Ed the 3rd Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 So long story short I'm a good looking, smart and imo charming (when I get to know people) sports student who hasn't met any girls yet and that's just not right. Any advice? I'm literally going to throw myself at every opportunity I get to mingle with people like Gym classes, gigs etc (not just for girls I generally want to). I'm not terribly shy either. I saw a girl I liked first day and tried to put the moves on her but she had a BF ((((((( That said though gathering the strength to do that and beat my SA was fairly taxing. Any tips? I'm just considering walking up to random people and trying my luck....I mean whats the worst that could happen? Other then some of my fellow sports students I'm one of the most well build guys on campus. PS: Sorry if I sound like an arrogant prick but my self praise is more then well earned. PSS: I started 2 days ago.
tman666 Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 Just give up and prepare yourself for a life of kissless, sexless solitude. I mean, if you can't make it happen after 2 whole days of talking to girls, I don't know what to tell you. Sorry brah.
Author Ed the 3rd Posted September 5, 2013 Author Posted September 5, 2013 That's what I thought. I'll go throw myself into a meat grinder now. 2
MrCastle Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 Two words: Study dates. Two words: Actual dates
Dallers Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 There is needy and then there is this s**t! You are barely even turning the oven on let alone trying to preheat the god damn turkey. A man gets the girl by taking his time, similar to the way he looks and walks never rushed always laid back and waiting and never ever does he act like he needs the girl. You need to read more about how woman see a man especially at college because you are going to be around so many testosterone filled losers that have alpha written all over them and they will get those pretty little things that you are goggling at and wandering why after 48 hours you a pulling one off at recess. Take a chill pill and focus on your studies, the potential at college is endless and I am pretty much sure if you just do nothing at all you will end up laid in double figures by the time you graduate. If not, you are just ugly.
Author Ed the 3rd Posted September 6, 2013 Author Posted September 6, 2013 There is needy and then there is this s**t! You are barely even turning the oven on let alone trying to preheat the god damn turkey. A man gets the girl by taking his time, similar to the way he looks and walks never rushed always laid back and waiting and never ever does he act like he needs the girl. You need to read more about how woman see a man especially at college because you are going to be around so many testosterone filled losers that have alpha written all over them and they will get those pretty little things that you are goggling at and wandering why after 48 hours you a pulling one off at recess. Take a chill pill and focus on your studies, the potential at college is endless and I am pretty much sure if you just do nothing at all you will end up laid in double figures by the time you graduate. If not, you are just ugly. Lol the thread was mostly just asking for tips for future reference. Obviously I'm not taking 2 days of no luck to heart.....even though I'm a strikingly handsome hench mega alpha sports student. But yeah if I see a girl I like I pounce on it like a car bonnet. Would rather get turned down and walk away with increased confidence then sit back waiting for the right day, month, weather etc and watch some other tosspot take the chance.
Author Ed the 3rd Posted September 6, 2013 Author Posted September 6, 2013 Join a fraternity. Duh. For all intents and purposes there is no such thing in jolly old britland. Don't live on Campass either. Although from what I understand of college fraternity's if we all got jackets that showed off how much of a douchebag we all were I'd already have the top one.
henderson14 Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 For all intents and purposes there is no such thing in jolly old britland. Don't live on Campass either. Although from what I understand of college fraternity's if we all got jackets that showed off how much of a douchebag we all were I'd already have the top one. Another reason America is the best country to live in. 1
MrCastle Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 Lol the thread was mostly just asking for tips for future reference. Obviously I'm not taking 2 days of no luck to heart.....even though I'm a strikingly handsome hench mega alpha sports student. But yeah if I see a girl I like I pounce on it like a car bonnet. Would rather get turned down and walk away with increased confidence then sit back waiting for the right day, month, weather etc and watch some other tosspot take the chance. This this this a million times this. You're already ahead of the game with this belief. Men are not men any more. At least not in my generation. Most men my age are followers who have no confidence or leadership qualities when it comes to dating and sit in class drooling at the babes in class and not talking to them at all. Just watching from a distance. Until they build up the courage halfway through the semester to say "hello" and then a few weeks later work up the courage to have a conversation/try and get a number. Act fast. The faster you act, the quicker you get the approach anxiety over with, the faster you find out if you have a chance with her (and if not, move on), etc etc. The only guys who are successful are the ones who are fearless. Not the tallest, or best looking, or richest, or most popular -- the guy with balls gets the girl every time because he was the only one man enough to approach the girl. The old quote is "fortune favors the bold," not "fortune favors the good looking."
