my ex bf left me for someone else

[marlina345]

my ex bf of 5 years cheated on me and left me for another girl. i am so crushed by all this for we have a 2 year old together. i begged for him to consider staying but he said that he really liked this girl and he wasnt gonna stop seeing her. I was so blindsided by all this. i told him i would change whatever it was that bothered him. before all this he was so kind and sweet and a good father he worked two jobs. we have known eachother since we were 14 and began dating when were 16 (now 20) we were eachother first everything. we had the same friends and did everything together about a year ago he gave me a ring. even our family were close. i will admit that since having the baby ive been depressed and gained alot of weight didnt bother to get dressed and agrued alot with him. he said that he still loves me but he is confused and didnt know what he wanted. so i let him go i left to my sisters house and i find out from his sister that he brought her to his house already. even had a mark on his neck from the other girl. the other girl knew he had a family but from what i hear about her she's pretty trashy. i had one last talk with him and asked him again if there was a chance of working it out and he said no that he was sorry. so i left and its been three weeks of no contact. will he ever regret leaving me and his family? will he ever comeback?

[stormer1092]

I can try to help a little. My GF of close to 4 years just broke up with about a month ago me no kids or anything but we are around the same age as you. Again first everything. I also got depressed before the breakup and just now coming out of it. But I would suggest just working on yourself and doing "active" no contact instead of passive. Just because you didn't talk to him for 3 weeks isn't going to do anything. But work on yourself and stay strong. Also since he is confused tells me he just needs to figure out what he wants in life. My ex gf is going through the same stage where she doesn't know what she wants either. I think it has something to do with age also because we are so young. But all we can do now is wait. But plenty of people on these forums are here for you.

[barky2]

Dude just walked out on you and your child?

 

And you want him back?

 

Word of advice....more than likely your phone ONE DAY will ring.

 

You need to focus on yourself right now as your not happy with yourself.

 

Once you truly set your mind on you and your child...you will have a life changing experience.

 

 

 

 

Barky

[crazy1234]

my ex bf of 5 years cheated on me and left me for another girl. i am so crushed by all this for we have a 2 year old together. i begged for him to consider staying but he said that he really liked this girl and he wasnt gonna stop seeing her. I was so blindsided by all this. i told him i would change whatever it was that bothered him. before all this he was so kind and sweet and a good father he worked two jobs. we have known eachother since we were 14 and began dating when were 16 (now 20) we were eachother first everything. we had the same friends and did everything together about a year ago he gave me a ring. even our family were close. i will admit that since having the baby ive been depressed and gained alot of weight didnt bother to get dressed and agrued alot with him. he said that he still loves me but he is confused and didnt know what he wanted. so i let him go i left to my sisters house and i find out from his sister that he brought her to his house already. even had a mark on his neck from the other girl. the other girl knew he had a family but from what i hear about her she's pretty trashy. i had one last talk with him and asked him again if there was a chance of working it out and he said no that he was sorry. so i left and its been three weeks of no contact. will he ever regret leaving me and his family? will he ever comeback?

WHY do you even want such a person back??I mean dont you see it he has no respect whatsoever and is willing to throw away 5 years and so much for a girl he jst met?Well I'm going through something similar and yes my ex left me too for someone else and already are in a relationship within just a month.All i'm trying to say is that let him go.Nomatter how much it hurts let him go for good.He is not worth it and definitely not meant for you.Please go NC immediately and never look back nomatter how much it hurts.Think about how heartless he is to do this,but this is just life dear.You'll only hurt yourself.Theres no point in telling him you'll do whatever he asks you to.Please don't hurt youself any more than you already have and walk away for your own self respect.

[Ireallydontknow]

I'll throw my story/advice in. Don't wait around for this person. Seriously, do you want to waste more than 5 years? My ex-fiancé of 5 years wasted my time. We should of broken up 4 years ago. Know what I could of done in 4 years? I could of got a bachleors degree, I could of found someone who would be true to me, but nooooooooo I tried to fix this person, and I stayed in a dead end relationship. I was only happy because I wasn't alone.

 

Don't end up like me. Trust me it's hard. 32 days NC I believe, I've lost count, and today I WAS SO TEMPTED TO LOOK AT HER FACEBOOK. I just bit my lip and did something else. It's not worth it!

 

Stay strong!

[marlina345]

i know i shouldnt be feeling this but i cant help but feel guilty that maybe i should of tried harder. i was lazy with our relationship that i got to comfortable especially with a baby involved that i let everything go all my priorities to take care of our son.

[hinatticus]

You're in an unfortunate situation... Young and with a child. My situation was similar except we are older. We're back together but that's neither here nor there.

 

He probably became unattracted to you after the baby was born. Both physically and mentally. Having a child takes lots of work. My son was only a year and a half when my gf left me. The relationship changes dramatically after a child is born. It takes two emotionally mature people to keep a relationship going and raise a child. You two still have lots of growing to do and with a child in the mix it can get really difficult.

 

If I were you I'd just work on myself and become the best person you can be, physically and mentally. Become that hot mom who is emotionally stable. Get back into shape and change the way you think. It sucks that your family is broken up, I can totally relate to that, but eventually you'll accept your situation and attract a better man. One who will stick with you through tough times.

 

Good luck.