ixlives Posted November 20, 2004 Posted November 20, 2004 They are sexy, but how many guys agree, when they see a girl with one on the small of there back, first thing that comes to mind is "tramp", maybe I just stereo type, but most girls I've meet with one there have been like that. My ex had one on the small of her back and one right above her crotch area, very sexy, but she lived up to the stereo type and couldnt keep her pants on.
Merin Posted November 20, 2004 Posted November 20, 2004 Originally posted by ixlives They are sexy, but how many guys agree, when they see a girl with one on the small of there back, first thing that comes to mind is "tramp", maybe I just stereo type, but most girls I've meet with one there have been like that. My ex had one on the small of her back and one right above her crotch area, very sexy, but she lived up to the stereo type and couldnt keep her pants on. YES, I would say YOU DO stero type I have mine on the small of my back, and I'm not a tramp. Sheesh
ixlives Posted November 20, 2004 Posted November 20, 2004 Believe me I'm not saying I'm right, just curiuos to see if other guys feel that also.
Kelebek Posted November 22, 2004 Posted November 22, 2004 I agree with Merin, I have a tattoo there and I am NOT a tramp. I have a design called "Strength and Love" (half a design that existed already and half modified by me) that I got shortly after I got my heart broken for the first time, a couple of months after actually. I started to feel more hopeful and determined to be happy again, and I got my tattoo to always remind me that I'm strong and that I can get through being hurt. Whenever I'm upset at something concerning matters of the heart, I think of my tattoo and it strengthens me. I know that might sound silly to some people - but I was hurt really, really badly. It's just my way of getting through things. I like it also because I can't see it all the time, so I don't get bored of it - it's almost a surprise when I see it in the mirror, lol. I would advise your girl to go for something that she has REALLY thought about, and something that means a lot to her. And also to get it somewhere that she can cover up if a situation calls for it. I'm going to be a lawyer, so there are certain limitations on what I'd get done, even if I wanted it, (e.g wrist, back of my neck, etc). Whoever said tattoos were addictive were right!!!!! I've only got the one, but who knows, I might get another. It must mean something though, it's such a personal thing and if it doesn't mean anything then it's just a bit daft. A friend of mine got a chinese symbol on her stomach, and when I asked what it meant, she said, "Oh...I dunno, like, "friend" or something..." Hmmm. What's the point of that?
250r Posted November 22, 2004 Posted November 22, 2004 Originally posted by Infusion Anywhow, please share your opinnion on tattoos, thanks! Anything less than sleeved is booooring
HokeyReligions Posted November 22, 2004 Posted November 22, 2004 Originally posted by Infusion Well, thanks for all the input! Anyways I guess I forgot to mention how she doesn't really have a reason for wanting one. Her "reason" was: "I can't think of any reason to not get one", which really doesnt tell me that she's making a good choice. Aside from that she doesnt even know what design she wants, as she's telling me that she'll choose one when she sees one she likes. Knowing her for all this time, I can see that she's the type of person who never has a plan for anything.. just like how she is 8 hours away for university right now, in a program that she just picked without thinking about at all (just to get away from her parents). And now she's regretting her decisions. I know that this may also be one of those scenarios, so I told her to think carefully about it, but I guess she's really stubborn.. But yeah, I know I am probably a shallow person every now and then, it's weird because I feel that it's difficult to accept new ideas sometimes. I haven't told her that I don't want her to get a tattoo (because I know it should be her decision), but I did tell her that I don't like them myself. Any more opinnion is appreciated=) It doesn't sound like its the tattoo that concerns you at all, but her behavior pattern. If she can take a college course for the wrong reasons, get a tattoo just because, or make other potentially life-changing decisions with no forethought, what will she do in a committed relationship - like a marriage? Is she really the right match for your priorities and goals and ultimate life-style? As for tat's themselves, I don't care for them - but to each his own. My brother looks like a bill-board! My husband thinks that women who paint their fingernails are whores. Well, he doesn't "think" that - but that is his knee-jerk emotional response. Probably because of things he was told as a child about "painted women" and "prostitution" and "whores" LOL! (I love to grow my nails out and paint them bright red --- I'm such a hussy! LOLOL!)
