Infusion Posted November 18, 2004 Posted November 18, 2004 Sometimes I feel like I am the only person in the world who hates tattoos, and recently my girlfriend told me she wanted to get one. When I see it in magazines, in real life, or in movies i feel indifferent, as if they were just fake, temporary tatoos. (and probably also because of the fact that I won't ever know those people or care about them) But when my girlfriend suggested it, I really wasn't happy with that idea. I am not saying that it would do anything to our relationship, but i guess it's more of a personal preference that i have. I believe it's because when i first met her I knew that she was this very conservative girl who even avoided dressing up in revealing clothes. We have been going out for two years and I think that her wanting a tattoo gives me a totally different image of her in my mind. Somehow my brain tells me that the two don't go together. In a way I think it no longer gives me the image of her being that girl i once knew, who was conservative, shy, and pure. However, these are just possible reasons, as I am not even sure of it myself. I don't think i'll mind that tattoo after a while, but to me it's sort of like a huge shock, as if i don't even know the real her. Anywhow, please share your opinnion on tattoos, thanks!
Missy1171 Posted November 18, 2004 Posted November 18, 2004 I like them tastefully done. I have a 2 inch one, very concealed.
rez100 Posted November 18, 2004 Posted November 18, 2004 Where does she want it placed? If it was somewhere it didnt show, would you still think of her as less conservative? Im actually thinking of getting one on my leg, but im having some doubts...and I know if Im having even a tiny doubt...im not doing it. My last gf had 3 of em and it didnt bug me.
Barby Posted November 18, 2004 Posted November 18, 2004 I can't see why it would change your image of her..how shallow...sorry but I think if you've been with her that long you should support her decision. It's not like she said "hey I'm going to become a stripper" or something like that!
Naive Posted November 18, 2004 Posted November 18, 2004 Tattoos are not that bad. If you get something nice of course. There are people who put characters or something similar, this does not always look so.........nice. However if it's somethink like Missy said, tastefully done then it can even be sexy!!!
dyermaker Posted November 18, 2004 Posted November 18, 2004 I was going to say "If it's small, and out of place..." but I realized that it's not because that's attractive as much as it minimizes the chance of actually seeing it. They just don't toast my muffin.
UCFKevin Posted November 18, 2004 Posted November 18, 2004 I find most of them to be VERY cliched. Like that design on the small of the back that girls get. How is THAT personal? Aren't tattoos supposed to be personal? Or just the IN thing to get? Or Japanese lettering or something. Feh.
bluechocolate Posted November 18, 2004 Posted November 18, 2004 It's just some ink that will be injected into her skin. It doesn't change her morals or affect her "purity" in any way. She'll be the same person when she comes out of the tattoo parlour as the one who went in.
zara Posted November 18, 2004 Posted November 18, 2004 A tattoo should not be chosen in haste. I have two, a lot of thought and design went into both. They are unique and personal and say alot about me and my life. They are not a fashion accessory, nor should they be. Point all of these things out to her and plead with her to think this over carefully because this is something she will have for the rest of her life, on all occassions, whatever she's wearing, wherever she's going to be. Having a tattoo doesn't make you a bad person, but it can prove you a shallow person, or naive person if it's not something given due thought.
Withnail Posted November 18, 2004 Posted November 18, 2004 Im the same as you Infusion, I dont like it.
IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted November 18, 2004 Posted November 18, 2004 I have 5. One in memory of my father. I'm also a professional. Do you think my boss would not have hired me of he know i had 5. I don't think so. Tattoos don't make a person. Its just a little something to tell the pussies from the hard asses! LOL J/K But if it meant something, why not. I don't regret any of mine. All can be covered and there very petite and sexy. I have an elongated tribal right about the pubic area....guys love that!!
tattoomytoe Posted November 18, 2004 Posted November 18, 2004 <--------- I love mine! I have seen some really ugly and bizzaro tattoo's though....but people do funky stuff to their fake nails too. I have 4, and i am still debating what and where the next will be.
blind_otter Posted November 18, 2004 Posted November 18, 2004 I have four tattoos, two fairly large pieces and two smaller ones, along a column on my spine. All of my pieces were either designed by me or they were carefully selected and altered illustrations by friends who were better at graphic design than I am. I always say, tattoo as graffiti for the soul. I don't really see how her wanting a tattoo makes her "unpure" or something. I think it's personal preference, and as with anything it's unfair to impose your worldview on your girlfriend because you don't own her and she should be allowed to make her own decisions about her body. But you have a right to dislike it.
MelodyJ Posted November 18, 2004 Posted November 18, 2004 I have one small one that only shows when I want it to. It is kind of sexy and I love it. It's not anything deep or really unique, just a rose climbing a vine, but I got it with my now ex-hubbie as a sort of bonding thing when we were trying to work on saving our marriage. That didn't work out, and I'm sure he has his regrets now because of the memories, but I don't think of it like that. I'm actually thinking about getting another one. My daughter does freelance designs, and I am going to have her design one for me.
Merin Posted November 18, 2004 Posted November 18, 2004 I have a tattoo and I have never regretted getting it done..
bluechocolate Posted November 18, 2004 Posted November 18, 2004 I'll 'fess up to then - I have a tattoo, fairly large one, designed myself, silly story, I've had it over 10 years & you can't see it if I wear long sleeves. I really like it & always will but am glad I stopped at one - even though I had two more planned (they are addictive!)
