brandon26003 Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 I'm a 33 year old successful black male. I met this girl from a dating website and instantly hit it off. Things are going great. Everything inside me wants to go fast, but that has gotten me hurt in the past. We are doing good with the pace it is at now. My problem is that every time I start dating someone, another female shows their interest. Before, I have dated multiple women and have had success (sex). When I try to be a one woman man, something happens and it normally ends quickly. I know I wouldn't technically be doing anything wrong if I were to sleep with/date both of them, but I see a lot of potential in the girl I recently met from the dating website. I wouldn't want the same to happen to me because it has several times. I think I am going to try and be a one woman man again because of the potential with the girl I met. What would you do?
SubliminalSessions Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 I know I wouldn't technically be doing anything wrong if I were to sleep with/date both of them, I think I am going to try and be a one woman man again because of the potential with the girl I met. What would you do? Brutha, you making us bruthas look bad right about now. Yes, dating and sleeping with both is technically wrong. You can't do that...it's either 1 or the other. Assuming by dating, you mean meeting them more than once or twice. You can date both, but sleeping with both then that's just cheating, point ****ing blank. If you see the potential, just go for it. Stop slutting around with different hoes and just stick with this one. That's what I think the issue is with online dating...people just can't seem to stick with 1. I'm not just saying you, I'm talking about everyone in general. What is this "something happen" and it ends quickly you referring to?
SubliminalSessions Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 And if sex is your success with woman, then go to the hookers club and you will have only success. really????? Because i got the impression that you still think like a player. You make a good point there. It's interesting to hear from the OP that he considers sex as the success. Because now, it kind of makes me think about my own defintion of success...and that perhaps, what it is maybe a bit deeper than most people consider. Success to me is not sex. And I'm just speaking for me. That may be for some people, but not me. To me, sex is more of a short-term victory. I have walked away from having sex with some hot candidates, sometimes I regretted it. But...it would not have been success if it didn't turn into a relationship after the sex.
SubliminalSessions Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 Only complete douche bags have sex with multiple partners and DON'T TELL the women involved. If you weren't so busy thinking with your d*ck, you might actually realize that it's NOT fair to force a woman's sexual history onto a another woman without her knowledge. That's how women get UTI's, STI's, etc. etc. - having another woman's bacteria placed inside them by greedy, self entitled jack-holes who don't have enough common courtesy to play fair. How about thinking of other besides yourself? Yeah, I know...what a radical concept. Well, in understand with what he's saying...I can see how one would be lead to believe it's okay to date and sleep with 2 women at the same time, because technically you're not 'married' to either so there's no official commitment. But, I don't think people who wrote books for relationships who suggest dating more than 1 more person unless you're committed, were referring to also having sex with them.
aussietigerwolf Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 if you want to sleep with both of them then let them know. I'd be prepared for one or both to not be ok with it and go elsewhere though.
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