abby_tx Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 This is a silly post. I just got out of a relationship with a guy whom I assumed I'd marry, granted it was only 3 months. I'm 30, so most of my friends are married and a good majority of them are starting to have kids. The friends who are single seem like they gave up on life and go to the same bar every weekend and get drunk. Anyway, I find myself becoming incredibly bitter because I don't fit in in either group. The couples posting their happy couple-y photos all over facebook are getting on my nerves to the point of wanting to cancel my facebook. How do you single people deal with this? 1
Ireallydontknow Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 Because one day it will be you doing the same thing. Being happy in a couple.
Author abby_tx Posted September 8, 2013 Author Posted September 8, 2013 Because one day it will be you doing the same thing. Being happy in a couple. The sad thing is, I don't believe that it can be me anymore. I used to believe I'd fall in love and get married some day, but I just feel like after meeting two guys I thought it would happen with and having neither pan out, my chances are over. I used to think I was a good person and a catch and that meant I deserved to find a great guy, but it seems life doesn't work that way. 1
MontyCarlo Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 I'm 32, and I've not given up yet, so don't you either.
Author abby_tx Posted September 8, 2013 Author Posted September 8, 2013 I'm 32, and I've not given up yet, so don't you either. I'll try. People keep telling me I'll meet "the one" when I least expect it and to stop looking, but I can't really trust advice from friends who met their "one" in their early 20's and never had to deal with the terrible world of dating. Most of them have never gone through big heartbreak and I'm jealous! 2
Ireallydontknow Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 I'll try. People keep telling me I'll meet "the one" when I least expect it and to stop looking, but I can't really trust advice from friends who met their "one" in their early 20's and never had to deal with the terrible world of dating. Most of them have never gone through big heartbreak and I'm jealous! It's not common to find your "one" that early in this day and age. It's sad, but with Facebook and constant attention from people, who have no respect for someone in a relationship, there is a lot of cheating and "lost love." You'll find them I'm almost 29. Maybe I'm your one and you just don't know it. Maybe the other guy is. Who knows? 1
Misfortune Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 I'm smile when I see people coupled up; it warms my heart. I'm happy for them and I know what it feels like but I'm over relationships. They begin fun and end in heap of flames. Things fall into a routine, life gets in the way, people want attention, they don't get it from you and greener grass steps in. All my relationships-1st to most recent- have ended because of infidelity; I'm over it. 1st marriage was over in 6 months; "straight wife" was apparently a gay lady. Some people have no problem trying/hoping a new person will be different, I can't do it anymore. I'll go live the promiscuous life. 1
Author abby_tx Posted September 8, 2013 Author Posted September 8, 2013 I'm smile when I see people coupled up; it warms my heart. I'm happy for them and I know what it feels like but I'm over relationships. They begin fun and end in heap of flames. Things fall into a routine, life gets in the way, people want attention, they don't get it from you and greener grass steps in. All my relationships-1st to most recent- have ended because of infidelity; I'm over it. 1st marriage was over in 6 months; "straight wife" was apparently a gay lady. Some people have no problem trying/hoping a new person will be different, I can't do it anymore. I'll go live the promiscuous life. Yeah, I don't think I have the emotional strength to fall in love again and have it not work out. It'd probably be the death of me. It sucks because before this last guy, I was single, confident, happy and just getting my stride back. And now I feel like I've hit rock bottom. 2
Author abby_tx Posted September 8, 2013 Author Posted September 8, 2013 It's not common to find your "one" that early in this day and age. It's sad, but with Facebook and constant attention from people, who have no respect for someone in a relationship, there is a lot of cheating and "lost love." You'll find them I'm almost 29. Maybe I'm your one and you just don't know it. Maybe the other guy is. Who knows? That is exactly why I need to find a guy who isn't social media obsessed. My guy who I was with 7.5 years was obsessed with ALL of that stuff and loved the female attention he got. The last boyfriend never used any of those sites and I loved it. 1
Ireallydontknow Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 That is exactly why I need to find a guy who isn't social media obsessed. My guy who I was with 7.5 years was obsessed with ALL of that stuff and loved the female attention he got. The last boyfriend never used any of those sites and I loved it. I'm one of those people who just use it to connect with friends, instead of looking for an ego stroke. My ex was obsessed too. She loved the attention too. Feels crappy huh? Like "I'm not enough?" It wasn't like brief message exchanges. It was like up all night talking to them on Skype for years. Eventually she found one close and dipped on me. 1
Author abby_tx Posted September 8, 2013 Author Posted September 8, 2013 I'm one of those people who just use it to connect with friends, instead of looking for an ego stroke. My ex was obsessed too. She loved the attention too. Feels crappy huh? Like "I'm not enough?" It wasn't like brief message exchanges. It was like up all night talking to them on Skype for years. Eventually she found one close and dipped on me. That is really ****ing ****ty! It is funny how they'd rather have fake attention than the person sitting next to them. Mine would think up hilarious status updates. He got off on the number of "likes" or comments he had. It was so annoying because we'd be out to eat and he'd think of something funny and need to post it rather than live the funny moment together. 1
