Spinosaurus Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 I have a rather unusual situation. I am not sure whether I am asking for advice or just posting a story or looking for confirmation, you can be the judge of that. A year or maybe a little longer ago my wife saw the next door neighbors doing the deed from our upstairs window. She called me and showed and I watched too and admittedly I liked it. It happened again a month later, this time they were outside in their backyard. She spotted them and called me and we watched. I found out 4 or 5 months ago that she is actually watching them on a regular basis. I found a sex toy in the drawer near the window and asked her and she admitted it. They do it all the time in their backyard or their loungeroom which we can see straight in to. I don’t have a problem with her watching but what came next has thrown me into a bit of turmoil. She said she wanted us to join them. A group sex type of thing and she described this fantasy with some very vivid detail. Now of course I said no but she hasn’t been very accepting of that and has continued to push this point. We have had threesomes 10 or so years ago, just with one woman and only 5 times but never with a guy though. I told her she had to stop watching or I would tell them and she called my bluff and went and told them herself. I don’t know exactly what she said but she must have told them about her fantasy and they have said they would be interested in joining us. They were obviously ok about the watching or maybe they already new or suspected. I didn’t believe her at first but I bumped into the wife from next door at the shops and she was really flirty with me. It is now very clear my wife was not lying. These are kids, they are 15 years younger than us, how could they even be interested in us. And why is my wife interested in them? I must admit the idea of watching my wife with another woman is a real turn on and the more I think about it watching her with another man has peaked my interest. Of course having that young lady wanting to be with me has boosted my ego. I don’t know what I am asking. My wife is really keen on this, the neighbors are too, they are all just waiting on me to say yes. I really do want to say yes, our experiences years ago went well and ended well. We are still friends with her. I fear though that if I say no there is every chance my wife could do it behind my back. I know that lack of trust of her is disturbing but it’s hard to describe how keen she really seems to be for this. I don’t think she can let it go. It’s probably better to do it with her than to say no and always wonder whether she did it alone. We have talked and talked and talked and she is not backing down from wanting this. The only concession she has made is that it doesn’t have to be them we can search for another couple. We went to a counsellor as well for a few visits but it was leading nowhere. In the end the counsellor just basically said if we can’t agree it’s time to review whether the marriage is right for us. I am not so much against the idea of doing this but moreso worried as to why my wife has all of a sudden wanted this. Until we saw this couple next door it was never part of our discussions. I know I will say yes eventually, I am actually quite excited about the act itself. I am just really worried about her reasons behind wanting the act. Sorry if this is a bit of a jumble and no real questions have been asked. As I said earlier I am not really sure why I am even posting this. Just looking for some independent opinions I guess.
Philosoraptor Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 You either want to do it or you don't want to do it. Your reasons don't matter in the end. If you are uncomfortable with it then stand your ground. But you seem untrusting of your wife's intentions, which is much more of an issue than anything here. Open relationships and swinging can work if the trust level is there. But it doesn't seem like you trust her to stay faithful, and be honest, in the context of an open relationship.
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