Orije Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 So I am dating this girl and we have been dating for about 4 months and are soon to move into a relationship an a problem came up. She texted me thanking for the surprise i left her and i responded what surprise? She said thanks for leaving a rose in her locker and I was like I didn't send any rose and she told me how happy it made her. Now I am really jealous and everything. Is it wrong to feel this way? I don't know who else knows how to get into her locker and I don't want this other guy ruining everything. I am upset and so jealous i dont know what to do. any advice?
soccerrprp Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 Keep alert and active and may require that you step-up your game. You have competition. You should certainly clear this up with your gf and ask her who else would be able to access her locker. Good luck! 1
acrosstheuniverse Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 ... or maybe she was just telling a lie, to get you to be jealous. Maybe that's because a) she wants you to step up your game and ask her out already or b) she likes to play games... Why aren't you guys in a relationship yet? 1
todreaminblue Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 its a bit creepy...i would as soccerppp said be alert.......its strange and not really right is it to leave a rose in a taken girls locker..i would automatically be on the defense if i found out a rose wasnty from my partner and soemoen broke into my locker to put it there....nto really done...not romantic or inspiring at all...paranoia and watching too many horror movies is probably my problem that or i have been followed and stalked..............i would not worry about competition ...it could be a concern though..especially if her address was in the locker on any paperwork....yep i think of that.someone is watching...sounds like a movie....cue music.....good luck....super creepy...deb
Dallers Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 (edited) If there really is another guy after your girl the last thing you do is get jealous my friend. Attack! Attack! fight back. For a start do not make out they came from you because when Mr Wet Dream lets on to your girl they were from him (which he will do) she will then be so pissed at you for claiming that actually they came from you. Do not underestimate that she may be making this entire thing up as a ploy to either make you jealous or to see how you would react and if you would lie and claim that you sent them then she will know either way that you did not. An Alpha would never claim he did something that he did not. What you should do is confirm you did not send those roses and laugh it off, act as calm as can be without showing any sign of it affecting you. The leader of the pack is not bothered by other potential interests in his prize because he knows he is far superior to any other fool around that may try and steal what is not his. Edited September 7, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1
todreaminblue Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 (edited) If there really is another guy after your girl the last thing you do is get jealous my friend. Attack! Attack! fight back. For a start do not make out they came from you because when Mr Wet Dream lets on to your girl they were from him (which he will do) she will then be so pissed at you for claiming that actually they came from you. Do not underestimate that she may be making this entire thing up as a ploy to either make you jealous or to see how you would react and if you would lie and claim that you sent them then she will know either way that you did not. An Alpha would never claim he did something that he did not. What you should do is confirm you did not send those roses and laugh it off, act as calm as can be without showing any sign of it affecting you. The leader of the pack is not bothered by other potential interests in his prize because he knows he is far superior to any other fool around that may try and steal what is not his. i think it would be really lame thing to say you got a rose and then ring your partner and say thankyou fro the rose......sounds retarded...lame....stupid...and i am a woman......devious women no.......any woman who does this would be in my opinion pretty lame.. you are right i dont think he needs to be jealous.....watchful maybe...still cant imagine a woman giving herself a rose...lol......thats whack........deb Edited September 7, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Dallers Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 (edited) i think it would be really lame thing to say you got a rose and then ring your partner and say thankyou fro the rose......sounds retarded...lame....stupid...and i am a woman......devious women no.......any woman who does this would be in my opinion pretty lame.. you are right i dont think he needs to be jealous.....watchful maybe...still cant imagine a woman giving herself a rose...lol......thats whack........deb If only every woman on this planet was like you, and I am assuming you automatically would reply saying the same to me as a man ( thank you by the way ) however they are not. I would not put this past the ability of anyone especially not if they are still at school. Edited September 6, 2013 by Dallers
Author Orije Posted September 7, 2013 Author Posted September 7, 2013 I called her and we talked for a little bit about it and i learned that they didn't put a rose in her locker. They had put it in her bookbag during lunch when she went to the bathroom and she doesn't know who it was from. I told her I'm not all that worried about it because I know she really does like me alot and I'm the only guy in her eyes. She told me the rose surprise thing was really cute and it made her day feel better. I wasn't trying to be too bothered about it. But she then posted new pictures online and one of them was of the rose and she even put the rose as her facebook photo cover, so i asked why? I told her i know its from another guy and it was nice, but it upsets me that you put it as your facebook cover. I told her what if a girl sent me a teddy bear or chocolates and I put it as my cover photo? She said she understood what i was saying and that I was right about what i was saying. So we stayed on the phone talking until she fell asleep and now I see she forgot to take the rose off of her fb cover cause she knocked out. I don't believe she meant anything bad by it or thought of it in the same way as I did so do you think its alright to ask her tomorrow to kindly remove the picture off facebook or should I leave it go and not bring it back up?
