Drewx2 Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 Last spring this girl rejected me due to 'trust issues,' but still wanted to be friends. Now I'm thinking that was partially BS because she had a bf a month later. (they just broke up). I think she felt rejected because I failed to make any moves. I never told her she was pretty, I had her in the bed, under the covers & I was too nervous to try anything, she always talked about working out & I never invited her to run with me. I think it's likely that she thought I was hanging out with her just to be nice. It's very possible that she was never attracted to me...but I feel like I can never know after the way I acted..well, failed to act. I did make it clear that I wanted to pursue a relationship with her but it was after the fact...probably when she was feeling rejected. Can I send her this message or is it a little too dramatic? "You're the most beautiful woman I've ever seen. You have an incredible smile, gorgeous eyes and an awesome personality. I should of told you this a long time ago and I've been kicking myself for a while now. Honestly, i'm not interested in continuing our friendship. It might be different if I could be sure that you were never really attracted to me, but my gut tells me you were. Talking to you just reminds me of everything I failed to do when I had the chance. I hope you understand." Some days my gut tells me that it's a good idea. Some days my gut tells me it's a bad idea. I don't know what to do. I'm not expecting a relationship with her. I just really want to make sure she knows how I feel about her.
heartshaped Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 I think it's a bad idea. If she had feelings for you, she obviously doesn't now. I'd move on.
twinkie0 Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 Don't send that! It's terrible. First off, there's a very suble difference between giving a series of compliments and just being a major kiss-ass, and you're coming off as the latter with that. Second and most important: confessing like this should be done in person. You know that famous line "girls love confidence"? Well, it's true. And your text is like the exact opposite. Have the guts to tell her all this in person, bro. Third. I just read the whole post. I must confess I skipped right to the text but then read the rest to get context. You should consider that she just might not be into you at all, at least that seems to be the case because of the boyfriend after a month thing. Sorry, dude, I know it sucks :/ I had her in the bed, under the covers Out of mere curiosity, how did you get to be in this particular scenario?
Dallers Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 You cannot reject someone in bed and then divulge your deepest inner thoughts to someone like that. Personally the soppy messages are a total no go for me and make me want to run for the hills but especially in your position it is a total disaster waiting to happen. Her reply will be along the lines of: " ummm, errrrr....ok well thanks, I guess. hope you are well. Take Care. x " When you have a girl in your room, in your bed, under the covers....it is pretty much a done deal and certainly not a moment to allow the bungee jump freeze thing to happen. You missed your chance on this occasion, ah well learn from it for next time. 1
Author Drewx2 Posted September 8, 2013 Author Posted September 8, 2013 Out of mere curiosity, how did you get to be in this particular scenario? I'm now starting to see how terrible of an idea it is. I asked her if she wanted to watch TV after we went ice skating...The only TV was in my bedroom. I got under the covers & she followed.
Dallers Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 I'm now starting to see how terrible of an idea it is. I asked her if she wanted to watch TV after we went ice skating...The only TV was in my bedroom. I got under the covers & she followed. When a girl enters your bed of her own accord. Its like giving candy to a baby. You have less than 0.1% of it happening again with her after not following through.
MrCastle Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 If you want to say that to her, do so. Girls will show both women and other men your texts. Never forget that. Never send a text other people can laugh at. When you send a text, pretend it's a post on a public forum like this...unless it's sexting and both of you are doing it so she can't try to make fun of you in front of her friends by showing them your texts. Sappy stuff is over the phone or in person. But I would advise you to not go that route. She already rejected you and said she wasn't ready for a relationship, then got together with another dude. Don't do this. Ask her out and try to see where you guys stand. Having her in your bed and not pulling the trigger is inexcusable. If you can somehow get her in your bed again, you know what you need to do.
Dallers Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 Having her in your bed and not pulling the trigger is inexcusable. If you can somehow get her in your bed again, you know what you need to do. If you somehow manage this, it is also inexcusable not to return to the forum and: 1: Confirm how you did it. 2: Gives in depth details of said happening. 1
twinkie0 Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 Oh. Sure explains a lot lol but it's still a rather good sign. Like the others said: in a situation like that, you know what to do. Movies under the covers ftw haha "like" my serious post from before if it helped. good luck
StanMusial Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 If you want to say that to her, do so. Girls will show both women and other men your texts. Never forget that. Never send a text other people can laugh at. When you send a text, pretend it's a post on a public forum like this...unless it's sexting and both of you are doing it so she can't try to make fun of you in front of her friends by showing them your texts. Sappy stuff is over the phone or in person. But I would advise you to not go that route. She already rejected you and said she wasn't ready for a relationship, then got together with another dude. Don't do this. Ask her out and try to see where you guys stand. Having her in your bed and not pulling the trigger is inexcusable. If you can somehow get her in your bed again, you know what you need to do. Agreed. I don't know why you'd text something like that. Something like that is between you and her. If you send a text it's between you, her, whoever she shows it to, whoever sees her phone or your phone, the phone company, the NSA, etc.
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