crazy1234 Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 Just a simple question to all my friends here. Is it really their fault if they don't love us anymore??Can we really blame people for falling out of love with us and feeling something for someone else? Can emotions be tamed to do only justice?
KCCK Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 Sometimes, nobody is to be blame when a relationship breaks down... if your partner has decided to fall for somebody else and tells you it is all over, than it is better to just move on without blaming because I believe both have faults that eventually leads to the incident. Many reasons perhaps lack of care? immature? distance? family? too many endless possibilities... However, if your partner were cheating on you and you found out by yourself, than blame him/her for wasting your time and trust and leave for someone who truly appreciates and will never cheat on you... Infidelity occurs when one partner gave less than the other partner expected. The best way is to discuss and solve the issue together and definitely not taking the easy way out and find other people without trying to rescue the relationship...
unexpectedlyhere Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 I think that's why I'm finding it so hard: it was a blameless breakup. And it's so hard when the other person just "falls out of love" because you've been in love with them ever since so you just don't understand how it happens, for you it's all fixable, because you're just not feeling the same... I keep wondering Why, why, why but there is no answer really. 1
todreaminblue Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 Just a simple question to all my friends here. Is it really their fault if they don't love us anymore??Can we really blame people for falling out of love with us and feeling something for someone else? Can emotions be tamed to do only justice? yes they can be tamed....its called self control......if everybody did everything they felt like doing just because they could....then the world would be pretty unpleasant to live in....rutting in the street like dogs...just because they got a feeling......oooh like that chick i wanna hump her leg......sounds pretty animalistic to me...do what you feel like..... no you cant blame people for falling out of love..you can only hold yourself accountable for how you treat others not how they treat you...but love isnt meant to be fleeting....gone with the next cool change.......its meant to stand the tests of time.....or it was never love to begin with.....deb 1
Chatmonkey Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 I think that's why I'm finding it so hard: it was a blameless breakup. And it's so hard when the other person just "falls out of love" because you've been in love with them ever since so you just don't understand how it happens, for you it's all fixable, because you're just not feeling the same... I keep wondering Why, why, why but there is no answer really. my girlfriend broke up with me 2 days ago and said its no ones fault, there was nothing you could have done and that she changed a lot over the past year and just fell out of love. sucks heh? devastation to the max
Author crazy1234 Posted September 7, 2013 Author Posted September 7, 2013 Just a simple question to all my friends here. Is it really their fault if they don't love us anymore??Can we really blame people for falling out of love with us and feeling something for someone else? Can emotions be tamed to do only justice? To sum it al up,I think we cant blame them for what they chose to do.Its their feeling and not ours that mattered to them.I guess we need to stop asking whys cause we'll never get an answer and move on as fast as we can.
unexpectedlyhere Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 I'm sorry to hear that Chatmonkey. Chin up! Google "Breakup recovery guide", it's a site made by someone who was on Loveshack and it has brilliant advice including the immediate aftermath which is what you are currently in. My ex said it was mostly his fault or all his fault, I can't remember. I was the one who said we weren't interested in assigning faults. But especially... it's not your fault. It can feel so disheartening to hear someone say that they no longer love you. But... they're the ones that lost out. That couldn't keep you. 1
Author crazy1234 Posted September 7, 2013 Author Posted September 7, 2013 my girlfriend broke up with me 2 days ago and said its no ones fault, there was nothing you could have done and that she changed a lot over the past year and just fell out of love. sucks heh? devastation to the max I'm sorry chatmonkey, but theres nothing we can do about it rather than leaving it to god:(
Author crazy1234 Posted September 7, 2013 Author Posted September 7, 2013 yes they can be tamed....its called self control......if everybody did everything they felt like doing just because they could....then the world would be pretty unpleasant to live in....rutting in the street like dogs...just because they got a feeling......oooh like that chick i wanna hump her leg......sounds pretty animalistic to me...do what you feel like..... no you cant blame people for falling out of love..you can only hold yourself accountable for how you treat others not how they treat you...but love isnt meant to be fleeting....gone with the next cool change.......its meant to stand the tests of time.....or it was never love to begin with.....deb Self control,yes that can be a thing.How come we never end up talking to other guys?Why should we even give ourselves the chance to fall for someone else when we'r already committed to someone else?How come i never talked to another guy in years but he ended up talking to this new girl who came out of nowhere and gave himself the chance to do all that he did.Ofcourse my ex treated my like **** for this new girl like i was nothing.Its just sad how they can be so heartless.
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