Orije Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 The other day was my birthday and me and my girlfriend went out to eat and have a great time as we did. While driving home she was beginning to fall asleep and as she did i nudged her boob and she woke up and I have joked around about it with her there. Then she went back to falling asleep so i waited a little bit and went on again to see if she would wake up so i was rubbing her boobs for a few seconds to see if she might wake up and she didn't so i poked her face. The third time i did it i went to see if she would wake up, but she didnt and instead of stopping I went on to keep rubbing her boob because it felt nice and i stopped a few minutes later. She asked about it later in the day and i told her i did rub her boob to wake her up and that was all i can say because she was busy doing school work. She is 17 and im 18. So today comes around and she was asking me about touching her boob and i confirmed that i did to wake her up. She went on saying I didn't just do it to wake her up and I told her at first I meant to do it to wake her up, but as i did i kept rubbing her because it felt nice. She instantly accused me of lying to her and I told her im being honest like i told her i did touch her boob to wake her up and cause it felt nice, but i kept getting the same crap that why did i lie about it and not say it earlier? I called her to tell her that i was being honest and i wouldnt lie to her or hide anything and i asked for her forgiveness cause i felt sorry. Later in the night she asks me about something and i respond, but i went back and said the same thing but i changed my words up to show what i meant, but instantly i want accussed of lying so i got mad and asked and by then she was asleep. I was thinking its best to tlak to her about it and for her to know i would never lie to her but i dont want drama starting up or an arguement. So what should i do and is it best for me to try and talk about it with her? Thanks
drallafi Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 God young women are unnecessarily difficult. If you're better-looking than her, then dump her. lol I kid, I kid. Anyway, she's making a mountain out of a mole-hill. Maybe that's just the kind of chick she is, or maybe it bothered her for some other reason. Hard to say, but at any rate you've been honest about it so it's hard to understand why she's still pissed. Probably one of those things that's just gonna have to run it's course.
Author Orije Posted September 8, 2013 Author Posted September 8, 2013 Do you think its best that i tell her i would never lie to her cause what reason is there to do that and im totally honest. Or just wait until a situation like this occurs again?
AlexanderJames Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 Just talk it out. Try to avoid using words like but or never because it puts exaggeration and uncertainty to your words. Maybe just level with her. If I was in your shoes I would say something like this. "I want to apologize for what happened after dinner the other night. I thought a lot about it and I understand why you would have got upset with me. The idea of someone touching you while you sleep is very confronting and I realize how uncomfortable it might have made you feel. I want you to know that I would never do anything to take advantage of you. I should have thought about it more in the moment about how you would see it not just what I thought of it. I'm really attracted to you and I find you unbelievably beautiful and after I touched your boob it felt really nice. Not just your boob but the thought that I'm lucky enough to have you hear with me and that I can touch you in ways so many people wish they where lucky enough to was really pleasant so I enjoyed it. I didn't mean to keep the whole story from you because I didn't think about you seeing it as inappropriate. I thought you would see it how I saw it. Which was wrong of me. So I am sorry." It's a mouthful. But it gets in her shoes because I imagine even though she picked at you lying she's probably feeling a bit violated. Because you played with her breast without her knowing or saying you could.
KCCK Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 Bring her out for a nice dinner.. talk sweetly to her..share your thoughts with each other and show her you really care for her... =)
drallafi Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 Do you think its best that i tell her i would never lie to her cause what reason is there to do that and im totally honest. Or just wait until a situation like this occurs again? Young me would buy her flowers and apologize. Assuage her feelings as much as possible to try to make her feel secure. Old me would re-iterate that I didn't lie in the first place, and that we're done talking about it, and if she doesn't like it then we don't have to waste each other's time anymore.
Author Orije Posted September 8, 2013 Author Posted September 8, 2013 To be honest what i was thinkng of doing is that she is really busy doing school work due to all of her classes and she tries to make time for me, but usually slacks off to talk with friends which I don't mind, but none of her work gets done. Do you think i should go by her house and drop off a dozen roses but have at least 1 fake rose in it and have a paper that says "We have been through alot and you mean the world to me, I will never lie to you and will always be honest. I will stay with you until the last rose dies (which is the fake one and won't die). " i was going to leave it on her backdoor step or should i give it to her in person?
AlexanderJames Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 I did the exact same thing to a girl haha naww such a mushy pea haha. That's a good idea. It's up to you though you know her better than us. Don't drop them off without giving them to her in person. But again if I was in your shoes the incident obviously bothered her. Which means she took it to heart. That said I would take the time to interrupt her study to say what you need to. Not because you're trying to distract her. But because she is important to you and you don want her being upset with you. So give her the roses. And tell her not to read the card until you have gone. Then ask if she had 2 minutes for you to apologize. Then let her get back to studying. Guarantee she will read the card and forget the whole thing. As long as she sees that you put yourself in her shoes and realized what you did. Cause that's all she wants. Then you'll probably get a txt saying "<3" or something. but let her study. Just send her something short and sweet back if she texts you and then leave her to study. She will have such a tough time concentrating on books with the butterflies in her heart and the smell of the roses
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