Mliu Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 Hey Guys.. After a month of chatting to her online, We decided to meet up at a park/forest for a stroll. 2 days before the meet, she text me saying that this guy whom she has a crush on for a while made a move on her and that it's okay if I didn't want to meet up. I was pretty much annoyed with this but I accepted that and continued with the meet. As usual, we met up, gave her a hug and another long hug after the meet. She then invited me over via text message a couple of days after our first "date", I was hesitant at first but went for it. I was thinking to myself, Why would she invite me over for a film night when she is going out with someone else? The night of the evening, We watched 2 films and I noticed that she was gazing at me, i looked up at her and she still is gazing, smiling at me. She tried to break the touch-barrier by moving her fingers near my hands where it was just sitting on the couch at that time, She done that a few times. At this point, I know something was up. After the film, It was time for me to go, She didn't seem to keen on me going yet. We stood up, I gave her a goodbye hug, It was the longest hug I've had! We stared into each each other eyes and then she closed her eyes then I went in for a long kiss It was my first proper kiss. (probably ate her face whilst I was at it ) Isn't she going out with this other guy she mention. We didn't have any alcohol or anything so we were both sober at the time. I then left the house and she asked me will i come again, I replied Yes. So guys, Do you think she likes me or is it one of those things that boy/girl alone in the house will end up kissing? I'm still lost at why she would invite me over knowing that she is seeing another man.
todreaminblue Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 I dont know, i dont understand,why does a girl show interest in you and then say she is going to see a guy who has a crush on her.....to me it does not compute, maybe it is because i come from the jurassic era of spin dial phones(i miss the clicks) but i dont get why she said that to you i will say this though when i am normally confused about motives of someone its normally a game of some sort behind it...games are what confuse people..in thi scase you me and anyone else who reads this honesty rocks so be straight up with her ask her is she seeing this other guy or she would like to continue seeing you considering you ate her face i think you have a right.....btw eating faces should have been down the track a little.....you have to wonder who else is eating her face and what other guy you are swapping saliva with .....three way kiss huh...look...i am kidding....... i think you should be straight up with her if you dont mind she dates other guys and kisses them silly then that is your choice but you should be allowed to choose....... maybe she said it in a way thinkign you dont really like her, if you wanted out but didnt know how to say, you could take the option not to see her, by making out she had other offers(that was a mouthful to write)....who knows........thats a long shot and pretty twisted logic... i would suggest ask her exactly what is happening.....being up front is something to admire not avoid...if i kissed a guy i would want him to be up front with me as i would be with him..guys who put it on the line adn say what they want....kudos...... i am not a fan of multiple saliva swaps...dont know if you are......its a messy thought...requires a bucket........ and i wish you much kissy face in the future......without the eating part and hopefully not in the need of a bucket...talk to her be up front...smilin....good luck...deb
happywithlife Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 Its time to ask her. . . maybe she went on a date with her crush and it didn't work out. Maybe all she thought about on that date with her crush was you. . . Or maybe she is multi-dating. There's no way of knowing without asking. Open, honest communication is a great thing. Try it.
Woop1337 Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 I have several questions for you. Why wait a month to come see this girl? She isn't your girlfriend so why be annoyed, that she saw someone else prior to your stroll in the park? Does she even know that the stroll was a date? What kind of move did this other guy make? Did she say that's her boyfriend? Anyway, I believe nothing is wrong. I'm assuming that the other guy is not her bf. She let you kiss her, so she must like you. Better get used to competition bro. Especially if this girl is pretty. I'll only tell you not to pursue If the other guy is her bf.
HappyLove Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 If you're very interested in dating her and it bothers you about the other guy, I'd ask. She was probably testing you somehow. It was stupid of her to say it, so I really think it was a test to see how you'd react.