Fritz Posted November 22, 2004 Posted November 22, 2004 Originally posted by UCFKevin I find most of them to be VERY cliched. Like that design on the small of the back that girls get. How is THAT personal? Aren't tattoos supposed to be personal? Or just the IN thing to get? Or Japanese lettering or something. Feh. I agree. These days a lot of them are very cliche, especially the ones on the small of the back. Its like the "in thing" to get and it doesn't do much for me. I don't hate all tattoos but it seems like for a lot of people these days its the "im naughty" type of thing to get.
Onnie Posted November 22, 2004 Posted November 22, 2004 How odd, I preferably am only attracted to people with tattoos (or other body modifications). To each his own I guess. I agree with a lot of what LaShawn posted. But then you clarified a bit more. In my own opinion I would advise her against getting a tattoo anytime soon...if she wants one she should have a better reason than ‘I can't think of any reason to not get one’ (that in itself IS a reason NOT to get one). She should take the time to find something that means a lot to her, and then she should wait at least 6 months (I wait at least a year) before getting it done, if she hasn’t changed her mind, she should go for it. It sounds like she wants to get one for the sake of just having one. If she wants to go against the grain and do something ‘wild’ maybe she could get something pierced instead, like her nose or bellybutton? It’s not oh so permanent and has a little shock factor in some conservative circles. Oh and FYI more than 1/2 my body is covered in tattoos or piercings. I even have a large one that was removed. I still love them!
Scott S Posted November 30, 2004 Posted November 30, 2004 Originally posted by Merin YES, I would say YOU DO stero type I have mine on the small of my back, and I'm not a tramp. Sheesh If there is one thing anyone should learn from reading this board, it's that it is unwise to overgeneralize. There is far more to a person than what one sees in physical appearances, & it often takes months, indeed years, to discover & appreciate.
Scott S Posted November 30, 2004 Posted November 30, 2004 Originally posted by morrigan ... except getting a spouse's/signifigant other's name tattooed. That's not a good idea. There is a Norman Rockwell painting, wherein a sailor has a tatoo on his left arm, with several women's names lined out, & the tatoo artist is adding a new name.
EC Posted November 30, 2004 Posted November 30, 2004 I find most of them to be VERY cliched. Like that design on the small of the back that girls get. How is THAT personal? Aren't tattoos supposed to be personal? Or just the IN thing to get? Or Japanese lettering or something. Feh. So wait a second who was the tattoo ruler king that said tattoos had to be personal and mean something? ? I happened to just get a tattoo and I love it and yeah well guess where it is in the small of my back! I didn't do it because It was the IN thing or because I was trying to go for the "I'm naughty" look. I did it because I've always wanted a tatto and I am an artist and why not put beautiful art on me where I can see it everyday. And it has a heart and love is the center of my life and so I put a heart and tribals on my lower back. As for tattoos as you can tell I like them! I don't think anyless of people that have them. It's just ink and if it's done right can look very sexy and you are expressing yourself the way you want to. If your GF wants to get a tattoo then she should, and you shouldn't look at her any different. It's just a drawing on her skin. She can always get a small one that won't show all the time, or for your eyes only. She is still the same girl you know but with a little tat done. Whats wrong with that. I think it's cool she wants one. Its shows she has a little fun side behind the shyness and coyness and thats cool. Don't worry she's not going to turn into a hoochie becasue of one tattoo. Tattoos are addictive and I want more but I am stopping at one.
