she's never going to talk to me again!! so depressed.

[Bandito]

so i was talking on the phone with my ex. then we got into an argument about something personal, that i'd rather not talk about.

 

anyways she told me that i lost my privileges to be in her life. said that i bring nothing but drama and never wants to speak to me again. she never said anything like this to me before.

 

we've been speaking about maybe getting back together in the future, but now this happened. did i just ruin my chances? will she ever come back around to speaking to me?

 

i'm so hurt and broken up. i'm afraid i'm going to do something bad to myself i can't calm down... need help.

[xanitus]

all you can do is wait a couple days then apologize then go NC.

[Bandito]

all you can do is wait a couple days then apologize then go NC.

 

we fought the night before last. i sent a long email apologizing for everything yesterday morning. she would usually respond right away but haven't heard anything for the past 24 hours. i'm afraid i hurt her or something, i'm worried.

[tart6245]

Apologies don't normally work when feelings are still fresh and fights are still fresh on the mind. I made that mistake when I fought with a girl recently - trying to apologize the morning after. Needless to say, it didn't have its intended effect.

 

I'd wait a few days or weeks and apologize again when she's cooled off and then go no contact and see what happens. Most of the time, people are more open to listening when they aren't still angry about something.

[Bandito]

Apologies don't normally work when feelings are still fresh and fights are still fresh on the mind. I made that mistake when I fought with a girl recently - trying to apologize the morning after. Needless to say, it didn't have its intended effect.

 

I'd wait a few days or weeks and apologize again when she's cooled off and then go no contact and see what happens. Most of the time, people are more open to listening when they aren't still angry about something.

 

idk about that. when we use to fight, i'd apologize the next morning then everything went back to normal with her.

 

this was a huge fight.. more name calling and all that.. we never got to this point.

[JDPT]

So she said you "lost your privileges" huh? It appears that she likes to be in utter control. And quiet honestly what you need to do is break this vicious cycle. There is no need to always feel as if you are doing anything wrong and you two broke up for a reason. Focus on yourself and becoming a new and improved you. Take this time to heal and do not look forward to getting back with her. Commit to NC and more forward with your life never looking back.

[Bandito]

So she said you "lost your privileges" huh? It appears that she likes to be in utter control. And quiet honestly what you need to do is break this vicious cycle. There is no need to always feel as if you are doing anything wrong and you two broke up for a reason. Focus on yourself and becoming a new and improved you. Take this time to heal and do not look forward to getting back with her. Commit to NC and more forward with your life never looking back.

 

easier said than done. i really love this woman, its hard to just walk away. she was everything to me. i could try though.

[JDPT]

easier said than done. i really love this woman, its hard to just walk away. she was everything to me. i could try though.

 

 

I, along with a million other people have felt what you feel if not amplified.

What makes you believe you are the exception?

You are provided with suggestions in order for you to recover if you chose to dwell and wallow on your current situation you will clearly not make any genuine progress. Realize and internalize that you need to move forward and letting go of hope is imperative.

[saltyfishhead666]

easier said than done. i really love this woman, its hard to just walk away. she was everything to me. i could try though.

 

You aren't walking away, she already did! She's left you standing on your own.

 

Now you have to try your best to move on because she clearly stated her intentions now.

 

Sorry

[Apparition]

Both of you need space right now. Don't even think about her never speaking to you again. She might, she might not. Nobody can answer that, but you can't focus on the negative. Calm yourself down. She is probably just hurt and may come round eventually if you guys were talking about getting back together in the future, I don't know, nobody does. Just take time out right now.

[Bandito]

Both of you need space right now. Don't even think about her never speaking to you again. She might, she might not. Nobody can answer that, but you can't focus on the negative. Calm yourself down. She is probably just hurt and may come round eventually if you guys were talking about getting back together in the future, I don't know, nobody does. Just take time out right now.

 

well she said she was opened to taking me back.. but after everything she says "you'll never have me again." i feel i ruined it for us permanently. i'd like to think that the term 'never say never' applies to this. you're right, who knows what will happen. i need my space, and so does she. we need to heal. maybe she will change her mind in the future.

[tart6245]

idk about that. when we use to fight, i'd apologize the next morning then everything went back to normal with her.

 

this was a huge fight.. more name calling and all that.. we never got to this point.

