LuVlEe0073 Posted November 17, 2004 Posted November 17, 2004 [font=arial][/font][color=indigo][/color] Me and this guy have had a "friends with benefits" kind of relationship for a couple of months. He is one of those guys that gets any girl he wants..so of course i wanted him! But now that i've really got to know him I like him A LOT! but im scared to tell him how i feel...I mean what if he doesnt feel the same way and gets freaked out
Pocky Posted November 17, 2004 Posted November 17, 2004 I had a friend with benefits relationship with a man for a few months. I eventually realized that I was starting to have deeper feelings for him. I approached him and was very honest with how I was feeling. I stated that I would hate for things to continue and one of us ended up getting hurt. I explained that if he didn't have the same feelings as I did, then it would probably be best if we went back to just being friends. Be honest with him. If it ends then it's for the best.
alphamale Posted November 17, 2004 Posted November 17, 2004 Women basically have a much harder time with the friends with beniefits thing. They tend to fall for the dude. Many guys can seperate the sex and their feelings cause for them it is just a good time. Women tend (no always tho) to start having "feelings" for the man they are F-W-B with. Most women would not get into a F-W-B situation unless they had some feelings for the dude in the first place. If this dude can get any girl he wants then what makes you different that the rest? Most likely he will split once you state you want more from the "arrangement".
bluechocolate Posted November 17, 2004 Posted November 17, 2004 Friends with benefits rarely ever works out nicely. I doubt you will be the exception. Tell him how you feel, if he doesn't feel the same way as you, stop sleeping with him.
missopinionated Posted November 21, 2004 Posted November 21, 2004 'Kay, here's the tip. He doesn't care. Guaranteed. If he can get any girl he wants and you're the proverbial free cow, then why the heck would he even be slightly motivated to give a damn. This guy is a collector of women who have low self esteem. You are all a stable of available 'benefits'. If you're happy being a benefit, then yah, stick around. There's nothing in it for you besides possibly sex and a guarantee that he will evenutally move to the next pillow. But hey, if that's all you need from a relationship, stick with it. I personally require and have always had relationships with men who understand these truths: 1. They are very fortunate to be with ME 2. I can have anyone I want but I choose to be with them 3. If I am not the most important person in his life, I am not part of his life. 4. I don't share and I don't negotiate. It is me, only me, all the time. 5. I am a queen and I will be treated as such. 6. I expect him to care for and cater to me. I can open my own door and buy my own stuff, but I expect him to do those things for me, because I am a quality woman and he's very lucky to have me. 7. I am NOT a sure thing. I will NOT necessarily always be around. Treat me right and your chances are much better. 8. I have my own life, my own money, my own car and my own brains and no, I won't necessarily share any of those with my man. 9. I expect my man to also have his own life, money, car and brains. 10. I don't care how your mother does anything. I'm not your mother and If she's that much better than me, move home and don't call me again. Rules are good. Follow mine. Dump that guy yesterday!
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