pa_H0k Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 Hey all, Im pretty confused.. I met and dated this girl for a little bit a while back, but things ended quickly because she was still in heartbreak mode and didn't want to risk me being a rebound. So it was ended. Fast forward a year later. I ran into her again. Flirted and she seemed really into me (eye contact, touching etc).. then suddenly pulls away by the end of the night. A friend tells me that after talking to her, apparently shes confused because shes attracted to me and believes we have wonderful chemistry, but she cannot see her self with me? what does that even mean? that I have a crappy personality or something? :[
todreaminblue Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 Hey all, Im pretty confused.. I met and dated this girl for a little bit a while back, but things ended quickly because she was still in heartbreak mode and didn't want to risk me being a rebound. So it was ended. Fast forward a year later. I ran into her again. Flirted and she seemed really into me (eye contact, touching etc).. then suddenly pulls away by the end of the night. A friend tells me that after talking to her, apparently shes confused because shes attracted to me and believes we have wonderful chemistry, but she cannot see her self with me? what does that even mean? that I have a crappy personality or something? :[ she is insecure and confused about what she feels for you.....maybe a bit gun shy with getting into anything with someone......probably nothing to do with you
mercuryshadow Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 I have a lot of experience with dating but quite honestly have no idea how to decipher a mixed message such as that. I wouldn't waste my time on someone so indecisive and confused.
anda Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 She might associate you with the period when she has been heartbroken and that might be why she is having the same attitude she had back then ?
soccerrprp Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 Hey all, Im pretty confused.. I met and dated this girl for a little bit a while back, but things ended quickly because she was still in heartbreak mode and didn't want to risk me being a rebound. So it was ended. Fast forward a year later. I ran into her again. Flirted and she seemed really into me (eye contact, touching etc).. then suddenly pulls away by the end of the night. A friend tells me that after talking to her, apparently shes confused because shes attracted to me and believes we have wonderful chemistry, but she cannot see her self with me? what does that even mean? that I have a crappy personality or something? :[ I have a feeling that this is another way to say that she cannot see the two of you together LONG TERM.
Woop1337 Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 Mixed messages usually means, she likes you. She just doesn't like you enough. Move on, it's always better to pursue women, who likes you a lot from the get go.
clia Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 It means you either aren't her usual type, or there is something about you that is preventing her from seeing herself with you long term. You don't fit into the mold of the type of guy she sees herself settling down with or wants to settle down with. For example, when I was around 31, I dated a guy for around six months who I got along with really well and really liked. However, he worked the phones at a call center making $9 an hour and had no motivation to do anything else. I am an attorney. Although I liked him a lot, I am a huge go-getter, and I tried to picture myself bringing him to the dinners and different of black tie events I go to which are filled with attorneys, Judges, and other professionals, and it was a huge block for me. I just couldn't see it. So, he was the type of guy that I would have said that "I couldn't see myself with," even though I did like him a lot.
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