Bandito Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 (edited) so the story is my ex broke up with me because i'm not "the one." says that theres a guy out there for her who is perfect. that really hurt.. sucks because she use to say i was "the perfect man, i want to grow old with you." i think is wrong to judge your partner like that. just because what the offered wasn't good enough. who thinks its total BS when ppl use the term "the one." out of 7 billion ppl on the planet you really think you're going to find them? Edited September 5, 2013 by Bandito 1
Chi townD Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 I did. Been married to her for several years now and still going strong!
Phoe Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 I don't believe in "the one" in the sense that there is ONLY one person out there that would be your right person. I believe in "the one" in the sense that there are many people who could fit that bill, you find that person, marry them and live happily ever after and they are "YOUR one". You made them "the one", but had you found a similarly awesome person instead, that person would be "the one" instead. 4
crederer Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 I think there are many "the one's" but it doesn't play out like a hollywood movie as some people seem to think. At the end of the day, she basically said, you aren't the one for her. Which sucks, sorry man.
todreaminblue Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 i used to think there was only one "one" but like phoe i think there are more than just one and you make the person you marry the one.....grass is never greener in the next paddock your ex will realize that one day.......there is no perfect human, perfect guy perfect woman....so how can you find the perfect one for you...everyoen has flaws....silly to look for one perfect guy or girl for you isnt it?..you will never be happy.....because they dont exist you always love the one you are with.....and dont go looking for another then that person is the one for you imperfect but they are yours because they love you too..your ex is looking for greener pastures......and probably left behind the greenest pasture she could have had....fickleness.....is to be never happy with what you have....deb 2
melell Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 Agree with above. There are plenty of 'ones'. I think using that excuse is about emotional immaturity to be honest. 4
eleve82 Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 My ex threw me the same line and gave me some pretty superficial reasons for that. After a few years of his vacillation, I decided to give up and left the country to pursue my dreams without him instead. If she doesn't consider you "the one" ( which I don't believe in the concept of either), it doesn't matter what the reasons are - she just feels it isn't right. Maybe one day she'll realise the problem lay with her, maybe she won't but time and tide wait for no man - find someone who will appreciate you for what you are. Good luck! 1
Author Bandito Posted September 6, 2013 Author Posted September 6, 2013 i feel like saying this to her... "it's sucks when you say i'm not 'the one.' out of 7 billion ppl on earth you think you're gonna find the perfect partner? i'm sorry but you're looking for someone who doesn't exist. i know you're looking for greener grass, but if you just took me for who i am, instead of who i'm not, things would have worked out. " 1
Salvatore85 Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 i feel like saying this to her... "it's sucks when you say i'm not 'the one.' out of 7 billion ppl on earth you think you're gonna find the perfect partner? i'm sorry but you're looking for someone who doesn't exist. i know you're looking for greener grass, but if you just took me for who i am, instead of who i'm not, things would have worked out. " No dude. You're wasting your time as she's not going to magically fall back in love with you. The only way someone can get there ex back is to live their life to the fullest. I'm not saying you should try but the only way I got back with mine was to just move on with my life, it worked. We broke up again a year later but it definitely worked to get her back.
bagofnuts Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 there are definitely many "the ones" for each of us. i would say it depends on whether the opportunity is presented to us. and whether u grab it or not. Or... meeting by coincidence/fate whatsoever. She gave a ****ty reason. So F that and forget about her
Author Bandito Posted September 6, 2013 Author Posted September 6, 2013 there are definitely many "the ones" for each of us. i would say it depends on whether the opportunity is presented to us. and whether u grab it or not. Or... meeting by coincidence/fate whatsoever. She gave a ****ty reason. So F that and forget about her it is a $-hity reason. she doesn't know how to love unconditionally.
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 it is a $-hity reason. she doesn't know how to love unconditionally. Well, if you fully believe that, then why keep yourself in this mental prison? If she feels like that, then thats all you can do. Just go out and move forward.
hurts2death Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 and probably after seeing that the grass aint greener she will feel that same emptyness,,, unless she is not sensitive at all like a brick... disposable us. damn i used to think there was only one "one" but like phoe i think there are more than just one and you make the person you marry the one.....grass is never greener in the next paddock your ex will realize that one day.......there is no perfect human, perfect guy perfect woman....so how can you find the perfect one for you...everyoen has flaws....silly to look for one perfect guy or girl for you isnt it?..you will never be happy.....because they dont exist you always love the one you are with.....and dont go looking for another then that person is the one for you imperfect but they are yours because they love you too..your ex is looking for greener pastures......and probably left behind the greenest pasture she could have had....fickleness.....is to be never happy with what you have....deb
Author Bandito Posted September 6, 2013 Author Posted September 6, 2013 i used to think there was only one "one" but like phoe i think there are more than just one and you make the person you marry the one.....grass is never greener in the next paddock your ex will realize that one day.......there is no perfect human, perfect guy perfect woman....so how can you find the perfect one for you...everyoen has flaws....silly to look for one perfect guy or girl for you isnt it?..you will never be happy.....because they dont exist you always love the one you are with.....and dont go looking for another then that person is the one for you imperfect but they are yours because they love you too..your ex is looking for greener pastures......and probably left behind the greenest pasture she could have had....fickleness.....is to be never happy with what you have....deb you are so right. i tell my self this "this guys shes looking for, doesn't exist." she's looking for greener grass, but if she watered her own grass, it would be just a green.
skydiveaddict Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 out of 7 billion ppl on the planet you really think you're going to find them? I did. But I couldn't make it work. But I'm certain she was the one for me.
Author Bandito Posted September 6, 2013 Author Posted September 6, 2013 I did. But I couldn't make it work. But I'm certain she was the one for me. she would have been "the one" if you were able to make it work. no such thing as perfection.
skydiveaddict Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 (edited) she would have been "the one" if you were able to make it work. no such thing as perfection. True enough. It was a distance thing. She said she'd wait for me, but she didn't. Tore me up pretty bad TBH. I think beyond repair Edited September 6, 2013 by skydiveaddict
Author Bandito Posted September 6, 2013 Author Posted September 6, 2013 True enough. It was a distance thing. She said she'd wait for me, but she didn't. Tore me up pretty bad TBH. I think beyond repair i was in a long distance relationship too. i made that work by paying a pretty penny for airfare every two weeks.
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