 

I mean a bad fight. Sure, when I was dating my longtime gf, we'd never go to sleep angry. But this fight is different as is the one I had. I accused her of some awful things - true things - but unwarranted all the same. Sometimes fights like that aren't solved immediately. Both sides need to calm down and step back.

 

I don't know what your fight was like, but if you said there was name calling, then you need to give her some space before you decide to talk again.

[Bandito]

i'll just tell you guys what happened. she said we broke up because i'm not "the one." then i told her that was BS, that it was another guy, because i seen her hanging out with some dude! i got insecure and blamed her for cheating, even though i don't know the truth.

 

i told her this, "i'm going to give all these girls who want me a chance, because you don't know how to love me the right way."

 

she said "fine go move on to all these other women, because i'm never getting back with you!!"

 

i made up that lie just to hurt her, and wrote the email to apologize for everything.

[Bandito]

You aren't walking away, she already did! She's left you standing on your own.

 

Now you have to try your best to move on because she clearly stated her intentions now.

 

Sorry

 

even if it means not speaking to her again?

[Chi townD]

Okay dude. I'm gonna be blunt. If she never talks to you again, it will be no skin off her nose. Hell, you already caught her out with another guy! She already told you that you weren't the one for her. So, I have to ask, why the hell do you WANT to hang around someone that clearly doesn't want to hang around you?

 

You shouldn't be depressed, you should be mad as hell that she's been stringing you along!

 

Time to move on dude. Heal from this and move on (because she's already has).

[Bandito]

Okay dude. I'm gonna be blunt. If she never talks to you again, it will be no skin off her nose. Hell, you already caught her out with another guy! She already told you that you weren't the one for her. So, I have to ask, why the hell do you WANT to hang around someone that clearly doesn't want to hang around you?

 

You shouldn't be depressed, you should be mad as hell that she's been stringing you along!

 

Time to move on dude. Heal from this and move on (because she's already has).

 

i am mad a f**k. i want to beat that dudes ass! i want my woman back, because if you know how we were you'd understand. but i get it, she no longer has the same feelings, i'm nothing to her.

[Misfortune]

She'll talk to you again at some point, they always do before completely disappearing.

 

Tit for tat can't work on today's relationships because most relationships these days, have fragile foundations (trust issues, jealousy, not much in common except "I like your bod....etc). People are easier to replace these days so, you have to mind your words before they call your bluff.

 

Every little tiff equals a break up. If your relationship was w/e you say it is, things wouldn't have gotten to this point; IMO.

 

Give her space and give the situation time to sort itself out.

 

You can't control her or the situation. Keep calm and carry on

[Bandito]

She'll talk to you again at some point, they always do before completely disappearing.

 

Tit for tat can't work on today's relationships because most relationships these days, have fragile foundations (trust issues, jealousy, not much in common except "I like your bod....etc). People are easier to replace these days so, you have to mind your words before they call your bluff.

 

Every little tiff equals a break up. If your relationship was w/e you say it is, things wouldn't have gotten to this point; IMO.

 

Give her space and give the situation time to sort itself out.

 

You can't control her or the situation. Keep calm and carry on

 

 

 

knowing her track record, it looks like i'm never going to hear from her again. she's the type of person who cuts off ppl cold turkey. that's why i'm so depressed because i know its true.

[CherryT]

idk about that. when we use to fight, i'd apologize the next morning then everything went back to normal with her.

 

this was a huge fight.. more name calling and all that.. we never got to this point.

 

You sound immature. You accused her of something you didn't know was true. Who was the guy she was hanging out with? an old friend? Coworker? Just because she's speaking with a male doesn't mean she's cheating on you. But you put that on her. You made her feel like nothing she could do would make you happy and so you'll find other girls to do it for her. You made up a lie to deliberately hurt her. And you succeeded.

 

I'm also someone who's not afraid to cut out disrespectful people in my life. You called her names and you never expected her to be at her wits end and cut you off. Because your past fights always seemed to get resolved. My ex did the same thing. When he would get mad he'd accuse me of things I didn't do. He'd ask for breaks multiple times just to deliberately hurt me. It worked a few times, but towards the end of our relationship I became stronger. The fights made me realized that I was fighting for something that wasn't a good fit and with someone who didn't treat me well (because of his own insecurities. He didn't feel good about himself so he needed to control me or else I would be cheating, talking to someone else, just psychotic BS). When he resorted to calling me names, it was the last straw. I could NEVER look at him the same. The last time we fought, he called me names and asked for another break. I gave it to him and knew it was a break for good (whether he tried to come back). Like clockwork, he returned a couple of weeks later wanting to work things out. The same attitude, the same sadness. This time, I didn't want anything to do with him. A few months went by and he asked if we could meet and exchange our things. When he showed up, he expressed how he was so sorry for the names he called me, the way he treated me and that he never expected that I would take the break and never get back together.

