Thecelt Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 3 weeks ago I met a girl online,we met up and got on great,we made out at the end of the date and met twice more after that each time making out at the end. She seemed really into me even speaking about future dates when we text. I told her from the start that I might have to travel abroad for 6 months with my job,she told me she thought this was crap. In the last few days she has been a bit short with me,it seems its always me initiating contact,she replies straight away normally but is just a little bit cold,any suggestions? Has she gone off me? Is she protecting herself in case I do leave? I could ask her but after only 3 dates I dont want to start having heavy talks with her!! Thanks
todreaminblue Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 she would be a bit upset maybe, just getting to knowo someone and they up and leave....a lot fo guys use this as an excuse to pump and dump or walk...so she may feel a little insecure...if you are legit......theres not much you can do ....if she cares about you she will wait...if she doesnt care....say goodbye at the airport.....i wish you well...good luck wherever you travel....deb 1
aussietigerwolf Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 she probably thinks that it's an excuse to "pump and dump" as they say. I've had guys try that on me before.
Author Thecelt Posted September 7, 2013 Author Posted September 7, 2013 she probably thinks that it's an excuse to "pump and dump" as they say. I've had guys try that on me before. But I told her from the start I would have to go away,but this may not be for another month. She knows I like her maybe i should just leave it and if she misses me she will contact me,just strange that this can happen over night
cif Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 You're leaving for SIX months why would you start things up with someone....if it was me i'd think you were using me.
It's Just Me Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 One quick question, Celt. Have you continued logging into the dating site while still seeing her? If so, she may have noticed, and that can cause many a girl to go a little chilly, especially if all your dates have gone well and included some physical contact. Not saying it's mature or justified, just saying that it happens.
phineas Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 One quick question' date=' Celt. Have you continued logging into the dating site while still seeing her? If so, she may have noticed, and that can cause many a girl to go a little chilly, especially if all your dates have gone well and included some physical contact. Not saying it's mature or justified, just saying that it happens.[/quote'] I'd like to point out that with POF and okcupid the phone apps can show you being online whenever you're phone is unlocked because the app is constantly polling the site for notifications.
carhill Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 You've known this person 3 weeks and have had 3 dates. My advice: Continue to socialize casually with any potentials you meet, always disclosing your pending work assignment abroad. Such dynamics are common these days and most adults know how to handle them. If the lady doesn't wish to socialize with a guy who's leaving, she can politely decline. I presume you're not looking to grow a serious relationship prior to leaving, so don't worry about it. You'll probably meet new ladies while working abroad and socialize with them. Don't over-think. This lady does what she does. If she's 'cold' to you, she is. Not your issue. Good luck.
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