LucreziaBorgia Posted November 30, 2004 Posted November 30, 2004 I have several tattoos. All my own designs. One of them literally came to me in a dream. I dreamt that I was getting a tattoo on my back of a heart surrounded by ivy on either side. I went to work and talked to the guy whom I dreamed was putting it on me (he was a barista at the coffeeshop where I worked, and also a tattoo artist at the parlor down the street from the shop). I described the tattoo in detail and that I had seen him put it on me in the dream. He got a strange look in his eyes and told me that he had to go grab something from home. He got back in about twenty minutes with a painting he had just finished. With the exception of one minor detail his painting looked exactly like what I had dreamed he had tattooed on me. Freaky! He drew out a design on me and put it on me free of charge - he joked that destiny can't be paid for. Plus he needed some new pieces for his portfolio. Its just a drawing on your skin. Thats it. Ink under the skin. If you want it to represent some major thing or "mean something" then it does. If you don't, it doesn't - its just body art. I never understood what the big deal was outside of "well, its not the mainstream way of doing things so therefore there is something wrong with it." I find that a lot of people who are paranoid about someone else's tattoos are only paranoid and prejudiced against them because they are afraid of being seen with someone who 'doesn't fit in with everyone else'. They are afraid of what people will think of them for being seen with someone who is all tattooed up. Me? I don't give a rat's ass what people think of my tattoos. I get lots of stares at the pool from aghast soccer moms (I'm a mom in my thirties myself). I get a lot of "boy I bet you'll regret that later". I get a lot of "aren't you afraid it will look silly when you are old?" And so on. They project their own prejudices and fears onto me - which is ok. That's a normal part of being human, unfortunately. Its just skin. When I die, my skin will rot. It doesn't concern me what people think of my skin while its still wrapped around my bones. I like the designs I did and I like the idea of my designs on my skin. Its that simple. I'm not trying to prove anything, nor can there be any "meaning read into it". I like tattoos, I like getting them, and thats all there is to it. They aren't for everyone, and I would never suggest to someone that they get one or not get one based on what I think. I can only speak for myself. I dated a guy once who was very paranoid about it though. He was a 'richie' type - a southern Catholic Kappa Alpha boy from old money. Boy Scout leader, upstanding citizen, star athelete (and a racist bastard, but thats another story). He said that if we were going to have a future together that my tattoos would have to be removed, and my image changed (I was and still am way off the mainstream - my dress shoes are BlackSpot sneakers). He graciously offered to have my tattoos removed for me. I told him to go fu** himself. That simple.
EC Posted November 30, 2004 Posted November 30, 2004 have several tattoos. All my own designs. One of them literally came to me in a dream. I dreamt that I was getting a tattoo on my back of a heart surrounded by ivy on either side. I went to work and talked to the guy whom I dreamed was putting it on me (he was a barista at the coffeeshop where I worked, and also a tattoo artist at the parlor down the street from the shop). I described the tattoo in detail and that I had seen him put it on me in the dream. He got a strange look in his eyes and told me that he had to go grab something from home. He got back in about twenty minutes with a painting he had just finished. With the exception of one minor detail his painting looked exactly like what I had dreamed he had tattooed on me. Freaky! He drew out a design on me and put it on me free of charge - he joked that destiny can't be paid for. Plus he needed some new pieces for his portfolio. Its just a drawing on your skin. Thats it. Ink under the skin. If you want it to represent some major thing or "mean something" then it does. If you don't, it doesn't - its just body art. I never understood what the big deal was outside of "well, its not the mainstream way of doing things so therefore there is something wrong with it." I find that a lot of people who are paranoid about someone else's tattoos are only paranoid and prejudiced against them because they are afraid of being seen with someone who 'doesn't fit in with everyone else'. They are afraid of what people will think of them for being seen with someone who is all tattooed up. Me? I don't give a rat's ass what people think of my tattoos. I get lots of stares at the pool from aghast soccer moms (I'm a mom in my thirties myself). I get a lot of "boy I bet you'll regret that later". I get a lot of "aren't you afraid it will look silly when you are old?" And so on. They project their own prejudices and fears onto me - which is ok. That's a normal part of being human, unfortunately. Its just skin. When I die, my skin will rot. It doesn't concern me what people think of my skin while its still wrapped around my bones. I like the designs I did and I like the idea of my designs on my skin. Its that simple. I'm not trying to prove anything, nor can there be any "meaning read into it". I like tattoos, I like getting them, and thats all there is to it. They aren't for everyone, and I would never suggest to someone that they get one or not get one based on what I think. I can only speak for myself. I dated a guy once who was very paranoid about it though. He was a 'richie' type - a southern Catholic Kappa Alpha boy from old money. Boy Scout leader, upstanding citizen, star athelete (and a racist bastard, but thats another story). He said that if we were going to have a future together that my tattoos would have to be removed, and my image changed (I was and still am way off the mainstream - my dress shoes are BlackSpot sneakers). He graciously offered to have my tattoos removed for me. I told him to go fu** himself. That simple. BRAVO!!! (Clapping smiley inserted here)
Proto Posted December 1, 2004 Posted December 1, 2004 My girlfriend has two tatoos and I LOVE em I think she looks hot as hell and I like the fact that she likes to express herself like that. She also has a tongue ring too...yuuuuuum! Everyone once in a while she tries to get me to get a tatoo though and I'm not so wild about it on me just because I don't know if I'd be able to get one that is SPECIFIC for my skin. And no, I didn't ask her to get the tatoos she has, she got them on her own.