 

Lesson learned: don't take your girl for granted. She may have f*cked up just as bad as you. But if you do things purposely to hurt her and think that your actions don't have consequences, you'll find yourself stuck in this situation again. If you treat your "woman" with respect and they do wrong, you will be able to walk away because you know you did what you could.

[JDPT]

knowing her track record, it looks like i'm never going to hear from her again. she's the type of person who cuts off ppl cold turkey. that's why i'm so depressed because i know its true.

 

You should be happy this is her approach. It will work in your favor, eventually you will understand.

[Bandito]

You sound immature. You accused her of something you didn't know was true. Who was the guy she was hanging out with? an old friend? Coworker? Just because she's speaking with a male doesn't mean she's cheating on you. But you put that on her. You made her feel like nothing she could do would make you happy and so you'll find other girls to do it for her. You made up a lie to deliberately hurt her. And you succeeded.

 

I'm also someone who's not afraid to cut out disrespectful people in my life. You called her names and you never expected her to be at her wits end and cut you off. Because your past fights always seemed to get resolved. My ex did the same thing. When he would get mad he'd accuse me of things I didn't do. He'd ask for breaks multiple times just to deliberately hurt me. It worked a few times, but towards the end of our relationship I became stronger. The fights made me realized that I was fighting for something that wasn't a good fit and with someone who didn't treat me well (because of his own insecurities. He didn't feel good about himself so he needed to control me or else I would be cheating, talking to someone else, just psychotic BS). When he resorted to calling me names, it was the last straw. I could NEVER look at him the same. The last time we fought, he called me names and asked for another break. I gave it to him and knew it was a break for good (whether he tried to come back). Like clockwork, he returned a couple of weeks later wanting to work things out. The same attitude, the same sadness. This time, I didn't want anything to do with him. A few months went by and he asked if we could meet and exchange our things. When he showed up, he expressed how he was so sorry for the names he called me, the way he treated me and that he never expected that I would take the break and never get back together.

 

Lesson learned: don't take your girl for granted. She may have f*cked up just as bad as you. But if you do things purposely to hurt her and think that your actions don't have consequences, you'll find yourself stuck in this situation again. If you treat your "woman" with respect and they do wrong, you will be able to walk away because you know you did what you could.

 

she was the one doing most of the name calling, the only thing i responded with was i'll give other girls a shot. then thats when all hell broke loose with her.

 

i regret saying that for trying to hurt her, but she said similar things in the past just to hurt me, for example "i know so many guys who can do your job, even better. they all want me to break up with you!"

 

so to be fair, i was giving her a taste of her own medicine.

[CherryT]

she was the one doing most of the name calling, the only thing i responded with was i'll give other girls a shot. then thats when all hell broke loose with her.

 

i regret saying that for trying to hurt her, but she said similar things in the past just to hurt me, for example "i know so many guys who can do your job, even better. they all want me to break up with you!"

 

so to be fair, i was giving her a taste of her own medicine.

 

Then it looks like you're both not mature enough to work out your relationship issues. You said things, she's said things and neither of you are ready to let it go. She's not wanting to and you regret it now, whether you believe it's fair or not.

 

Break-up's are tough. Even when they end badly. In a few months from now, you'll realize that things do get better. If she's not treating YOU with respect, then my post still applies to you. Walk away. Why be with someone who you can't control saying things to purposely hurt and she is doing the same?

[Bandito]

Then it looks like you're both not mature enough to work out your relationship issues. You said things, she's said things and neither of you are ready to let it go. She's not wanting to and you regret it now, whether you believe it's fair or not.

 

Break-up's are tough. Even when they end badly. In a few months from now, you'll realize that things do get better. If she's not treating YOU with respect, then my post still applies to you. Walk away. Why be with someone who you can't control saying things to purposely hurt and she is doing the same?

 

 

i'm just going to walk away from this. i don't want to, but its the best thing.

 

my birthday is coming up, and if i don't hear anything from her, then i know its over.