-hour walk and a 1-hour Café stay, I walked her home, strung her along for about 30 more minutes (as in foreplay) and then ****ed her brains out. If you're not ready for the last part, keep the clothes on AND do not bring her to your place. She'll understand AND she'll give you another chance to take her home (provided you've got her interested enough, of course). It's not rocket science - women want to be led by a strong man (as cliché as it sounds). Some may even be willing to do the work for you as in hinting at going to your place and starting to take YOUR clothes off. However, in 99.9% of the cases girls will not take your dick and stick it into their vaginas. You have to do at least that yourself... 1
pteromom Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 Women usually do not forgive a guy who "rejects" them when they offer themselves up to him. Well - unless she's really into you, that is. I actually conducted an experiment on this - just check out one of my previous threads (the one where everybody flamed me to death... ) I don't necessarily agree with this. Women (especially young women) are generally insecure. She likely saw your decision not to do anything with her as a rejection of HER, and feels badly about herself. If you go back and show interest, she may just grab onto it like a dying woman. Only one way to find out. She's probably confused, so it is up to you to alleviate that confusion by showing a strong sexual interest in her. 1
Atem Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 I don't necessarily agree with this. Women (especially young women) are generally insecure. She likely saw your decision not to do anything with her as a rejection of HER, and feels badly about herself. If you go back and show interest, she may just grab onto it like a dying woman. Only one way to find out. She's probably confused, so it is up to you to alleviate that confusion by showing a strong sexual interest in her. Actually, this is what I meant (though some women who feel "rejected" will hate the guy and NEVER talk to him again). You just put it in a much more polished way 1
Dallers Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 I don't necessarily agree with this. Women (especially young women) are generally insecure. She likely saw your decision not to do anything with her as a rejection of HER, and feels badly about herself. If you go back and show interest, she may just grab onto it like a dying woman. Only one way to find out. She's probably confused, so it is up to you to alleviate that confusion by showing a strong sexual interest in her. Sorry but this never ever happens and a no real woman would do this. We have already established that she climbed into his bed, meaning she was not insecure she was horny and clearly ready for some action. If you then turn a girl down in that situation she will be hit with rejection hard and lose all respect for you as a man resulting in a turn off in a big way. You cannot then just expect you show up some time later and fire off advances when she already knows you are not good for it. Best to move on and forget the entire event ever happened.
Atem Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 Sorry but this never ever happens and a no real woman would do this. We have already established that she climbed into his bed, meaning she was not insecure she was horny and clearly ready for some action. If you then turn a girl down in that situation she will be hit with rejection hard and lose all respect for you as a man resulting in a turn off in a big way. You cannot then just expect you show up some time later and fire off advances when she already knows you are not good for it. Best to move on and forget the entire event ever happened. Yes and no. If he was really charming and got her to the point where she was getting wet just by thinking about doing him, then he may have a shot if he spins it in the "I just wanted to REALLY dial up the anticipation" way. With that said, I agree - it'll be hard to do and given the OP's description of just lying there like a rock, I'd also say "move on" and just **** the next girl silly next time. Also - OP - if you're scared about underperforming, there are several ways to prevent that from happening. 1 way that apparently works for a pal of mine is jacking off 1-2x on the day that you'll meet the girl (assuming you're sure that you'll get her naked that night). I'm not kidding around - just try it. Also, you have to **** girls just to get over the insecurity. Even IF you underperform at first, you have to go for it. You won't get better without practice and, more importantly, that mental block of yours won't disappear. Finally - even if you suck in bed, you'll still look "normal" and "ok" in the woman's eye and if she doesn't have a better option than you, she'll likely give you a 2nd chance to lay her and prove that you're actually a good ****. Hence, you've much higher chances of laying her again that way.
Dallers Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 (edited) Living in a dream world is not good for you or the people on a forum who are serious about their issues. That is not how women work. One will be along to confirm shortly that when a guy allows her into his bed and then rejects her and pussies out it is game over. The 'no' you are refering to happens on about a 1/999999999999999 ratio. I think you are looking for a sex chat line or a porno looking at your post not a love forum. Edited September 9, 2013 by Dallers
Atem Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 Living in a dream world is not good for you or the people on a forum who are serious about their issues. That is not how woman work. One will be along to confirm shortly that when a guy allows her into his bed and then rejects her and pussies out it is game over. The 'no' you are refering to happens on about a 1/999999999999999 ratio. I'm just talking about personal experience, bub. Not misleading anyone. As you say - and I agreed - most girls will be gone after that stunt. With that said, if you spin it correctly, which is hard but not impossible, you can still make it happen. In general though - OP, just move on to the next. I never understood how guys can get so hung up about a girl they've just met. If you were dating her for months/years, I get it. But just a few dates in, why do you care? Just multi-date. A few dates into each girl, you'll see whether you guys have potential or not. If not, **** her (or not, if you don't want to) and move on to the next. If you do, give her a shot and hope for the best (in which case you HAVE to **** her to make it past the early dating stage).
Dallers Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 I'm just talking about personal experience, bub. Not misleading anyone. As you say - and I agreed - most girls will be gone after that stunt. With that said, if you spin it correctly, which is hard but not impossible, you can still make it happen. In general though - OP, just move on to the next. I never understood how guys can get so hung up about a girl they've just met. If you were dating her for months/years, I get it. But just a few dates in, why do you care? Just multi-date. A few dates into each girl, you'll see whether you guys have potential or not. If not, **** her (or not, if you don't want to) and move on to the next. If you do, give her a shot and hope for the best (in which case you HAVE to **** her to make it past the early dating stage). Found: Alpha Male Wannabe. Please collect as soon as possible. Keeps dribbling on the carpet.
Author Drewx2 Posted September 9, 2013 Author Posted September 9, 2013 I don't necessarily agree with this. Women (especially young women) are generally insecure. She likely saw your decision not to do anything with her as a rejection of HER, and feels badly about herself. If you go back and show interest, she may just grab onto it like a dying woman. Only one way to find out. She's probably confused, so it is up to you to alleviate that confusion by showing a strong sexual interest in her. She laid there like a rock too...is there a chance that she didn't want any? Or is that still highly unlikely? I kissed her on the way home..does that not count for anything?
Atem Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 She laid there like a rock too...is there a chance that she didn't want any? Or is that still highly unlikely? I kissed her on the way home..does that not count for anything? She was waiting for you to do something... 1
Atem Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 Found: Alpha Male Wannabe. Please collect as soon as possible. Keeps dribbling on the carpet. Hm - there are a lot of guys like you on this page... Just because you disagree with something others say and/or you have different experiences and/or less success with dating (hence the alpha male comment) you don't have to be a childish prick about it. If not ****ing a girl and then getting her back has been impossible for you - fine. For some other guys it isn't. The world's a big place with a whole lot of very different people out there. Start experimenting/learning to get better instead of imposing your successes/failures on others just because they have/keep happening to you...
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