gdes32 Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 I'm really confused with what to do in this situation... My ex (calling her A) and I broke up almost a month ago now. She broke up with me saying she needed space and blah blah blah. For a bit more information my ex is going through depression and is literally pushing anyone close to her away, friends, family, and myself included. Anyhow I took those weeks to heal myself and have recently started to reconnect with friends and going out more often. Last night I stopped on my lunch break where an ex's friend works (calling her M). M was super excited to see me and asked if I wanted to grab a drink with her tonight. Well I got done with work early last night and texted M that if she wanted to get together when she was off of work we could. She said yes and we agreed to meet up at a local bar. When we saw each other she ran up and gave me a hug, asked how I was doing, and then started to ask about things that had transpired with A. I told her I didn't want to just sit there and rehash my feelings about A and that I was moving on with my life. M then began to talk about how good I was to A, that A was never appreciative enough of me. And that M had always had an interest in me even when things started with A. I met them both at the same time when we all worked together and the three of us would hang out after work. Long story short, I think M has feelings for me and may want to start dating me. I'm not for sure yet but that seems to be the direction this is all heading. Tonight I am hanging out with M again and I'm not really sure what direction to take this. I feel like if I dated M that A would be beyond livid and would get in the middle of the friendship that the two of them have had well before me. Though M is telling me that her and A aren't close anymore and she's tired of trying to make a friendship work when A is completely unappreciative of their friendship. My gut says that I need to establish a boundary and that M and I just need to remain friends and keep it at that. Maybe after some time, like many months from now after A and I have both healed that perhaps something could happen but right now I feel like it would be a breach of trust. So am I thinking the right away or should I go with the "All is fair in love and war" approach?
HappyLove Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 Sounds messy. With all the girls in the world why date your ex's friend?
Dallers Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 Ah man M sounds so cool and awesome, fun, outgoing and even listened to you wimper over your ex when she just wanted to grab a drink with you and have some fun. What a woman. Forget about A especially as she made out she needed space from you because she was unhappy which is bulls**t because if she actually liked you then you would make her happy, such a lame excuse. Screw A and her feelings. Get it on with M and do not for a second let A come back into your life ( which she most likely will try to do once she finds out about M ) If you do not get it on with M hook me up please, I need me an M.
CherryT Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 M seems like a real friend... less than a month after her friend (whether close or once was close) has broken up with her ex, she's ready to pounce. She probably doesn't care whether you're on the rebound. I think you can find someone that will create less drama in your life. 1
emva07 Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 Keep moving on with your life. M is toxic. She's not a good person. Drama.
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