Pocky Posted November 18, 2004 Posted November 18, 2004 And I am also a member of the "Tattoo Fan Club". Half my back is tattooed which was done about ten-twelve years ago. I can't remember exactly what age I was
LaShawn Posted November 18, 2004 Posted November 18, 2004 Back to the original question. I think you have every right to NOT like them. I think you have every right to not want her to get one. However, in the end it is her decision and I think after voicing your concern, if she still wants to get one support her. You guys have been together too long to let this kind of thing get in the way. In the course of relationships there are much bigger fish to fry. But, yes you are justified in not liking it......just let her know how you feel and then let it go. If she does happen to get one anyway, do not make a grudge out of it. BTW, personal opinion is I like ones that actual mean something to the person...even if it is Mickey Mouse....Hey Mickey is important to some people Best of luck.
Huntr777 Posted November 18, 2004 Posted November 18, 2004 I personally love tattoos, and even think they're very much on the sexy side...just as long as they're tastefully done. I personally don't care where they are...just as long as they're nice looking. Either way I wouldn't let it sway you. Sounds to me like you're a bit on the conservative side...let your wild side loose now and then, you find you may even like it! *wink* Hunter
dyermaker Posted November 19, 2004 Posted November 19, 2004 Originally posted by bluechocolate It's just some ink that will be injected into her skin. It doesn't change her morals or affect her "purity" in any way. She'll be the same person when she comes out of the tattoo parlour as the one who went in. To clarify, I don't think it's immoral, I just don't like them aesthetically.
Author Infusion Posted November 19, 2004 Author Posted November 19, 2004 Well, thanks for all the input! Anyways I guess I forgot to mention how she doesn't really have a reason for wanting one. Her "reason" was: "I can't think of any reason to not get one", which really doesnt tell me that she's making a good choice. Aside from that she doesnt even know what design she wants, as she's telling me that she'll choose one when she sees one she likes. Knowing her for all this time, I can see that she's the type of person who never has a plan for anything.. just like how she is 8 hours away for university right now, in a program that she just picked without thinking about at all (just to get away from her parents). And now she's regretting her decisions. I know that this may also be one of those scenarios, so I told her to think carefully about it, but I guess she's really stubborn.. But yeah, I know I am probably a shallow person every now and then, it's weird because I feel that it's difficult to accept new ideas sometimes. I haven't told her that I don't want her to get a tattoo (because I know it should be her decision), but I did tell her that I don't like them myself. Any more opinnion is appreciated=)
morrigan Posted November 19, 2004 Posted November 19, 2004 She should put a lot of thought into what she wants and where she wants it before she even walks into the tattoo parlor door. Tattoo removal is not cheap or easy, even with laser removal. Basically, she should get something she won't mind being on her when she's 76. If she goes ahead and gets one and you don't like it, keep quiet about it. There's not much else you can do. I have absolutely no problems with tattoos, except getting a spouse's/signifigant other's name tattooed. That's not a good idea.
tattoomytoe Posted November 19, 2004 Posted November 19, 2004 Originally posted by Infusion Well, thanks for all the input! Anyways I guess I forgot to mention how she doesn't really have a reason for wanting one. Her "reason" was: "I can't think of any reason to not get one", which really doesnt tell me that she's making a good choice. Aside from that she doesnt even know what design she wants, as she's telling me that she'll choose one when she sees one she likes. Knowing her for all this time, I can see that she's the type of person who never has a plan for anything.. just like how she is 8 hours away for university right now, in a program that she just picked without thinking about at all (just to get away from her parents). And now she's regretting her decisions. I know that this may also be one of those scenarios, so I told her to think carefully about it, but I guess she's really stubborn.. But yeah, I know I am probably a shallow person every now and then, it's weird because I feel that it's difficult to accept new ideas sometimes. I haven't told her that I don't want her to get a tattoo (because I know it should be her decision), but I did tell her that I don't like them myself. Any more opinnion is appreciated=) Maybe she is rebelling from YOU! jees- could you be a little more controlling and critical of HER life? she is supposed to be your friend not your project. I also do things my bf hates when i feel a little too suffocated, like i started smoking again. and i did it one cause i did not see a good reason not to start back.....i only quit cause he gave me ****. and he was pissed...so i got the reaction i wanted, and i smoke again. Try giving her a little more chance to make her own mistakes. It is one thing to tell her what you think once and let her choose with that information, and another when you constantly tell her what you think is the only right and if she does otherwise she is foolish. Part of growing up is accepting the consequences of your actions, and acknowledging that responsibilty. i caution you on "helping" with big decisions, as it is easy to forfeit all responsibility for actions you were coerced into taking. does this makes sense?
tiki Posted November 19, 2004 Posted November 19, 2004 I like some tattooes. Especially mine. I have three. They are all very hidden and discrete. And I was into tattooing (and piercing) before it was a fad.
Scott S Posted November 19, 2004 Posted November 19, 2004 If they're tasterful, I don't mind. Actually, some of the ones I've seen are kind of cute. Shortly after my wife & I started dating, we went to a water-slide park one warm summer day. This was the first time I had seen her in a bathing suit. Anyway, during the course of the day, the leg opening hiked up a little, & I saw a very small tatoo of a butterfly on her hip. Well, I thought. Never imagined she would have one of those. But I didn't say anything. A few weeks later we were sitting & talking, & she sheepishly began to tell me about "something dumb" that she did when she was younger. Not certain of was she was referring to, & imagining something horrible, I listened to her. She then told me about getting her tattoo, & how she wished she hadn't. What happened next was priceless. I then told her "Yes, I know you do." Her eyes widened, & I continued, telling her I had noticed it at the water-slide park. She was dumbfounded, but then also visibly relieved, her "awful little secret" not so awful after all. She had wondered about what all was involved in removing it. Telling her about the medical procedures, & that some were rather unpleasant, I also told her to please not feel obligated to have it removed simply on my account. She rarely thinks about it now.
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