Chris715 Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 For those of you who haven't really followed my posts, I've been dealing with relationship/break up issues since early this year that has basically derailed my life. I'm a few weeks into school now and I had hoped getting into classes again would help me focus less on my ex and get my life on track. Wishful thinking. I don't know what it is but my depression's worsened since I started school again. I don't work with my ex anymore which caused me to be anxious as hell everyday but at the same time kept me happy in a weird sort of way. So I think the cut off of face to face contact with her might be part of it. I have no idea what I should do with school right now. I haven't been able to focus in class, get assignments done on time, etc. and I'm falling behind fast. Part of me wants to withdraw for the semester since I don't feel like I'm in any shape to be in school right now mentally. At the same time I'm in a pretty competitive electrical engineering program so withdrawing from my classes could be a big problem in the long run. I've looked into counseling services at school like some of you suggested but it's too expensive right now with the part time job I work, so not really an option. Feeling completely trapped Any thoughts and advice would be good
Chi townD Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 DO NOT DROP OUT OF SCHOOL EVEN FOR A SEMESTER!!!! What I did in college to help me keep focused is to set myself up with goals and rewards. I told myself that I needed to do good this semester and when it came time for Spring Break, or winter break I would go on a trip. First semester I did well and I treated myself to a deep sea fishing trip in Key West. I was in the Florida Keys fishing while the majority of the country was a block of ice! And I would ONLY do this if I did well! During the year I would motivate myself and look up places for us to stay. I printed out a picture of the Beaches in Key West and taped it above my desk. Now, it doesn't need to be a trip. It could be a PS4, an NFL game....anything that you like and you are interested in.
JDPT Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 I agree, DO NOT quit school. You need to immerse yourself in your studies. Trust me I know how difficult that is but it's manageable. I used to find myself taking extra time to cover all my material when I was depressed due to my break up but trust me you will feel much better at the end when you accomplish all your goals and succeed regardless of so much opposition.
Author Chris715 Posted September 6, 2013 Author Posted September 6, 2013 I'm seriously on the fence with this. I have a week to figure it out because that's when the withdrawal period ends.
Author Chris715 Posted September 6, 2013 Author Posted September 6, 2013 Guess I need to figure out if this is something I can really push through right now. Some days if feels like I can, others not some much :/
JDPT Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 Look at it this say, don't allow your ex to be the reason for your downfall. She isn't worth you prolonging school, livelihood and future. This is your journey, take charge of it and don't allow ANYONE to ruin it for you.
Els Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 Chris, does your school not have any free or extremely subsidized counselling sessions for students? That would be really odd, as every university I know does. 1
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 Chris, does your school not have any free or extremely subsidized counselling sessions for students? That would be really odd, as every university I know does. What Elswyth said X100. My university, there was a $10 deposit, and after that, you had as many therapy sessions as you needed. It helped me out a ton when I was going through my hard times. I would seriously look into something like this because it seems like something that would benefit you tremendously. Good luck! 1
Author Chris715 Posted September 6, 2013 Author Posted September 6, 2013 Chris, does your school not have any free or extremely subsidized counselling sessions for students? That would be really odd, as every university I know does. I checked on the university website today and didn't see anything about free counseling offered. Maybe I'll give them a call tomorrow and ask directly... I need to figure something out.
Author Chris715 Posted September 6, 2013 Author Posted September 6, 2013 I'm concerned you're not going to get anywhere without any counselling. I wish I thought otherwise but I think you're right But dropping everything in school, something I've been working for for 3+ years now, seems like a huge overreaction, depressed or not. Everyday I tell myself no matter what, I will NOT contact her because I can't afford anymore setbacks. But as everyone on here has seen I'm terrible at NC and self control and every day it feels like I could just crack.
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 I checked on the university website today and didn't see anything about free counseling offered. Maybe I'll give them a call tomorrow and ask directly... I need to figure something out. Yeah, sometimes they do and dont. Mine did NOT have it on there. I had to call and they told me the information. Trust me, its very helpful just to have someone to listen to you.
Els Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 I checked on the university website today and didn't see anything about free counseling offered. Maybe I'll give them a call tomorrow and ask directly... I need to figure something out. Yes, definitely do that. Sometimes they don't publicize the service as much as they should/could. All the best.
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