greenlove Posted December 1, 2004 Posted December 1, 2004 I have a tattoo on my abdomen of an iguana that kind of peaks out when I wear low cut jeans and I love it. I got it as a rebellious thing at 16 and I don’t regret it. Like LucreziaBorgia said “I give a rat’s ass what people think”
Anais Posted December 1, 2004 Posted December 1, 2004 Originally posted by dyermaker To clarify, I don't think it's immoral, I just don't like them aesthetically. me too! Sorry guys but I really don't like tattoos. And if my partner or daughter was to get one I would be upset. Know hubby doesn't like it too.
dnm1010 Posted December 1, 2004 Posted December 1, 2004 i hate tatoos.. i have never seen a tasteful one.. if people are artistic and want to express themselves... i say paint a paitnig or draw a drawing...
Kyppi Posted December 2, 2004 Posted December 2, 2004 I have three tattooes. I can't say I honestly what people think of them. One is of a dragon, one is of a leopard, and one IS Kanji (Japanese), but I got it after earning my black belt in JuJutsu, so I feel perfectly justified in having it. It's your girlfriend's body. It's no different than you choosing how you cut your hair, because it's YOUR body.
dnm1010 Posted December 3, 2004 Posted December 3, 2004 i think the only thing you can control is your own body (to a point)... you cannot control what epople will think of you if you have a tatoo... if you get a tatoo and youre upset that people judge you by it (if they do) then all i can say is you should have thought of that before you got it... if you know some ppl might judge you cos of your tatoo and you still chose to get it.. dont be shocked if people judge you by it. i dont judge people by their tatoos... i am against them but i know the only person i have control over is myself and since im against tatoos i will not get one... also when i have children i do not want them to get tatoos. i have a lot of reasons why not and even though i cant make my friends not get tatoos i can try to prevent my children from having it. one choice i have to make is about my partner... if i tell my children (when i have them) not to get tatoos, but their father has 30 of them... it wont work... my fiance does not have tatoos and im happy about it and if he would get a tatoo i would be angry because of the kids reason.
greenlove Posted December 3, 2004 Posted December 3, 2004 Originally posted by dnm1010 i think the only thing you can control is your own body (to a point)... you cannot control what epople will think of you if you have a tatoo... if you get a tatoo and youre upset that people judge you by it (if they do) then all i can say is you should have thought of that before you got it... if you know some ppl might judge you cos of your tatoo and you still chose to get it.. dont be shocked if people judge you by it. i dont judge people by their tatoos... i am against them but i know the only person i have control over is myself and since im against tatoos i will not get one... also when i have children i do not want them to get tatoos. i have a lot of reasons why not and even though i cant make my friends not get tatoos i can try to prevent my children from having it. one choice i have to make is about my partner... if i tell my children (when i have them) not to get tatoos, but their father has 30 of them... it wont work... my fiance does not have tatoos and im happy about it and if he would get a tatoo i would be angry because of the kids reason. You say your not being judgmental but this just SCREAMS to me the opposite. This may be surprising to you but judgment is forming a critical opinion and you quote are “against” tattoos for whatever reason that maybe. I have no problem with you being this way (I could care less) but I don’t understand how you can claim to be non judgmental. You said, “for anyone who has a tattoo and is judged for it you should have thought of that before”. No, I don’t agree. I think no one should pass judged on other for any reason. Like the bible says “ don’t judge others, unless thy be judged.” People should learn to keep their opinions to themselves and let God do the judging on others. If the person were a family member then I would understand your reluctances to this, but all you could do is try to prevent it. For me its like I don’t really agree with people performing surgical procedures to improve their own appearance, but I won’t hold it against them.
