csandiegooo Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 About three weeks ago I met a guy online. We talked for about a week before finally meeting up. Our first meetup was great great great! We had so much intellectual and physical chemistry, despite a relatively large age gap between us. At the end of the date, he openly said "this is something worth pursuing." The following week, we talked almost every day using the chat feature on the dating site and sometimes texting, though admittedly he was a pretty crappy texter and most of our good conversations were via chat. Anyway, a week later (this past Monday) we hung out again. Even better than the first date! Getting to know him is so fun and we openly talked about our personal lives, past experiences...all without a problem. Again, he talked about "future dates" and things like that, so I was confident in the situation. Last night, I called him after work (around 7PM) and left a cute message saying "If you're free tomorrow, do you want to go to the park with me?" He texted at about 10:30: "Hey you. I just got home and listened to your message. How was the park?" So, I assumed he didn't really understand what I was asking in my voicemail and clarified with a text that said: "Friday night is yoga night, silly! The message was for tomorrow if you wish to grace me with your presence." Aaaaaand...nothing. That last text was at 10:50ish last night and I haven't heard from him since. Normally I wouldn't be worried about not hearing for a 24 hour period, but this was detailing specific plans that have since passed. And if he wanted to just blow me off, why would he have texted me about my message in the first place?? So...what happened? Is there a signal in here that I am missing? If he was so interested in pursuing this and continuing to date...what's going on? What should I do?
Dallers Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 (edited) Ok, for a start if a girl couldn't go without hearing from me for 24 hours that would be clear warning signs so early on in the meet and greet. It is a classic sign of take a chill pill and relax. Go do your thing and live your life, it is your yoga night not his and you can meet up and go do something else another time. I would expect him to be making the effort to arrange plans as well, as he ignored your offer to go out be silent and wait for him to approach. It must be a two way thing otherwise you end up chasing and he ends up feeling pursued and men do not like being chased. You have to find a happy medium between showing interest and playing hard to get to keep someone interested. Edited September 7, 2013 by Dallers
HappyLove Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 Take it from someone who OLD's don't believe ANYTHING he tells you until around the 4th date. Give it a chance to get to know this guy and see if he's genuine. These guys know all the lines to make you swoon. Especially with online dating the grass is always greener so someone he thinks is hot sends him a wink and its dunzo. But don't worry she'll probably be a 800lb beast in real life. You need to be smart, have a thick skin, and keep your options open when online dating. Just try not to get too caught up and keep dating others as well, don't put your eggs all in one basket. 1
emva07 Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 I don't think 24 hrs is enough time to jump to conclusions. Id say just keep it moving, keep your options open, keep meeting people. If he comes around, great, if he doesn't it's whatever, no sweat off your back.
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