385 Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 This girl I've dated on and off just got into a huge fight with me. Anyways, the result is I need to give her some space since per her words, she doesn't want to talk to me anymore. Thing is, I know she's into me but just angry at me at the moment. How long should I wait before re-initiating contact - in other words, how long does it normally take for girls to get over stuff? Days, couple weeks, months? Thanks!
Philosoraptor Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 She wanted space, she needs to be the one to reinitiate contact. Why would you want to continue a relationship with someone who you not only have huge fights with, but also walks away rather than to continue to evaluate and correct the issues? What was this fight about? 2
truth_seeker Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 Depends on the girl. Some hold grudges for a long time. Some want to test you to see if you will contact them right away. Suggestion: send her flowers or a teddy bear with a card apologizing. It shows you care and when she is ready (not mad anymore) she will contact you.
fanine Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 Depends on the girl. Some hold grudges for a long time. Some want to test you to see if you will contact them right away. Suggestion: send her flowers or a teddy bear with a card apologizing. It shows you care and when she is ready (not mad anymore) she will contact you. It all depends first of all what the disagreement was over? And how serious? What was it about? Some girls - or can we call them women? - might want no contact because they are hurt? Not for any other motive. Maybe she has a reason to be mad with you that might well mean she will not want any contact from you again. And a teddy bear???? Is she 12???
Author 385 Posted September 6, 2013 Author Posted September 6, 2013 She wanted space, she needs to be the one to reinitiate contact. Why would you want to continue a relationship with someone who you not only have huge fights with, but also walks away rather than to continue to evaluate and correct the issues? What was this fight about? Because I think it's something that we can work through. We fought about something that I didn't think was a big deal, but apparently it was. So now I know. Yeah that walk away thing is an issue though - something I have to consider.
Author 385 Posted September 6, 2013 Author Posted September 6, 2013 Depends on the girl. Some hold grudges for a long time. Some want to test you to see if you will contact them right away. Suggestion: send her flowers or a teddy bear with a card apologizing. It shows you care and when she is ready (not mad anymore) she will contact you. That's what I'm afraid of. Give her space at the risk of her thinking I'm not interested. I've apologized already.
Author 385 Posted September 6, 2013 Author Posted September 6, 2013 It all depends first of all what the disagreement was over? And how serious? What was it about? Some girls - or can we call them women? - might want no contact because they are hurt? Not for any other motive. Maybe she has a reason to be mad with you that might well mean she will not want any contact from you again. And a teddy bear???? Is she 12??? Hurt is probably the best way to describe it. From what you guys are saying, it seems like waiting for her to contact first is the best thing to do. I've apologized enough already.
truth_seeker Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 It all depends first of all what the disagreement was over? And how serious? What was it about? Some girls - or can we call them women? - might want no contact because they are hurt? Not for any other motive. Maybe she has a reason to be mad with you that might well mean she will not want any contact from you again. And a teddy bear???? Is she 12??? You're right: it depends what she is mad about. If she is overreacting over something, then give her space. If you did something unforgivable, then I doubt she will want to hear from you again. The teddy bear was just a suggestion. I take it you're not a fan?
fanine Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 You're right: it depends what she is mad about. If she is overreacting over something, then give her space. If you did something unforgivable, then I doubt she will want to hear from you again. The teddy bear was just a suggestion. I take it you're not a fan? Ha! Well I would probably appreciate a bottle of whisky more I guess it depends on the age, If 20 or something then maybe, but then it would also depend on the girl. And to the OP, I would give her a bit of space if she is feeling hurt, and indeed if it is something you may have done. When you do get back in touch I would say just keep it simple and calm, like i am sorry (if indeed it is your fault) and I would like to talk properly. Then it is up to her as to how she responds. But also you really need to look at your relationship as a whole. Is it really going anywhere if you keep falling out? Either you need to get together properly and talk and decide what you both really want, (if she talks to you again) or you get out of it. Otherwise it is going to be just like a broken record...
Thegreatestthing Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 I'd wait one week and then just send a casual email.
todreaminblue Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 This girl I've dated on and off just got into a huge fight with me. Anyways, the result is I need to give her some space since per her words, she doesn't want to talk to me anymore. Thing is, I know she's into me but just angry at me at the moment. How long should I wait before re-initiating contact - in other words, how long does it normally take for girls to get over stuff? Days, couple weeks, months? Thanks! years.....seriously just talk to her, she probably already forgotten what you started fighting for......deb
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