anda Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 Hello everybody I met this guy online who is going to travel for the next 6 months and we slept together at the second date. I was thinking it would be a one-night stand and we'd probably not meet again. During that night he was really sweet and wanted me to stay so he would make breakfast in the morning but I left anyway and he insisted we should go out again. He wrote me again next week about meeting up, and I refused since I had other plans and after few days he wrote again, wanting to see me. So we met and we slept again together, and we talked a lot and realized we had a lot of things in common ( we both work in advertising ) Anyway, since then we met one more time also on his request we had sex again and he wanted to have a "cozy time" together the next day and we had. SO yesterday we went climbing together ( 4th date) and at the end of the day I gave him a gift ( a leatherman knife) for his 6 month trip to Africa, to remind him of me. He seemed overwhelmed and very surprised I would give him such a gift, and that I actually went to buy something for him. My question is should I have not given him a gift ? Is he going to lose interest now that I have shown mine through a gift ?
gaius Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 Seems like a nice gesture to me. I doubt his interest level will be influenced much by you buying him a gift. 3
Philosoraptor Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 I think it was a nice and thoughtful gesture, don't overthink it. If someone loses interest because you give them a gift then that's their loss. 3
Author anda Posted September 6, 2013 Author Posted September 6, 2013 Well the thing is that I am enjoying this way we are, no strings attached. And wouldn't want him to get the wrong message or scare him away. I am posting this question because of the way men usually are ... As soon as you give them a little more, they feel like there s not so much to *fight for* so they lose interest.
Philosoraptor Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 Well the thing is that I am enjoying this way we are, no strings attached. And wouldn't want him to get the wrong message or scare him away. I am posting this question because of the way boys, who don't know what they want, are ... As soon as you give them a little more, they feel like there s not so much to *fight for* so they lose interest. Fixed that for you. A man isn't going to let your gift have any affect on his interest in you. In fact, if he truly wants to be with you, it would only let him know you are interested as well. 1
soccerrprp Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 Well the thing is that I am enjoying this way we are, no strings attached. And wouldn't want him to get the wrong message or scare him away. I am posting this question because of the way men usually are ... As soon as you give them a little more, they feel like there s not so much to *fight for* so they lose interest. I would be surprised if he loses interest b/c of the gift alone. If I were interested in someone and she gave me a gift (as it's happened), I would be very pleased, but it would have no bearing on whether my interest wanes, perhaps it may influence how much my interest increases, but not wanes. 6-monts is a while. Keep it low key which shouldn't be a problem, right? See what happens when he comes back, but you will continue dating others in the meantime, right? 1
joe86 Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 Depends on the guy. If he's like me, I'd appreciate that and start thinking about how I could repay your generosity. 1
Author anda Posted September 6, 2013 Author Posted September 6, 2013 I would be surprised if he loses interest b/c of the gift alone. If I were interested in someone and she gave me a gift (as it's happened), I would be very pleased, but it would have no bearing on whether my interest wanes, perhaps it may influence how much my interest increases, but not wanes. 6-monts is a while. Keep it low key which shouldn't be a problem, right? See what happens when he comes back, but you will continue dating others in the meantime, right? Thank you for your answer! Yes this is nothing serious and I am dating others but I have to admit I like this guy, and the way things are now. We haven't talked about those things since this is just for fun and he is leaving next week.
Author anda Posted September 6, 2013 Author Posted September 6, 2013 Depends on the guy. If he's like me, I'd appreciate that and start thinking about how I could repay your generosity. Thank you for the answer! I don't want him to feel that he should repay or that it means anything more than just a nice gesture so that's also why I started this thread, wanted to see how other guys would see this but anyway I guess that's something individual.
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