trillium Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 It seems every few years a visit to LoveShack is in order. I guess my problem belongs in coping but this is not a love lost story. It's a missed opportunity. There's a woman in my circle of friends that I've had a huge crush on for a few years coupled with an intense connection that has been palpable at times. I've been afraid to act on it even when she's seemed flirtatious as she's well known as being very straight. Last night at a mutual friends I learned that she has begun a very serious relationship with another woman. Introducing parents and planning to spend the holidays together this year. And my heart dropped out of my chest. I feel like that should have been me - if I had the courage to approach. I guess I continued to hold out hope the right opportunity would present itself for me to share my feelings. Today I'm reeling with pain and hurt and didn't realize the depth of my feelings. The other woman is also in the same circle of friends, and they and their new relationship will be a part of my life. I'm not sure how to cope with the regret I'm feeling today. I feel like I would cry if I saw them together. I don't know how to move forward. The majority of mutual friends do not know of my feelings, so there's no concern there. But at the same time, I have few people to discuss how hurt I am. I feel like I'm too old to be this distraught, but I sense I may have missed out on a good relationship.
Dolphono Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 Give it some time, you'll have another chance. Relationships don't last in this day and age. 1
Misfortune Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 Give it some time, you'll have another chance. Relationships don't last in this day and age. Sad but true. 1
Author trillium Posted September 7, 2013 Author Posted September 7, 2013 Sigh....sure that's what I'd like to hear, but I don't think I'd count on it. I'm still hopefully some relationships will make it.
unexpectedlyhere Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 Awww, "demonstrably" unrequited love sucks! :S Try to learn for the future from this, on how next time you will act on your instincts sooner. There may be other good relationships you were missing out on whilst infatuated on this person. Now that you know she's probably not going to be available for a fair while, go out and chase those!
hopefulfaerie Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 The worst kind of love, the one that almost kills it's victims is ......... Unrequited Love That is not mine, saw it in a movie The Holiday, I think. Anyway, it stuck in my head. It is soooooo true! I think that may be part of my recently being tossed.
Author trillium Posted September 8, 2013 Author Posted September 8, 2013 Yes, being brave and taking a chance next time when I feel that connection is one thing to take away. There will be some looking around when I get through more grieving. I just have to be sad for awhile and adjust to them being together.
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