very concerned Posted November 17, 2004 Posted November 17, 2004 Here are a selection of words/actions/phrases my g/f uses:- 1. I like people to look at me when I'm out ( attention seeking? ) 2. Pervert ( not at me....but still...used too often ) 3. She knows every bouncer in town ( has banged 2 of them ) 4. She told people she caught "something nasty" from an ex ( sympathy vote? ) 5. Psycho ( not at me but uttered far far far far far far too often ) 6. Has been pregnant to 3 men ( 2 mis-carried ) 7. I'm not interested in money ( several usages! ) 8. Likes her butthole being licked ( which I drunkenly did ! ) 9. Claims never having been dumped .....( not yet! ) 10. I've been nicknamed "the body" ( v true......but VAIN VAIN !! ) Big question is.....SHOULD I BE RUNNING FOR THE HILLS.....even if the sex is heavenly Please advise....
alphamale Posted November 17, 2004 Posted November 17, 2004 Dear V.C. I see MANY red flags going up here. Use her for the great sex but keep her at arms length. This is a very loose, barfly-ish, woman who IS looking for money (most of the good lookin ones are). Hopefully this one will not end up being the mother of your children.
tiki Posted November 17, 2004 Posted November 17, 2004 I think you should stick around to see what other horrendous things she will say. But, chances are, you'll be the ex that is psycho, gave her a nasty STD, broke and couldn't even give a decent tossed salad. True? The only you need to be tossing is her out the door! You'll be the next on her list!
tattoomytoe Posted November 17, 2004 Posted November 17, 2004 i hope you do not have to change your name to VD. She sounds like a real wiener!
Queen B Posted November 17, 2004 Posted November 17, 2004 This is a good one.....my opinion... 1. I think everyone likes attention but the degrees you go to to get it are what seperate the normals from the psychos...lol..or even the pervs heheheh 2. are they pervs? 3. I probably know most of the bouncers where I live because I went to school with them...and I've had sex with more than 2 guys... I don't think that makes me a slut.... 4. It can happen to the best of us, at least she's telling you she had of may have an STD you should make sure that it's all cleared up 5. are they psycho's 6. She's probably not on the pill or using condoms...I suggest protection unless you want babies 7. Does she have a job? Is she a millionaire or an an heiress? 8. I'm sure you like your penis licked...just a different sexual preferance...either way make sure things are clean..i.e. take a shower or bath before... 9. Lying through her teeth or is not secure enough to hang out with a guy for very long. 10. Maybe you're that hot...or she just loves your body? I guess I'd be asking how long you've been together and how responsible this girl is now... I mean we all make mistakes but we can all either never move beyond them or take responsibility for our actions.... About the sex...I'm sure that if you try hard, you can find great sex somewhere else...good luck!
savethedrama4allama Posted November 17, 2004 Posted November 17, 2004 Hmm... 1. Me too. At least she admits it. 2. Who does she call a pervert? Child molesters? Makes sense then. Maybe just a word she uses commonly (mine is bigass. Everything is bigass.) 3. Sounds like showing off to me. Its irritating when people claim to know "everyone" of a single profession. 4. Could be true. How do you know? 5. Again, who's a psycho? 6. Has she ever heard of birth control? Or does she want to be a mother and keeps miscarrying? 7. Red flag...dangerous..could be true though 8. OKay seriously, who cares? 9. Maybe she hasn't been dumped but it sounds like she's been cheated on? I'd rather be dumped. 10. Sounds stuck up Sounds to me like she's somewhat insecure and seeks a lot of attention. And also that she'll probably say nasty things about you behind your back if/when you break up. But most people do!
Pocky Posted November 17, 2004 Posted November 17, 2004 Sounds like you don't even like your girlfriend. Maybe you should stop sticking around just for the "heavenly sex" and end the relationship.
