Should I reply?

[LMA30]

Hi my first post here so please be patient with me. I asked this guy out over Facebook (I know, bad idea but just too shy to do it face to face). He replied the other day with "eh? Are you winding me up?". I haven't replied to this because I don't know what to say and don't really want to as he would've said yes when I asked him. Our relationship is usually jokey and we wind each other up a lot but I wouldn't ask him something like that if I wasn't serious. Some of my friends say I shouldn't reply while the others think I should. Seriously driving me crazy. Any thoughts please

[Dallers]

Ok for a start nothing wrong with being asked out via Facebook my last girlfriend I pulled via Facebook, means nothing.

 

Secondly a guy saying this in relation to the fact that you normally have a jokey relationship is going to have sent that reply that very reason. He might actually like you but think you are messing around and because you have gone quiet you have made it even worse in that instance and should have just come clean and told him the truth. Your friends telling you not to reply are saying this because they are clearly on top of their game and do not ask the man out first and the ones telling you to go talk to him are friends who understand that it works both ways and know what they are talking about.

 

If you do not go message him now your chance to date him is over.

 

Firstly you need a good excuse as to why you did not reply and being honest is the best way around it, act cool and do not apologise and tell him in a serious confident way that you do like him and you not joking and if he wanted to get a coffee sometime you would really enjoy that. No more jokes.

[gaius]

Might as well finish what you've started. Tell him you were serious. Though for future reference don't ask a guy out unless you're willing to wear the pants the entire relationship.