BeautifulBlueEyes Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 So in May - I got my heart crushed and it was a hard ass time moving on (and I didn't completely move on). Now my ex wants me back and I do love him and I want to be with him - but I think it is too soon. I have been hanging out with this other guy and I DO like him (and my ex IS aware of him) but I don't know if it see it going anywhere. The new man is pretty commitment phobic and doesn't even make plans well. So I guess I am torn - I love and want to be with my ex but...can things really have changed after such a short time. However, he is the one I want to be with and while it would be nice to see what happens with the new one...I'm not that sure I should wait when he doesn't seem that interested in either. Maybe I should just take my time with my ex and make sure he understands things need to go slowly?
Mariposa10 Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 Why did you guys break up in the first place? And how long has it been since the breakup? You have to make sure your ex is not just jealous...
Author BeautifulBlueEyes Posted September 6, 2013 Author Posted September 6, 2013 From what I understand - he broke up with me because he wasn't sure exactly how he felt about me and he didn't think he was in a place to be in a serious relationship. He wanted to figure some things out for himself. I also think he got scared because I (while not his first relationship) am probably the most mature person he's dated so it was kinda serious. We broke up in May - then talked in June about making it a break - then in July called it off completely and didn't talk again until late Aug. He could be jealous and that is why I am not anxious to make any sudden jumps or re-commitments. I told him he needs to win me back if he is serious.
Mariposa10 Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 From what I understand - he broke up with me because he wasn't sure exactly how he felt about me and he didn't think he was in a place to be in a serious relationship. He wanted to figure some things out for himself. I also think he got scared because I (while not his first relationship) am probably the most mature person he's dated so it was kinda serious. We broke up in May - then talked in June about making it a break - then in July called it off completely and didn't talk again until late Aug. He could be jealous and that is why I am not anxious to make any sudden jumps or re-commitments. I told him he needs to win me back if he is serious. Hmmm, I don't know. I hope someone can give you some helpful advice, maybe someone who has experienced this. I would probably advice you to keep dating the other guy since your ex sounds uncertain, but the guy you're dating doesn't sound like someone who's willing to commit, and if that's what you want in the end, then you're wasting your time. Take things slowly with your ex, remember this time you're in charge.
Speakingofwhich Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 If you want to be with your ex, then by all means, be with him. Too many people have hesitated, only to lose their one true love and then have to end up with someone else. Prince Charles, for one. Timing is everything. If it doesn't work out there will be plenty of other opportunities in the future to meet other people.
Author BeautifulBlueEyes Posted September 6, 2013 Author Posted September 6, 2013 *nods* Thats the problem - I respect his reasons for breaking up with me. He didn't cheat on me or anything like that. He said/says he does love me but he just wasn't in the right place. I am not "officially" dating anyone and I plan to keep it that way until someone steps up to the plate. I just...I don't want to get hurt OR hurt either of them which puts a kink in things.
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