dnm1010 Posted December 3, 2004 Posted December 3, 2004 i am openly against tatoos FOR ME... and if someone asks me my opinion i will tell them i do not like tatoos and do not agree withthem... but i will not say they are a bad person and i will not avoid them or be embaraced by being seen with them... to me that is not judging.. i do not think someone is bad because of the tatoo... i am confortable with other people having them.. i just dont agree with them... if i were to judge i would assume something about someone because of a tatoo.... instead i think something of the tatoo, not of the person. if my friend got one, and plenty of them have, i would not stop associating with them nor would i think suddenly satan took over their life of anything dumb like that. if that screams judgement to you then that is your insecurity and not my problem.
dnm1010 Posted December 3, 2004 Posted December 3, 2004 and btw.. you cannot control the world.. you need to accept you will be judged by people not just god... no matter what you do or where you go its life and you can live in a dilusion that youre not judged or you can accept reality.. i wish no one judged and that we all had a million dollars we could pick off a tree in our backyard.. woop-di-do i hate to break it to you it aint happening.
dnm1010 Posted December 3, 2004 Posted December 3, 2004 OH and if youre going to quote God and say we shouldnt judge one another, dont be a hypocrit and say tatoos are ok.... TECHNICALLLY we shouldnt get tatoos either as it is also mentioned in the bible. so before you go educating people and JUDgING ppl, get your facts straight.
greenlove Posted December 3, 2004 Posted December 3, 2004 Originally posted by dnm1010 i am openly against tatoos FOR ME... and if someone asks me my opinion i will tell them i do not like tatoos and do not agree withthem... but i will not say they are a bad person and i will not avoid them or be embaraced by being seen with them... to me that is not judging.. i do not think someone is bad because of the tatoo... i am confortable with other people having them.. i just dont agree with them... if i were to judge i would assume something about someone because of a tatoo.... instead i think something of the tatoo, not of the person. if my friend got one, and plenty of them have, i would not stop associating with them nor would i think suddenly satan took over their life of anything dumb like that. if that screams judgement to you then that is your insecurity and not my problem. Okay so maybe I misunderstood when you said you were against it. Now you don't agree with them, fine. I still don't agree with you that it is my problem if some people choose to criticize me for it. I think it’s their problem. I said before like LucreziaBorgia said “I could give a rat's ass what people think.” Originally posted by dnm1010 and btw.. you cannot control the world.. you need to accept you will be judged by people not just god... no matter what you do or where you go its life and you can live in a dilusion that youre not judged or you can accept reality.. i wish no one judged and that we all had a million dollars we could pick off a tree in our backyard.. woop-di-do i hate to break it to you it aint happening. I know we don't live in a perfect world and others are judging us on a daily basses. I still don't think it right and people should choose not too. Others should starting looking at the pages of the book and not the cover. Originally posted by dnm1010 OH and if youre going to quote God and say we shouldnt judge one another, dont be a hypocrit and say tatoos are ok.... TECHNICALLLY we shouldnt get tatoos either as it is also mentioned in the bible. so before you go educating people and JUDgING ppl, get your facts straight. I never ever said tattoos were ok. That for me represents another part of my life and I’m happy with it, I accept it. And yes I know that tattoos are mentioned in the bible, but again that for him to judge not you.
savethedrama4allama Posted December 3, 2004 Posted December 3, 2004 I think that tattoos are personal business and I would never tell my sig. other to refrain from them. Mine has them, I think they are sexy on him. To me its a dimension of his personal expression and a part of him that I love like many other things. If he didn't have them, he'd still be sexy.
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