highsierra Posted November 18, 2004 Posted November 18, 2004 Allright, I met one of the most attractive (in all respects) women a few weeks ago. We've shot long emails back and forth, talked on the phone for several hours, and have gone out on one pretty casual date. I think we've got more in common than I do with most my friends Now everyone plays games (it's just part of how it works), but that same night she emails me telling me that shes got a new niece... I think allright, this is good, she must see some kind of connection to drop me an email about this right?? especially on the same day as the so called "first date", So I, trying to play it cool wait a day (it took alot, but I bucked the rule of waiting at least two days after a first date to call back), and then called her up to congratulate her, say thanks for the previous date yada yada, and tell her I'd like to talke her out to a movie and dinner.......but being that she's still in college, it's crunch time right now, so she tell me she doesn't know when she'll be free, but should be able to take a night off... Totaly understadable, so I send the ball back to her side of the court (might be game play mistake) and tell her to give me a call about going out again. So that was almost 5 or so days ago.....I don't want to come off as desperate (because we know that's a killer), but you think i should shoot her an email and see how things are or call (even though call-back ball is in her court)? Someone stare on this with clear head and tell me what you think!
zara Posted November 18, 2004 Posted November 18, 2004 okay, i don't think you need to get anxious. You said that she is in college and that it's a busy period right now, so bear in mind that she probably is sweating away over a stack of books in the library and is probably using the thought of seeing you again as motivation to get on with her studies! Time runs away with you when you are studying and i'm sure that she would appreciate it if you called her up to ask how her studies are going and say that when she wants a break you'd be glad to treat her to the movies or something. If you take an interest in the fact that she studies and show appreciation for her busy life she will be soooo impressed!
Author highsierra Posted November 18, 2004 Author Posted November 18, 2004 no doubt anxiety is a bitch....It clouds clear thinking...... and since it's still early, every move is important! Thanks for the advice.... I'm just on the fence as to call or email.... It's kinda funny how much thought us men (well some of us) put into some of the most simple things (I bet alot of women don't even realize!)..
alphamale Posted November 18, 2004 Posted November 18, 2004 You're in the dreaded FRIENDS ZONE man. Move on to someone who finds you romantically attractive. Next time don't send long emails back and forth and talk for hours on the phone with some woman you met 3 weeks ago. This is exactly what women do with their girlfriends.
bluechocolate Posted November 18, 2004 Posted November 18, 2004 Originally posted by highsierra I'm just on the fence as to call or email.... I don't think you should ever ask someone out on a date via email, especially someone you're still getting to know - call her.
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