I have a long term boyfriend that I love, but I recently crush on somebody

[aqua.pe4rl]

Hi all,

 

I have a question. FYI, I am 24 years old. I've been with my bf for 2 and half years now. We've been long distance for around 6 months because I need to go back to my home country. I never like another guy while I am with him. And I think my bf is perfect for me, coz we can understand & accept each others fault, and I did fall for him when we start our relationship.

So, definitely if you ask me, I would not want to separate with him.

 

Recently, a week ago, I moved to a new office. There, I meet this guy, called R. He is very friendly to me and the most welcoming person in the office, and somehow I feel he is interested to me (by his body language). I like his charming personality & he is also quite good looking according to me (I am a visual person haha xD). Noticing that he likes me maybe just a bit, I respond to him by liking him back, though he does not know about this.

 

Now I think I am in infatuated stage, where I constantly feel insecure that he won't like me after he knows me better. I keep thinking about him even when I am not near him. I feel the butterflies in my stomach as in I just fallen in love, and I feel happy for no apparent reason. Oh, no, I thought, I have secretly betrayed my bf.

 

Anyway, I decide I don't want to keep a secret between me n bf, so I told him about this, and he is very understanding, coz he said that's okay & normal given the situation we faced now (we are LDR for 6 months now).

 

My question is, what should I do?

1) Block all connection with R, and don't be his friend even though I really want to be his friend. (I do this to respect my bf to which I want to be loyal)

 

2) Keep being friends with R and following my heart, and see what's the relationship heading us through. I mean, if it turns out I like R more than my bf, then I breakup with my bf.

 

3) I sometimes get upset also when R did not really nice to me (like not as friendly as usual). Lately, I've been avoiding him because I don't want our relationship to grow (even though I really want to try). I am too afraid that I will end up betraying my bf.

Today, I went back from the office sadly coz he did not notice when I went home (I have to call him to make him realise). Hahaha very stupid right?

I feel like a teenager. But, anyway, that is my very honest feeling.

 

4) How to make this feeling disappear? I don't wanna be the one that waits for him for nothing. Becoz I'm starting to feel that I am waiting for him.

 

Thank you so much for your time to read my post. Please reply & I hope we can share our stories. I'll try to reply yours too!

 

-Amanda

[Philosoraptor]

If you really want to be with your current boyfriend, this crush will simply disappear. If you don't really want to be with your current boyfriend, you will pursue this crush. If you choose the later, then end your current relationship beforehand.