reddragon588 Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 Remember that social media only reflects what you want people to see, not the truth. You could be absolutely miserable and give the appearance on social media of having not a care in the world. You choose what you project on social media.. It is content creation.
bubbaganoosh Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 Look. You know where you now stand so you have a choice. You can either grovel around and make yourself feel worse and keep reliving this mess or you can do something about it and move on. You knew where you stood as soon as she started becoming ignorant with her putting you down with the snide remarks. It should tell you that the woman doesn't have much class because if she had any kind of dignity in her body, she should have told you that it was over rather than acting like she did. She knew she had you in her back pocket and felt that she could treat you like dirt and you would take it. Let her live down the street and when you see her. act like she's a total stranger and blow her off. If she contacts you, let her know that you have no interest in her life and tell he to take her childish behavior someplace else. If you don't she'll continue to rub it in your face and make you more miserable than you already are. Your the only one that can do something about it. Once you tell her to go get bent, she's going to get the hint that you moved on.
Never Again Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 she is not in love with him anymore While I agree with the diagnosis, the disease is somewhat self-inflicted. "In love" is often used to describe that heady, exciting, infatuated feeling that starts a relationship....and that has peaks and valleys throughout. There are times when you will feel it more, feel it less, and not feel it at all. "In love" is what begets "LOVE", that lasting companionship and bonding that keeps people together through even the roughest of times. But that's not good enough for a lot of people nowadays...it needs to be easy, fun and HOT all the time. If it's not, then screw it! Falling out of love is a choice in some respects. If your partner is doing things that makes you less attracted to them: being negative, being needy/insecure/jealous/clingy, letting themselves go....then it is your responsibility to communicate that to them. If you feel the excitement slipping, PLAN something! I've heard so many people give the EXCUSE, and it is an EXCUSE, that once that "in love" feeling is gone...it's GONE...and that is though always just BE there. No work required if the person is "right" for you. Newsflash: if you feel "in love" with someone and you're not doing anything to maintain that feeling...then the other person is doing all the work for you. Congratulations on finding someone who will put up with that. 1
Friggia Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 It's only been one month, and you were together for a really really long time. I have been in a very close relationship with my boyfriend for eight years in which we had a lot of ups and downs. I even went through a period where I was acting like your girlfriend, because I felt smothered by the relationship and wanted to explore. I just needed to breathe. He remained in love with me the whole time and would try to break up with me because he felt inadequate and told me it killed him to know that other guys were sleeping with his beautiful girlfriend. Each time he did, I could lure him back quite easily, pretty much always the same night. I knew he'd always be there. I love that he loved me enough to stay with me through my absolute worst of behavior. Hell, he even comforted me when I got too emotionally attached to another guy! No other guy would put up with that, that was effed up on my part! I am soooo remorseful, especially now since I'm getting served karma for that! I think her kind of verbally abusive and controlling behavior comes out when the relationship becomes codependent. Of course, all situations are different, but I don't think all hope is lost for you, just give her time to herself to reset, seriously. Being with other guys allowed me to see what an amazing person my boyfriend is, and I'm also extremely remorseful. Just try to relax and give it time. You'll be okay no matter what happens. It's probably just a phase she's going through, honestly.
Friggia Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 Was there an actual breakup? Who instigated it?
Author Sadguy33 Posted October 15, 2013 Author Posted October 15, 2013 we dated 5 years, she went on training and started needing space. ends up she was cheating on me emotionally with one guy while she was home and then met and physicallycheated with a different guy for the 3 weeks of training. i had to catch her, on my 25th bday and we broke up the day she got home. i hated her so much at first it was easy but now that the dust settled i went and did this. its just overwhelming and the fact that she moved up the block makes me sick im born and raised in my town, i brought her in.
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