melell Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 Saying we can be friends is like saying 'the dog died but we can still keep it' 5
Salvatore85 Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 My favorite one I ever saw was posted on twitter: Your ex asking to be friends after a break up is like... Kidnappers asking you to "keep in touch" after letting you go 5
Author melell Posted September 6, 2013 Author Posted September 6, 2013 Haha. I think it is great to make some humor out of it.
MyFault69 Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 Geez alot of you people are bitter about being friends. Sometimes you can care about a person besides the relationship to where you dont want to lose them in your life. 2
todreaminblue Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 Geez alot of you people are bitter about being friends. Sometimes you can care about a person besides the relationship to where you dont want to lose them in your life. that is true but what i think these posters are venting is that when you being the dumped ...when you are still in love with them, friendship then becomes very hard to handle......because you want more...it is hard to be friends with someone when you think of hugging them randomly adn even worse you keep looking at their lips.....smilin.........so i do understand their point...but yes you can be friends, but it definitely becomes a no, if you want to jump on them and beat them stupid with stuffed animals for hurting you, or hug them out of the blue for no reason at all but to be close to them ..there has to be no feelings other than friendship...deb 4
unexpectedlyhere Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 The thing I find most frustrating about the "we can still be friends" is that it is dangled in front of you like the dumper was doing something out of the goodness of their heart to make you feel better. Of course we can still be friends. Heck, there's very few people I *couldn't* be friends with. But it's something the dumper is offering to ease *their* feeling of loss and rupture, and that is probably damaging for me at the time of being offered. So of corse there is bitterness. Not about the offer per se, about the timing for it. 6
number122 Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 (edited) Geez alot of you people are bitter about being friends. Sometimes you can care about a person besides the relationship to where you dont want to lose them in your life. You do realize that women/men only say this, because of the guilt they feel? In order to make THEMSELVES feel better. Not you. Not in a ****ing chance. It's about them. My ex was the same. She cried and cried and kept telling me that I'm part of her life, I'm important to her, we will keep in touch, even after we found new partners, we would go to places together, we would be "friends". And now? I haven't heard from her for 7 months now. She still has my phone number, she still has my e-mail address, she's not blocked in FB. She could reach out to me. If she wanted. But she didn't. After all that drama. Protip for women: Do not listen to what they say, only watch what they do! That's what matters. So any women/men ever tells you "let's be friends" after a break-up, just simply ignore it. Or more like be angry with them. After all, they are not doing this for you, even though they are the ones breaking your very soul. Even at that point, it's still only about them. Edited September 6, 2013 by number122 3
KCCK Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 I dont love you anymore.. I dont see us as lovers but I still care for you as a friend... this is what my ex said after she dumped me for a guy she just met for 2 weeks. (we were together for 2 years)..haha... to me, these "we can still be friends thing" is something the dumper say to alleviate their feeling of being guilty... it's very hard to stay friends after they cheated.. should ask them back, how do you feel if our roles were reverse and I say those words to you? haha. 1
Salvatore85 Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 Geez alot of you people are bitter about being friends. Sometimes you can care about a person besides the relationship to where you dont want to lose them in your life. I'm not bitter at all, I just had zero desire to be friends with someone who put me through hell. I was absolutely offended when she cried because I said no to her friendship. How dare she be upset with me when she didn't have enough time to be my friend while we were together? 4
hotpotato Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 (edited) Geez alot of you people are bitter about being friends. Sometimes you can care about a person besides the relationship to where you dont want to lose them in your life. My last ex left, after *I* did all the work, tha's not caring. He went straight away to someone else, even changed his fb which he didn't for me. That's not caring. They dont really care, they wont you around just in case the relationship with the person they left for fails. The ex before came back and asked for forgiveness and proposed. One could argue that is caring. That's not most exes...Oh and he never pulled the 'lets be friends' bs. Edited September 6, 2013 by hotpotato
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 Geez alot of you people are bitter about being friends. Sometimes you can care about a person besides the relationship to where you dont want to lose them in your life. HAHAHAHAHAHA...okay
Ireallydontknow Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 When I told her we couldn't be friends she burst into tears and said "You always use that against me!" Screw you.
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