mtnbiker3000 Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 That is exactly why I need to find a guy who isn't social media obsessed. My guy who I was with 7.5 years was obsessed with ALL of that stuff and loved the female attention he got. The last boyfriend never used any of those sites and I loved it. I've been cursing social media for years! Too easy for people (weak people) to be tempted. It's the devil!! 1
todreaminblue Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 i am not jealous of others relationships or do i get jealous of other people..........i get sadder when i see dads playing with kids.....because i feel sorry for my girls, they have missed out....but i am happy for the kids who have their dads to play with, its wonderful for those children.... i get sad sometimes when i see couples who seem so blissfuly happy but not jealous.....but ...then i think hey when the girls fly the coop, you are going to africa.......not a lot of guys would want to be there with me, as its not ever going to be a holiday and its probably going to be pretty rough...i need to do a nurses course and dream big....i want to go on a mission and africa is just a first stop my ex liked five star hotels..my ex never shared that mission dream with me...if i were still with him i would have surely given up on that dream to stay and be the best partner i could be ...maybe god knew that......and africa or bust was always for me with the stars as my blanket...lol.....i dont really expect a guy to understand why....or even really want to explain the drive i have to do soemthing like this...so when i get sad about couples which actually happens more at night when i am alone nto when i see happy peopel together........and i am craving that soft touch and soft voice in my ear.......ill think of those dreams and plans and hopes and wishes for my future and ill day dream away.....sadness and I have an understanding.....i prefer the company of happiness.but i accept the sadness as being a necessary friend to express what i dont say..........deb
Misfortune Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 That is really ****ing ****ty! It is funny how they'd rather have fake attention than the person sitting next to them. Mine would think up hilarious status updates. He got off on the number of "likes" or comments he had. It was so annoying because we'd be out to eat and he'd think of something funny and need to post it rather than live the funny moment together. My "wife" was the same, couldn't spend a second without her phone and social media. It's so annoying, physical is becoming less important.
MontyCarlo Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 Reason why me and my partner broke up, she was infatuated with it, I grew tired so have walked away. 19 days and counting. I was the dumper but it still hurts to do it.
Woggle Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 Stop worrying about them and focus on your life. 1
Bigcitydreamer Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 i am not jealous of others relationships or do i get jealous of other people..........i get sadder when i see dads playing with kids.....because i feel sorry for my girls, they have missed out....but i am happy for the kids who have their dads to play with, its wonderful for those children.... i get sad sometimes when i see couples who seem so blissfuly happy but not jealous.....but ...then i think hey when the girls fly the coop, you are going to africa.......not a lot of guys would want to be there with me, as its not ever going to be a holiday and its probably going to be pretty rough...i need to do a nurses course and dream big....i want to go on a mission and africa is just a first stop my ex liked five star hotels..my ex never shared that mission dream with me...if i were still with him i would have surely given up on that dream to stay and be the best partner i could be ...maybe god knew that......and africa or bust was always for me with the stars as my blanket...lol.....i dont really expect a guy to understand why....or even really want to explain the drive i have to do soemthing like this...so when i get sad about couples which actually happens more at night when i am alone nto when i see happy peopel together........and i am craving that soft touch and soft voice in my ear.......ill think of those dreams and plans and hopes and wishes for my future and ill day dream away.....sadness and I have an understanding.....i prefer the company of happiness.but i accept the sadness as being a necessary friend to express what i dont say..........deb Please don't ever leave loveshack deb. I know other posters have said this to you before but I feel the same way. Your posts are a breath of fresh air and I really enjoy reading them. Thanks for sharing your insight with us.
Brown-Eyez Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 Yeah, I don't think I have the emotional strength to fall in love again and have it not work out. It'd probably be the death of me. It sucks because before this last guy, I was single, confident, happy and just getting my stride back. And now I feel like I've hit rock bottom. you & me both I really miss the company of a guy but if I have to go through hell like this again, then what exactly is the point??
Bigcitydreamer Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 I know that bitter feeling OP, it's hard seeing happy couples when that is all you really want yourself. But we all know that a large portion of these couples are not happy. They shouldn't be together simple as that. A lot of people settle so that they can get married and have kids, and then they end up divorced. Being in an unhappy relationship is so much worse than being single. It really is. Being in a bad/ incompatible relationship is emotionally draining which makes it very hard to get ahead in life. All of those happy couples you see are not really happy. It might not sound like a very nice way to view things but in my opinion it's true. Be happy that no one is holding you back from your dreams. Pursue those dreams (if you have none, think long and hard about what you wanna do in life), and someone will naturally come to you!
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