NateC Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 You could also one-up this "other" guy by surprising her with more than that. 1
Scales Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 The rose makes no difference at all. Either your her man or you aren't. Honestly I would let her keep it up, if she likes it whats the big deal. You can be mad about some dude getting all up in your territory, but at the end of the day its her environment thus her choice to react to it. If anything, I would buy some roses and leave them around random places. Buy different colored roses and put two in her book bag with note saying "from your real BF, can't touch this". There are a lot of ways you can deal with this situation, but you can't change how she will react to it. You can make her change her main facebook photo, but you can't change how she feels about the rose. There is some competition out there but you have the advantage. Time to blow that garbage out of the water.
ChessPieceFace Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 High school ..... ... so anyway, "rose guy" is most likely a tongue-tied freak who is too afraid to make an in-person approach, but imagines his little gesture will somehow win her over. I wouldn't be afraid of your gf getting stolen by this freak. I'd be afraid of him psychologically going off the rails due to his desperate unrequited love, and taking out his inner rage on you or your GF.
todreaminblue Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 (edited) dont understand why she woudl put it as her face book cover....and that it made her day.....she doesnt even know who its from....could be another girl ..could be jason in a hockey mask.........no.......the toxic avenger......these guys hang at schools .... yes she should take it down from face book as another poster said it is actually disrespectful of your relationship and you in general..she is young though...does not really make a whole lot of sense that it made her day when you should be the one who makes her day ...maybe its a hint...make her day ...i dont know...buy her stuff...bit twisted....good luck ...deb Edited September 7, 2013 by todreaminblue
Author Orije Posted September 7, 2013 Author Posted September 7, 2013 Yea I understand what you guys mean. I was very jealous and upset at first when she told me so I got over it and when she put it as her cover i lost it lol. I asked her bestfriend about it and she said maybe she didnt see it in a bad way as I did cause she said the picture she took looked nice so thats probably why, but im like still -_- I'm going to post a random picture of a teddy bear and say a girl got it for me as a surprise and put it as my profile picture xD naw jp thats mean. But I was thinking of letting it go and moving on cause I don't want to start any fights between s or weird feelings. Oh and im 18 and she is 17 just so you guys know. We were in a relationship before and things happened so we took a 2 week break and instead of getting back together she wanted to start dating again to get to know each other well. Tonight when she was half asleep she asked how i felt for her and when i responded she knocked out. So I was thinking that tomorrow i should ask her how she feels for me ad try to move us into a more exclusive relationship!
ChessPieceFace Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 Oh yeah, forgot to respond to the facebook pic thing. She's either terribly insensitive or outright gross for leaving that up there. Ridiculous. Oh, high school. Maybe you should rent some episodes of The Wonder Years or The Facts of Life to help you out, LOL.
Dallers Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 I called her and we talked for a little bit about it and i learned that they didn't put a rose in her locker. They had put it in her bookbag during lunch when she went to the bathroom and she doesn't know who it was from. I told her I'm not all that worried about it because I know she really does like me alot and I'm the only guy in her eyes. She told me the rose surprise thing was really cute and it made her day feel better. I wasn't trying to be too bothered about it. But she then posted new pictures online and one of them was of the rose and she even put the rose as her facebook photo cover, so i asked why? I told her i know its from another guy and it was nice, but it upsets me that you put it as your facebook cover. I told her what if a girl sent me a teddy bear or chocolates and I put it as my cover photo? She said she understood what i was saying and that I was right about what i was saying. So we stayed on the phone talking until she fell asleep and now I see she forgot to take the rose off of her fb cover cause she knocked out. I don't believe she meant anything bad by it or thought of it in the same way as I did so do you think its alright to ask her tomorrow to kindly remove the picture off facebook or should I leave it go and not bring it back up? This is schoolgirl tactics through and through buddy you are being plaaaayyyyeed! She wants to make you jealous just to make herself feel better. Maybe there is a rose, big deal you do not go showing it off to every other fool in your life and rubbing it in your face knowing it would eat you up inside. Time to turn the tables, stop texting, calling and showing interest as if you have gone off her. Don't let on that you are bothered by the rose but make it clear that you do not need her and it does not make you jealous. Start flirting left right and centre with every piece of ass in sight and potentially find someone new. Then bang up a picture of your new girl on Facebook holding a rose
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