EC Posted November 17, 2004 Posted November 17, 2004 1- Everygirl likes attention..I am an attention whore. 2-I call everyone a perv..I do it jokingly of course. 3-I know a lot of bouncers and I get in clubs free...whats wrong with that? Don't hate..As for screwing two of them is it just coincidence they are both Bouncers? 4-What did she catch? Is it gone? Yuck But it happens... 5-Does she know Mr. Llamas ex girlfriend? 6-Again maybe not on birth control..or goes back to number 1-Attention. 7-I still don't see whats wrong with this one? 8- Dont see anything wrong with this one either? 9-How many relationships has she had? Insecure and again back to number 1- attention 10-What do you want to be nicknamed the Inch? C'mon whats wrong with that? I think she sounds like any normal girl. She's being honest and herself with you. Does sound a little insecure and a bit of an attention seeker but then again who isn't insecure in some ways? Do you like the girl? Are you two serious? If not then like another poster said use her for the sex and keep her at arms length...If you are serious then forget her past, make sure her "something nasty" is "something gone already", make sure she's on birthcontrol, and be happy:)
bluechocolate Posted November 17, 2004 Posted November 17, 2004 Originally posted by Pocky Sounds like you don't even like your girlfriend. Maybe you should stop sticking around just for the "heavenly sex" and end the relationship. ditto
very confused1 Posted November 18, 2004 Posted November 18, 2004 ok - i bit the bullet and dumped her last night. What a nightmare! Did you hear the "explosion" on your side of the pond. Here's what happened......... I delivered the bad news and today she's off on a 4 hour car trip with her son and her instant reaction was " well, if anything happens to me and my son (whilst travelling I assume ) then I hope you feel bad" Then she vented her spleen in a manner I've never witnessed. She said:- You're a piece of s**t on my shoe Are you gay? My mother thought you were a p***k ( only met her twice ) This is emotional abuse. You'll never meet anyone who'll love you the way I do. You need therapy Then as I took my leave......a classic........"I'd hate not having you in my life at all. I would like to keep you as a friend, if not as a lover" ( don't think so ) I ran to my car I can assure you. That was the scariest 30 mins of my life by far. Lesson is: Go with your gut instinct about someone. From week 2 I knew she was "major grief" and I was right. We only dated 10 weeks. I could go on but I'm chain smoking today and need more tobacco! Thanks for all the postings
Barby Posted November 18, 2004 Posted November 18, 2004 Sounds like she was a case....I don't think she sounds like "every girl" at least I'd hope not.... You probably did the right thing but running away from her.
tattoomytoe Posted November 18, 2004 Posted November 18, 2004 yep, what a great mom! bet her son turns out GREAT!
whichwayisup Posted November 19, 2004 Posted November 19, 2004 Big question is.....SHOULD I BE RUNNING FOR THE HILLS....YES! Even if she is excellent in bed. She's not playing with a full deck of cards. OR she has some serious self esteem issues and needs some therapy BAAADD. Little red flags are running away from her OK? Sorry to be so harsh here but I think if you stay with her, you are the one who is gonna be emotionally drained from her. She seems self absorbed and not mature enough to be in a real life relationship. Just my 9 Cents worth...
Merin Posted November 19, 2004 Posted November 19, 2004 Good God, those aren't Red Flag's.. thats a BIG ASS FIRE! Who would tell people they got an STD for sympathy? Holy **** what ever happened to saying thier puppy got lost or something? Sheesh! Run!
JackieQ Posted November 19, 2004 Posted November 19, 2004 Merin you crack me up... I agree I agree I agree... moving on is GOOD!
stevie-r Posted November 23, 2004 Posted November 23, 2004 i've managed to avoid women like that. by luck, not design! why did you not see it coming? ah yes, heavenly sex. we men are so gullable! 6 out of 10 points you made would make me instantly dump someone. but then again, we're all different. Hope you learned your lesson!
jzlove Posted November 23, 2004 Posted November 23, 2004 Originally posted by Pocky Sounds like you don't even like your girlfriend. Maybe you should stop sticking around just for the "heavenly sex" and end the relationship. Originally posted by bluechocolate ditto ditto ditto ditto...
kev112 Posted December 14, 2004 Posted December 14, 2004 At least 6 of these phrases would merit a quick exit! As for the other 4....well......it's the perfect excuse to feign injury and bail it. Leave this unbalanced women for someone else to deal with.
Mr Weir Posted December 21, 2004 Posted December 21, 2004 "very concerned" i'd be very very concerned !
Maestro Posted December 20, 2005 Posted December 20, 2005 BALLS - is coming home late after a night out with the guys, smelling of perfume and beer with lipstick on your collar, slapping your wife on the ass and having the balls to say: "you're next." I hope this clears up any confusion on the subject.
NYCmitch25 Posted December 20, 2005 Posted December 20, 2005 There is one of you born every minute.. MARRY HER "YOU'RE IN LOVE"
mental_traveller Posted December 22, 2005 Posted December 22, 2005 Don't marry her. Don't get her pregnant. Don't catch a disease from her. If you avoid those 3 things, then you should be able to get some regular good free sex until you find someone more suitable.
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