Lokie Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 Todreaminblue said what I feel: i will say this though when i am normally confused about motives of someone its normally a game of some sort behind it...games are what confuse people..in thi scase you me and anyone else who reads this
Author Mliu Posted September 7, 2013 Author Posted September 7, 2013 I have several questions for you. Why wait a month to come see this girl? She isn't your girlfriend so why be annoyed, that she saw someone else prior to your stroll in the park? Does she even know that the stroll was a date? What kind of move did this other guy make? Did she say that's her boyfriend? Anyway, I believe nothing is wrong. I'm assuming that the other guy is not her bf. She let you kiss her, so she must like you. Better get used to competition bro. Especially if this girl is pretty. I'll only tell you not to pursue If the other guy is her bf. I'm annoyed because we met on a dating website and she was interested in me. we were planning to meet up earlier but thought it would be better to get to know each other before meeting up. Why go on a dating website looking for a relationship when you have a crush on someone else? I reckon the guy knew she was chatting to me and thought he'll ask her before it's too late. I do understand why he did that though. She didn't say he was the boyfriend and once i mentioned about the boyfriend, she ignored it so i'm guessing she could be, what HappyLove said, is testing my reaction. Was talking to a friend of mine and he said that she could of done that to see if it was legit and not casual sex. Most guys who wants to meet up just want casual sex, Right? So she could of said that to see if I was that sort. Either way, she seems happy to be around me and I just take things slow and ask her. Dont want to ask her directly just in case it will ruin the good relationship we have at the moment. Can i give out subtle hints?
Woop1337 Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 You are in good shape. Just ask her on a date. Don't be needy. Dont overwhelm her with emotional stuff. It's in the bag.
Author Mliu Posted September 14, 2013 Author Posted September 14, 2013 I think she lost interest in me. When we met online and went on our first "date", we used to text a lot.. within minutes of one another, after that second "date", she takes longer than usual to text back.. Is that a sign that she isn't interested? We usually text a few sentence lines at a time but now it's like a sentence. Oh yea, I think I suffer from paranoia which doesn't help but I think she prefers the other guy... Guess it's time to move on.
Dallers Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 I think she lost interest in me. When we met online and went on our first "date", we used to text a lot.. within minutes of one another, after that second "date", she takes longer than usual to text back.. Is that a sign that she isn't interested? We usually text a few sentence lines at a time but now it's like a sentence. Oh yea, I think I suffer from paranoia which doesn't help but I think she prefers the other guy... Guess it's time to move on. When you are comparing sentence amounts yes you certainly are thinking into this far too much. But so many people do you are not alone and paranoia is something completely different. This is just over analysing something that does not need to be analysed. You may not see it, but as you are the one who thinks it is fading and you are the one thinking it is time to move on, you could actually be the whole reason why it is not working and not her.
tinydancer93 Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 I think you just need to straight out ASK her. Something like, "I remember you mentioning that a guy you liked had made a move on you...I was just wondering if anything happened with that, because I'm not interested in seeing someone who is involved with somebody else" - or something like that. I'm assuming by the very fact that you posted this means that you aren't ok with seeing her if she is dating another guy. So just ask her straight out, don't put up with games.
Author Mliu Posted September 15, 2013 Author Posted September 15, 2013 When you are comparing sentence amounts yes you certainly are thinking into this far too much. But so many people do you are not alone and paranoia is something completely different. This is just over analysing something that does not need to be analysed. You may not see it, but as you are the one who thinks it is fading and you are the one thinking it is time to move on, you could actually be the whole reason why it is not working and not her. A friend said the exact same thing. Maybe I am... You know... If she was reading this, It would definitely be awkward. I think you just need to straight out ASK her. Something like, "I remember you mentioning that a guy you liked had made a move on you...I was just wondering if anything happened with that, because I'm not interested in seeing someone who is involved with somebody else" - or something like that. I'm assuming by the very fact that you posted this means that you aren't ok with seeing her if she is dating another guy. So just ask her straight out, don't put up with games. I've been told it's taboo to mention other guys on a date (not even sure if it's a date) but will ask her even though it would be a tad awkward.
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