serial muse Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 I contact women if I like their profile, and how they write it. If we have some things in common, and last on their looks. I am the last guy to be picky about only dating some hot chick. I would say my ex-wife and every past gf has been no better than a 6 or 7 at best. . I'm trying to point out that even this - effort put into a profile in order to be found attractive - is a far cry from just sitting there like a bump on a log, as you suggested in your OP that these women are doing. You made it sound like they're acting like queens, laying down the judgment - completely overlooking the part where they're quite anxious to be seen as appealing themselves, and are likely making an effort to make themselves so in their profiles. Why doesn't that even figure in to your understanding of what's going on here? You may find it insufficient effort, but it's certainly not nothing. Particularly if, as you say, you are drawn to those very women who do put more effort into those profiles, rather than those who just rely on a pretty face. In fact, if it is true that that's who you're drawn to, then what you're saying doesn't actually make any sense at all. And allow me to further point out that you say "The women get to sit back, and judge all of us, without as much as lifting a finger, while the guys are forced into a competitive environment that breeds lying and manipulation." But...aren't you sitting back and judging them too? That's what evaluating their profiles is (not to mention assigning a number to them on a 1-10 scale...not making your case more convincing with that, by the way - sure sounds like sitting back and judging to me). You're making decisions about who's appealing to you and who isn't...just.like.they.are. Welcome to dating.
miss_jaclynrae Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 If only being gay was a choice. You would make the perfect candidate. 1
xxoo Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 AFTER I contact women....they tell me they find me attractive, or mention that I'm good-looking or such. BUT....they never view me until after I contact them. Even though they live 10-15 mins away or some even closer. Which proves that they are not putting any effort into LOOKING. They are simply responding ONLY to offers. Many of them admit to me thats what they do. So theoretically....in my mind.....what is so great about this woman or that woman.....that she cares nothing about me, unless I put forth effort to make myself known? Why am I not worth the same in her eyes? That is the double standard of how our society works, and its a contradiction in my eyes. . So why do you search for women?
Author MrTurk Posted September 10, 2013 Author Posted September 10, 2013 (edited) It's NOT "men vs women." The men and women who are finding partners out there are not thinking that way. I will never stick up for men. Most men are morons. I do not see it as Men vs Women. I see it as stuck up women, dumb women, lazy women, superficial women, VS Me. There are many, many great women out there. And I've always found them in the past, and had great relationships with them. Its just becoming harder, now that I'm in my early 40's....due to everyone's jaded, used, hurt, experiences. I got married in my early 30's....and now I'm divorced and in my early 40's. I feel like I went through a time warp, and woke up on a different planet. Because the dating world I am in now....its not the same as it was 10 years ago, And believe it or not....MANY men feel exactly like I do. They have the same view points and opinions. But they want sex bad enough that they shut-up and bite their tongues, putting up with the stupid sh*t that goes on in the dating world. Edited September 10, 2013 by MrTurk
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