SkyWheel Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 I should probably just delete him from Facebook. I know, bad that I haven't yet. I thought I was doing fine for a while without it gone. I've strongly suspected he has depression and has been isolating. He never posts anything on Facebook at all anyway (a fact he pointed out to me when I mentioned that I might have to hide him for a while, during our final conversation). Today I discovered--not exactly meaning to, just looking at old photos--that he'd untagged himself from the couple of photos of us kissing. He's not listed as in a new relationship. Someone please remind me he's a coward, that he never brought up issues he should've, that he's escaping dealing with real life by shutting me out and continuing his stupid graduate degree, instead of actually trying to deal with sh*t.
Jenny1234 Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 You're reading into things. I have the same problem. I take the smallest thing and run wild with it in my head. You deserve better
Author SkyWheel Posted September 8, 2013 Author Posted September 8, 2013 You lost me @ "stupid graduate degree". This is a graduate degree that he originally said he would never do. It's a year-long program at the same school he did his undergraduate (in the same program) at. He's said repeatedly that he hates it, but refuses to leave it because he tells himself he won't find a job without it. Meanwhile, he's complaining that all his friends are gone, that life sucks in general and it won't get any better.
Balzac Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 Most graduate students gripe and whine. Those behaviors do not invalidate the value of a graduate degree. 1
carhill Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 Just shut down social media and other means of contact/interaction with him. Evidence of your past relationship will be around forever. *You* choose how you process that reality. I've been on the internet practically since its commercial inception and don't even have a Facebook account. Life goes on, trust me. 2
Author SkyWheel Posted September 8, 2013 Author Posted September 8, 2013 (edited) Most graduate students gripe and whine. Those behaviors do not invalidate the value of a graduate degree. He's been like this for a long time--he was this way in undergrad. He's also told me consistently how he's a failure and he won't be able to find a job. When we were still together, I spent a huge amount of time trying to convince him that life would be ok and that he was a great person. I should add that we broke up because he "wasn't happy," and "needed time to sort himself out," although he said he still loved me. I gave him over two months of space, then we talked (with prodding from me), and he looked miserable throughout the duration of the Skype call. Edited September 8, 2013 by SkyWheel
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