Alpha11 Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 Ok so I am dating a girl. We are both quite similar and everything, and we get on well. We've been on 6 "dates" but no physical contact more than a hug to say hi or goodbye. After the 4th date, she was saying she feels no spark. We discussed this, and it was kinda because all we have done is meals. So the other day we went on a date. We were going to go bowling but it was too busy so just went to eat and cinema and then walk to station (Which was a bit underwhelming because I could not show my other sides, until we were leaving when I got in a funny mood) and of course in cinema you can't talk and in the restaurant it feels like the table is a barrier. I hated all this, real shame things worked out how they did on this night. So anyway, the day before that, she says she wants someone who takes control and makes decisions and who surprises her. The problem with those whole spark conversation is that it has put me off even trying to make physical contact. On top of that, even more of her cousins are getting married, which is just what I need (she says it makes her jealous). Which has, in the past, made her moody and sad. This whole thing is a mess. I know dating and relationships can be hard work, but sometimes it's like theres a lot of negativeness, and whenever spark or chemistry is discussed, it feels like (from the reading I have done) nothing can be doen to fix it. We talked about all this the night after the meet and one of the things she said is that I come across as shy, nervous and funny. She also asked if I am attracted to her, to which I said yes. However, she said we are going too slow (when I said we should take the next step a month earlier, she said that should come naturally). How could I initiate something like holding hands if she feels no attraction though? What can the next step really be?
ThisGal Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 (edited) The "next step" would be to ignore her. This woman does not know what she wants. If she wants an aggressive man then she should go for that type and not try to turn you into someone you're not. Either she accepts your personality or walk away. She already said that she feels no spark. If I were you I would move on. Don't let anyone conform you. You're paying for a date that eats, watches movies then talks crap. Waste of time. Edited September 9, 2013 by ThisGal 1
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