AlexanderJames Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 So tonight I was in the city at a night club celebrating my little brother reaching adulthood. I was a little drunk and I'll admit I was on ecstasy as well. Everyone was having a great time and suddenly I turn around on the dance floor to see my ex from going on 3 years now. Still as gorgeous as ever. I tapped her on the shoulder and have her the "oh my god long time no see!" look expecting her to turn away and walk off haha. She gave me a shocked / awkward look back and then offered to buy me a drink. I said sure and followed her to the bar and she bought me a drink. Which was nice haha. I told her I was expecting her to ignore me and walk away and she put her arms around me and said I'll always like you. Anyway we had a quick catch up over the drinks. I bought her one cause I'm not one to let a girl pay for my way without me returning the favor then went back to our friends on the dance floor. We danced together a while. No kissing but hands and stuff like you do when you dance with someone. I saw an old old friend of mine from school and told my ex to give me two secs and went and gave her a hug and said hey. While I was asking how she had been my ex pinched my back and gestured for me to come back and dance. So I did. Next thing I know a guy grabs my arm and jerks me to the side. It was the guy she got with after me but last I had heard they had split up because he was abusive. I turned to face him and he realized it was me ( I've already had a run in with him and he was for the most part intimidated by me) and he quickly let go of me and stepped back pullin my ex over to him and walked off with her. I asked her friend why he was here and she said my ex had given him "one last chance". Kinda bummed me a bit cause I was really enjoying dancing with her. And she was having fun too. Not long after the guy comes walking right passed me. I wasn't on the way to the exit so the only reason he would have walked back passed me was to try and show me he has her control. He was holding her arm, not hand, and she was looking at the ground with tears in her eyes. I can only imagine how embarrassing it is being dragged out of a club in tears by an abusive bf. This made me see red. My brother held me back so I did hit him. God knows how much I wanted to put him on the floor. But that would have only made my ex's night even worse. So I let him walk passed. As they went by I quickly whispered in her ear asking if she will eve okay and all he did was shake her head. I watched him walking her out and she turned around again to mouth goodbye to me. She looked so upset. Really got me sad. For the next hour I had my friends worried about me cause I stopped dancing and wasn't smiling (in clubs I'm always dancing and smiling at people no matter what. It's what my friends know me for in town hah). I just kept running thoughts through my head. She wanted to stay with me. Her friends left and she stayed to dance alone with me. She was having so much fun with me. Her abusive bf embarrassed her and ended her night and probably ruined her weekend. She should have stayed with me. I would have gotten rid of the guy no troubles. Her and I hadn't spoken in months. We had a falling out and just got on NC. Until tonight she had me blocked on facebook. Then we bump into each other and have the time of our lives without a care only to have mister "on his last chance" ruin it for her. She added me on fb and messages me saying she was in lots of trouble. I told her I was so sorry I didn't know bout the two of them and she said it wasn't anyone's fault we did nothing wrong. I replied saying I wish she stayed but that was 4am and she didn't reply. I know he checks her messages and stuff so he probs forbid her to reply. I'm mostly just venting here. But I can't help but feel like she would be thinking of me. She told me a year ago after we had been split two years that I'm perfect and she never should have left me. But she was involved with him and nothing came of it. I feel like she would be playing over in her mind how much fun we had tonight and how well we got along and comparing it to how ****ty he treats her. No man should control a woman like that. It's materialism not love. He sees her as a possession. Not a partner. He doesn't deserve her. She deserves the best. Makes me so mad. And kind of sad. I know her and I broke up a long time ago. But we both got to see how we have changed in 3 years. And I know she would be happier of she were with me still. And I can't help but think she is feeling the same. Thoughts?
Author AlexanderJames Posted September 7, 2013 Author Posted September 7, 2013 Wow that was longer than I thought. Excuse the bad spelling. 6 am and a bit out of it haha
Misfortune Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 It sucks but that's the life they choose when they leave us. She has to stand up for herself and leave on her own, if she wants out of that. Sucks to see people being treated like a possession rather than lovingly. Some people do that though, take it out on their spouse when they couldn't handle someone else. He couldn't harm you so, he'll probably take it out on her. She should've know better though. I would never mess with an ex when I know my current is around the vicinity.
barky2 Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 Lol so u were rolling sack and bumped into a ex? Tell the dude u want money for ruining your roll. Besides that, let her lay in the bed she made. You -Do- Nothing. Understood? Because if you do, she will resent you forever for it. I promise you that. Happy mollying Barky 2
Author AlexanderJames Posted September 8, 2013 Author Posted September 8, 2013 Haha tell him he owes me I should! Lol. I was pretty bummed for about half an hour but I had good mates cheering me up. I just found a nice cute girl to dance with and I was rolling again I have no intentions of acting on anything else about it. If she talks to me I'll be there for her. And if she wants to catch up then I'm more than happy to hang with her. But I'm not going to chase her now she's suddenly dropped back into my life. I just hope she's okay and didnt get hassled or hurt by the guy.
Author AlexanderJames Posted September 8, 2013 Author Posted September 8, 2013 And misfortune you're right. Nothing I can really do its in her hands to make herself happy. But I think for now when she thinks of things that can make her happy she will think of me. And I don't think she knew he was there. She was out with a couple of gfs and looked shocked to see him.
Sugarkane Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 People stick with what they think they deserve. I've posted before about how dumpers sometimes don't always make the right decision and pick someone else worse. Sounds like she doesn't have good taste.
Author AlexanderJames Posted September 8, 2013 Author Posted September 8, 2013 People stick with what they think they deserve. I've posted before about how dumpers sometimes don't always make the right decision and pick someone else worse. Sounds like she doesn't have good taste. But once upon a time she fell for me am I bad taste? Haha. She's been messaging me today. Saying he's not her "boyfriend" so whatever and saying how drunk she was last night and all that. Maybe hinting that she shouldnt have danced with me and it only happened cause she was drunk.? I try to analyze things too much haha
Sugarkane Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 But once upon a time she fell for me am I bad taste? Haha. She's been messaging me today. Saying he's not her "boyfriend" so whatever and saying how drunk she was last night and all that. Maybe hinting that she shouldnt have danced with me and it only happened cause she was drunk.? I try to analyze things too much haha No you weren't bad taste, yet she chose someone like that over you?! It seems she doesn't want someone who treats her with respect.
Author AlexanderJames Posted September 8, 2013 Author Posted September 8, 2013 No you weren't bad taste, yet she chose someone like that over you?! It seems she doesn't want someone who treats her with respect. I think I get what you mean. Kind of like she resents the fact that once upon a time she hurt me and feels like she has to be with someone who hurts her as punishment?
Misfortune Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 I think I get what you mean. Kind of like she resents the fact that once upon a time she hurt me and feels like she has to be with someone who hurts her as punishment? I chuckled at that lol, sorry. I don't think they're that "kind" to do such a thing for us. It's more like unwrapping a present at Christmas and being disappointed when it's not as good as looked in the commercials. You hyped up to others so much, that you wouldn't dare admit that it doesn't meet your standards. <---that's how I see it. Something tragic has to happen for you to admit your old toys were better would out losing too much pride.
Author AlexanderJames Posted September 8, 2013 Author Posted September 8, 2013 I chuckled at that lol, sorry. I don't think they're that "kind" to do such a thing for us. It's more like unwrapping a present at Christmas and being disappointed when it's not as good as looked in the commercials. You hyped up to others so much, that you wouldn't dare admit that it doesn't meet your standards. <---that's how I see it. Something tragic has to happen for you to admit your old toys were better would out losing too much pride. That actually makes a lot of sense haha. Glad I could make you laugh too
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