singme2sleep Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 Few weeks ago I stopped at a local gas station on my way home from work.The guy came over to my car and as he asked me what I wanted I noticed he was very cute. He smiled at me for a few seconds (full eye contact) as I smiled back. Then he grabbed a brush and proceeded to clean my windshield which 95% of the time they never do when I get gas at those various locations. As he was cleaning he kept smiling at me through the window...then asked how I was doing today, so we made a little small talk and I thought I picked up the flirting signal from him but still wasn't sure. When I said my day was "ok" he grinned and replied "just ok?" He then kept smiling and making eye contact until our interaction had ended but that could simply be his personality?! I saw him again last week and he seemed to remember me. He smiled a lot and when I asked him how he was, he told me "great, working until 11 then getting ready for school". I thought he was purposely letting me know that... A male friend suggested that if I see him again, I should give him my phone number but I'm afraid I will look desperate if he isn't interested. Thoughts???? Does it sound like he's interested in me or was he just being friendly and doing his job?
Mliu Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 Sounds like he was flirty, I'm no expert at this but why don't you ask him for a coffee or something. Just pretend you are asking him as a friend, I do this all the time if I like someone. Worse they can do it reject you. If he said yes to that, then you're both on 1
Author singme2sleep Posted September 7, 2013 Author Posted September 7, 2013 Thanks that's good advice. I went there today hoping he would be there, determined to be brave and give him my phone number but he wasn't there. Now I feel silly, think I watch too many movies to assume we had sparks :-(
Dallers Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 Next time he might be there,.... But the second visit would have been cause to approach. He is probably like that with a lot of people but if you like him then do not play the old traditional game of the man going for the woman first, in instances like this he would not jeopardise his job and to me it sounded like he was game. 1
Author singme2sleep Posted September 8, 2013 Author Posted September 8, 2013 Next time he might be there,.... But the second visit would have been cause to approach. He is probably like that with a lot of people but if you like him then do not play the old traditional game of the man going for the woman first, in instances like this he would not jeopardise his job and to me it sounded like he was game. I guess I've just gotten used to keeping my expectations low, so I'm not disappointed. You're prob right about his job though... Hopefully he is still there and when he said "getting ready for school" he didn't mean going away as in he was only here for the summer. But if I'm lucky enough to see him again, I won't let opportunity pass me by again! 1
truth_seeker Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 Thanks that's good advice. I went there today hoping he would be there, determined to be brave and give him my phone number but he wasn't there. Now I feel silly, think I watch too many movies to assume we had sparks :-( Don't feel silly because you like someone Go with your gut. If you feel something might be there, you're probably right. 1
Author singme2sleep Posted September 9, 2013 Author Posted September 9, 2013 Don't feel silly because you like someone Go with your gut. If you feel something might be there, you're probably right. Thank you, and I think you're right. My guy instinct says there is and it's usually never wrong. Hopefully I get another chance to see this guy! Fingers crossed lol.
Author singme2sleep Posted September 10, 2013 Author Posted September 10, 2013 Well I was bold...but too late! I went there today (looking cute) and didn't see him anywhere. So I decided "what the hell?!" and asked another worker about him. Apparently he up and quit a few days ago without warning. Now he's gone and I gave no way of finding him since I don't know his last name. Fml Had my chance and blew it! Stupid girl!!! Stupid girl!!! :-/ Seriously people, carpe diem because you never know when a opportunity will come but then pass you by just as quickly if you don't act. Lesson learned...sadly!
truth_seeker Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 Well I was bold...but too late! I went there today (looking cute) and didn't see him anywhere. So I decided "what the hell?!" and asked another worker about him. Apparently he up and quit a few days ago without warning. Now he's gone and I gave no way of finding him since I don't know his last name. Fml Had my chance and blew it! Stupid girl!!! Stupid girl!!! :-/ Seriously people, carpe diem because you never know when a opportunity will come but then pass you by just as quickly if you don't act. Lesson learned...sadly! Why don't you ask the guy who works there for his name? His number? 2
Sweeetie Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 Why don't you ask the guy who works there for his name? His number? Yes, or just ask him where this guy is working now, may not be too far away for you to make an accidental trip there He seemed to find you attractive enough to flirt with. Carpe diem! 1
Author singme2sleep Posted September 10, 2013 Author Posted September 10, 2013 Ok so I got his last name! And when I asked his (now former) co-worker if he seemed to act that way with a lot of girls, he said "Nah if he was flirting...he was flirting" Hmmm guess I will see if he has a Facebook account.
Author singme2sleep Posted September 11, 2013 Author Posted September 11, 2013 Look at it a different way. This guy quite his job without warning. Red flag right there. There are 10's of thousands of eligible guys out there. Plus you are young! Party, enjoy yourself. Just cause a guy flirted with you doesn't mean it's a sign from the universe. If there is a sign is that he quit a job without any warning... Think it through logically. He is still in school which means he is young, immature. Chances of success even if you both hooked up? Small... Move on to better..Someone that doesn't quit without warning, but try keep things light and fun until then. Enjoy your youth (it goes too quickly). This is not a missed opportunity. This is a lucky escape. Thank god for that and start having fun! I appreciate your input, but sometimes there are circumstances. I think of myself as a good and responsible person. Once I left a job without giving notice because my boss was horrible to me, I couldn't take another day and the pay wasn't worth it. That doesn't mean I'm irresponsible...and I learned from that experience! Furthermore, you say I'm "so young" but 26 is not 19 lol. I don't get flirted with everyday of my life and I believe that certain things are fated. Although what you mentioned about it being fate that I purposely didn't see him, well I didn't think of it that way...now I'm more confused than ever! *You also can be in college at any age, some people go back after not finishing and others just start later in life.*
natwilliams Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 I would look him up on facebook honestly. You have a pretty good excuse since he no longer works there. You might wait a few days tho. Good luck and keep your options open
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