frederickkk Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 honestly, where does she get off on this? im out of her life. not allowed to contact her. does that make her happy? really?
joe86 Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 You'll never know I'm afraid My previous ex did similar with me, we have no contact & never discussed what happened after things settled down. It takes some getting used to, but I don't look back with regrets, she got what she wanted and I carried on enjoying my life. 1
Author frederickkk Posted September 5, 2013 Author Posted September 5, 2013 You'll never know I'm afraid My previous ex did similar with me, we have no contact & never discussed what happened after things settled down. It takes some getting used to, but I don't look back with regrets, she got what she wanted and I carried on enjoying my life. have you ever seen her since? does she know you are enjoying your life? will you ever get back together? i cannot comprehend the situation i'm in.
Simon Phoenix Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 Considering you played psycho stalker until she got a restraining order against you, it's safe to say she's pretty happy without you in her life. 6
Author frederickkk Posted September 5, 2013 Author Posted September 5, 2013 Considering you played psycho stalker until she got a restraining order against you, it's safe to say she's pretty happy without you in her life. I hope she is happy. But when you pile a few pounds on, thats utter BS.
Author frederickkk Posted September 5, 2013 Author Posted September 5, 2013 Very true. I have never seen someone obsess so much about a relationship. because she was it. i won't fall all in love with anyone else again, i'm hurt big time. and will help those on here who suffer with the B ULL S HIT that we put up with in relationships. in fact, i might dedicate my life to it.
CarrieT Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 i might dedicate my life to it. How very sad for you.... 3
Author frederickkk Posted September 5, 2013 Author Posted September 5, 2013 How very sad for you.... not really, lets help others who have been burned badly
Simon Phoenix Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 Yeah, I'd say weight gain is usually a sign of being comfortable. 2
Author frederickkk Posted September 6, 2013 Author Posted September 6, 2013 I disagree. I always put on a few kilos when I'm blissfully happy. Happens all the time. If you're not going to love again, that's fine. But part of giving good advice to other people is emulating success and happiness, even when single. I completely agree. But when I choose that path of success, happiness, whatever it takes, I really can't have her in my life. The funny thing is, she has taken out an order on me so she doesn't have to deal with it, because it evidently hurt her. When I eventually walk away from it....i know i will feel better, but that isn't the point. She made the wrong decision. Love comes and goes. Life is temporary, why throw us away? And I could put that last couple of pieces in an email to her, but whats the fking point? tells her friends family about email, gets advice to move on. I have been clinically wiped out from her life. Its a lose lose situation. That is why I acted the way I did, because if i sit down and accept it, you get " he never really cared" etc etc.
Author frederickkk Posted September 6, 2013 Author Posted September 6, 2013 baring all this in mind, knowing we can get back together at any point. i texted her father last summer, what i wanted with her, two months after trying to sort it out, he turned on me. two years together. there isn't a bad bone in my body. i'm not aggressive nor violent. she has been raised like a princess, always got she wanted. Now she has it, I'm dead to her, and she piles the weight on trying to find happiness in food. I will never accept it. I can't even get past the first stage.
Simon Phoenix Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 You and amkxoxo should meet up. Two pathological rehashers living in their own world -- what could possibly go wrong? 1
Author frederickkk Posted September 6, 2013 Author Posted September 6, 2013 baring all this in mind, knowing we can get back together at any point.
Author frederickkk Posted September 6, 2013 Author Posted September 6, 2013 You and amkxoxo should meet up. Two pathological rehashers living in their own world -- what could possibly go wrong? bit harsh, when i am still hurting, still trying to deal with this in my own way. which is silence. and grieving. for however long it takes.
Simon Phoenix Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 baring all this in mind, knowing we can get back together at any point. You are as delusional as advertised. Usually people don't live up to extreme hype, but you are delivering. 2
Author frederickkk Posted September 6, 2013 Author Posted September 6, 2013 The fact that you know that she's put on some weight, concerns me that you're violating the order. And having been on the receiving end of a stalker, I'd choose cake and a fat arse any day of the week, over the fear of being stalked. I was told by a mutual friend who bumped into her over the Summer
Author frederickkk Posted September 6, 2013 Author Posted September 6, 2013 She's taken an order out on you because you obviously scared the sh*t out of her. She didn't make the wrong decision. You're not the only person for her. She obviously thought there was someone better. It sucks, but we've all been there. You are not the one for her, and she's not it for you. Again, she wiped you out because you scared the crap out of her. You stalked and obsessed. I have been there. It sucks. Any girl would rather a bloke didn't care, than stalking and harrassing her. This is not her fault. It's yours. I completely agree that I overcooked the situation and it is all my fault.
Author frederickkk Posted September 6, 2013 Author Posted September 6, 2013 You are as delusional as advertised. Usually people don't live up to extreme hype, but you are delivering. Sorry Simon, I'm trying my hardest to get over it.
Simon Phoenix Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 Sorry Simon, I'm trying my hardest to get over it. I doubt it, you are still holding out hope a year out after having a restraining order slapped against you. You aren't trying at all. 2
CarrieT Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 not really, lets help others who have been burned badly Please explain to me - like I'm a two-year-old - who you are helping and how with this continual diatribe... 1
Author frederickkk Posted September 6, 2013 Author Posted September 6, 2013 You refuse to leave the city she's in, because you think she'll still change her mind. I'd start there... I live two hours away by train and have absolutely no interest in spending any time in the place she even lives. I'm trying to build my life, but keep falling. I'm sorry, this has affected me you know? You go to work to earn money, to survive, to be able to come home and spend time with the people you love. When you lose someone that you deeply love, you struggle to see merit in going to work.
Author frederickkk Posted September 6, 2013 Author Posted September 6, 2013 Please explain to me - like I'm a two-year-old - who you are helping and how with this continual diatribe... I don't know, just having a miserable evening, sorry X
Author frederickkk Posted September 6, 2013 Author Posted September 6, 2013 I doubt it, you are still holding out hope a year out after having a restraining order slapped against you. You aren't trying at all. Trying to build my life and failing miserably
Simon Phoenix Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 Trying to build my life and failing miserably Because you are holding on to something that's deader than dead. 2
Sugarkane Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 Aren't you tired of chasing someone who doesn't want you yet? Are you going to continue to stalk/ get info on her, while your life goes by? 1
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