questionlife Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 What do you do when you just need a hug (...or would actually prefer a cuddle but you are single and you don't have any real close friends to just ask (or demand! a hug from
salparadise Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 What do you do when you just need a hug (...or would actually prefer a cuddle but you are single and you don't have any real close friends to just ask (or demand! a hug from Good question. It's been a couple of months since I had a good hug or even touching beyond a handshake with other guys. But I have a date tomorrow and I'm guessing there will be some hugging and cuddling. I had a therapist for awhile who hugged me at the end of each session. She did really good hugs. So good in fact, I think she was crossing the line. She was hot too, and loved to talk about sex. I've thought about going back and telling her to forget the talk - just a 50 minute hug please. 1
TheGuard13 Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 You just go up to someone you're sort of close to and say "I really need a hug". 1
hotpotato Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 I'm part of an alternative community. We give and get hugs and cuddles if we want. 1
Author questionlife Posted September 7, 2013 Author Posted September 7, 2013 You just go up to someone you're sort of close to and say "I really need a hug". Problem is... I need a really long, deep hug - not the kind you would get from just a friend
miss_jaclynrae Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 Being in an LDR, I get this feeling a lot. I end up just sleeping. Or crying... One or the other! 1
Keenly Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 I guess I do nothing and just suck it up. I've always considered any form of touching short of s high five or fist bump to be intimate, So I'm not going to ask my friends for a hug. 1
Divasu Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 After I dropped my dad at the airport not too long ago, I came home really wanting to hug him so I hugged the pillow he slept on after he left. And then I weeped like a baby. 3
HokeyReligions Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 I understand the feeling. I guess everyone must find their own way to cope. When hubby was in the hospital for so long last year I cried a lot and just wanted yo hug/hold him and be held. I hugged our dogs a lot and still do. When hubby came home all I wanted to do was hold him all the time. Its the loneliest feeling to need that hug and not have it. I did the pillow holding too and when I was home I never changed his pillowcase. I wish I could give you an answer but I don't think there is one. Hubby and I hug a LOT more than we used to. I wish I could bottle the hug because I know the day will come when it will he gone forever. I even thought about stuffing one of his shirts and include a heating pad so its warm, and sewing the sleeve cuffs together so it wraps around me. I meam I really know what it feels like to miss that embrace. 1
Grumpybutfun Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 Move to the deep south...every woman I know hugs or tries to hug me. I have to give them props because I am not the most friendly of people. At first, I was shocked and uncomfortable but I learned that it is their greeting and their goodbye. Maybe like their Aloha. My wife gets hugged even more by men and women. She gets hugged by strangers which I think is odd, but hey...she is naturally friendly. I get overhugged...which I assure you is a thing. Grumps 1
NGC1300 Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 What do you do when you just need a hug (...or would actually prefer a cuddle but you are single and you don't have any real close friends to just ask (or demand! a hug from I've always turned to drugs. They haven't let me down yet. 1
thefooloftheyear Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 That's what your family is for...Never count on strangers from the street..Even if they give you a hug, you may as well hug a tree, because thats about as much as they care about you... Its unfortunate that many people have become alienated from their families. I have a very close family unit. Ill never worry about this problem. We are always there for each other. Plus, I have a lovely little angel of a daughter. A hug from her is better than a thousand hugs from strangers. TFY 3
RedRobin Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 Hugs from family and close friends are the best!! ... and if they aren't around, there is always snuggling with my dog. Don't laugh... he's been known as "my furry boyfriend" Sad, I know. But as they say "It's ok to love your pets... just not LUV your pets". 1
loveandstuff Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 After my break up, all I wanted was a simple hug. I didn't want it to be sexual or anything like that, I just wanted to know somebody cared enough to hug me. I found that my mom was great at supplying endless hugs lol She was happy because I'm 23 and don't want to hug mom anymore, but suddenly I was her little baby again. And I was happy because I was reassured that my mom is always there for me. 2
carhill Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 What do you do when you just need a hug (...or would actually prefer a cuddle but you are single and you don't have any real close friends to just ask (or demand! a hug from I give them. You've touched upon another fundamental reason men seek out women. We don't get much affection otherwise, platonic or not. Men, in my demographic anyway, don't hug and kiss their same sex friends like women generally do. Ergo, I find most male friends, even the younger ones, a bit reticent with male/male affection, even though we understand we otherwise love each other. The good news is many have mellowed with age, and open affection is more accepted. Probably that mortality thing.
LBlanc Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 What do you do when you just need a hug (...or would actually prefer a cuddle but you are single and you don't have any real close friends to just ask (or demand! a hug from hug a dog!...:D:D...doesn't have to be your dog...just find a friendly one with no fleas!
sillyanswer Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 What do you do when you just need a hug (...or would actually prefer a cuddle but you are single and you don't have any real close friends to just ask (or demand! a hug from Try walking down the street holding up a sign saying "free hugs". You'll soon find someone who wants a hug, and that's your problem solved. But since you already made the sign you can just keep walking down the street to stock on on hugs.
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