Orije Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 The other day was my birthday and me and my girlfriend went out to eat and have a great time as we did. While driving home she was beginning to fall asleep and as she did i nudged her boob and she woke up and I have joked around about it with her there. Then she went back to falling asleep so i waited a little bit and went on again to see if she would wake up so i was rubbing her boobs for a few seconds to see if she might wake up and she didn't so i poked her face. The third time i did it i went to see if she would wake up, but she didnt and instead of stopping I went on to keep rubbing her boob because it felt nice and i stopped a few minutes later. She asked about it later in the day and i told her i did rub her boob to wake her up and that was all i can say because she was busy doing school work. She is 17 and im 18. So today comes around and she was asking me about touching her boob and i confirmed that i did to wake her up. She went on saying I didn't just do it to wake her up and I told her at first I meant to do it to wake her up, but as i did i kept rubbing her because it felt nice. She instantly accused me of lying to her and I told her im being honest like i told her i did touch her boob to wake her up and cause it felt nice, but i kept getting the same crap that why did i lie about it and not say it earlier? I called her to tell her that i was being honest and i wouldnt lie to her or hide anything and i asked for her forgiveness cause i felt sorry. Later in the night she asks me about something and i respond, but i went back and said the same thing but i changed my words up to show what i meant, but instantly i want accussed of lying so i got mad and asked and by then she was asleep. I was thinking its best to tlak to her about it and for her to know i would never lie to her but i dont want drama starting up or an arguement. So what should i do and is it best for me to try and talk about it with her? Thanks
ExpatInItaly Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 The other day was my birthday and me and my girlfriend went out to eat and have a great time as we did. While driving home she was beginning to fall asleep and as she did i nudged her boob and she woke up and I have joked around about it with her there. Then she went back to falling asleep so i waited a little bit and went on again to see if she would wake up so i was rubbing her boobs for a few seconds to see if she might wake up and she didn't so i poked her face. The third time i did it i went to see if she would wake up, but she didnt and instead of stopping I went on to keep rubbing her boob because it felt nice and i stopped a few minutes later. She asked about it later in the day and i told her i did rub her boob to wake her up and that was all i can say because she was busy doing school work. She is 17 and im 18. So today comes around and she was asking me about touching her boob and i confirmed that i did to wake her up. She went on saying I didn't just do it to wake her up and I told her at first I meant to do it to wake her up, but as i did i kept rubbing her because it felt nice. She instantly accused me of lying to her and I told her im being honest like i told her i did touch her boob to wake her up and cause it felt nice, but i kept getting the same crap that why did i lie about it and not say it earlier? I called her to tell her that i was being honest and i wouldnt lie to her or hide anything and i asked for her forgiveness cause i felt sorry. Later in the night she asks me about something and i respond, but i went back and said the same thing but i changed my words up to show what i meant, but instantly i want accussed of lying so i got mad and asked and by then she was asleep. I was thinking its best to tlak to her about it and for her to know i would never lie to her but i dont want drama starting up or an arguement. So what should i do and is it best for me to try and talk about it with her? Thanks ....come again? She's either projecting or she's got some deep issues. If she doesn't like you touching her that way when she's sleeping (and that is understandable, by the way) she should just tell you that. Maybe she's been touched inappropriately by someone in the past and it triggered something in her. If so, she needs to open a bit and let you know so that you know not to do it agian. If that's not the case, I'd say she's looking for a reason to be pissed off at you. And this is a very random way to do so. Don't apologize any more; you've already done that. This is a big waving red flag. Address it now. 1
darkmoon Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 (edited) huge red flags appear when somebody gets annoyed, and likes to emote to put the annoyance on display, me me me, a simple calm sentence or two would be better, lies/no lies, so I see red flags, too much of this is bullying I bet female family members would tell you the same, the ones in happy relationships that is xx you do not want to marry her, please, just no way Edited September 8, 2013 by darkmoon
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