Simon Phoenix Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 Two words: Actual dates Green jacket, gold jacket, who gives a sh*t? End result is the same.
Jbum5 Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 (edited) Green jacket, gold jacket, who gives a sh*t? End result is the same. Happy Gilmore would agree with you 100%. But like the movie, Adam Sandler is getting old and this is probably outdated. Fortune does favor the bold. Be a man, not a donkey. Edited September 7, 2013 by Jbum5
Simon Phoenix Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 Happy Gilmore would agree with you 100%. But like the movie, Adam Sandler is getting old and this is probably outdated. Fortune does favor the bold. Be a man, not a donkey. What the hell are you talking about? Do people actually study on study dates now? That's depressing.
Phoe Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 What the hell are you talking about? Do people actually study on study dates now? That's depressing. I had a handful of study dates in college and yes, they were actually all about studying lol. The "date" in study date is quite misleading but I can't really think of a better word either. Study Party? Study Meetup? Dunno! 1
Simon Phoenix Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 I had a handful of study dates in college and yes, they were actually all about studying lol. The "date" in study date is quite misleading but I can't really think of a better word either. Study Party? Study Meetup? Dunno! Well sh*t, that was one of my go-to moves. Make friends with a couple of girls in each class, get notes from them, arrange study dates where we'd hang out for an hour or so at the library, then grab dinner and drinks, then go back to my place to "study" more, have another drink or two, then watch a movie for five minutes before we were pawing and climbing all over each other. I'd have to say my success rate with them was over 80 percent. When I actually wanted to study for real (which was only before the midterm and final) I'd study by myself. This saddens me.
Phoe Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 Well sh*t, that was one of my go-to moves. Make friends with a couple of girls in each class, get notes from them, arrange study dates where we'd hang out for an hour or so at the library, then grab dinner and drinks, then go back to my place to "study" more, have another drink or two, then watch a movie for five minutes before we were pawing and climbing all over each other. I'd have to say my success rate with them was over 80 percent. When I actually wanted to study for real (which was only before the midterm and final) I'd study by myself. This saddens me. Haha, yeah that never happened on my study dates. It was always serious studying, exchanging of notes for a few hours, proofreading and editing of projects, then going our separate ways. I did have ONE meetup where the guy clearly had no idea what he was doing in the class, and knowing that I was top of the class, just kinda wanted to mooch off me and get his work done without having to try too hard. Never studied with him again -.- 1
Simon Phoenix Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 Haha, yeah that never happened on my study dates. It was always serious studying, exchanging of notes for a few hours, proofreading and editing of projects, then going our separate ways. I did have ONE meetup where the guy clearly had no idea what he was doing in the class, and knowing that I was top of the class, just kinda wanted to mooch off me and get his work done without having to try too hard. Never studied with him again -.- I always knew what I was doing (or I could figure it out by just catching up on the reading) and would pretend I didn't to get "help."
MrCastle Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 Second what Phoe said. "Study date" never brought me to vag land. It was legit studying. Every time.
Simon Phoenix Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 (edited) Meh, worked for me. Oh well. Either way, I think we can all agree that classes are a great place to meet people you are interested in dating/hooking up with. Edited September 7, 2013 by Simon Phoenix
Phoe Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 Meh, worked for me. Oh well. Either way, I think we can all agree that classes are a great place to meet people you are interested in dating/hooking up with. Never worked for me, but I can agree that it definitely works for a decent amount of people. Had I been more proactive and aggressive I probably would have found success. Sometimes I wish I could do college over again.
Simon Phoenix Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 (edited) Never worked for me, but I can agree that it definitely works for a decent amount of people. Had I been more proactive and aggressive I probably would have found success. Sometimes I wish I could do college over again. I mean, it's a group of people you are in contact with 2-3 times per week at minimum over the course of a few months. All of the hard parts of initially meeting someone -- approach, having something to talk about, etc. -- are eliminated. You can just grip it and rip it. And even after the semester is over you still can talk to them. Heck, I was at a party in New York City several years after I graduated and some girl comes up to me just chatting my ear off because she remembered me from a class we took together my sophomore year. Chance interactions happen like that every time. I guess it also helped that I was a funny, class-clown type so I left an impression. Edited September 7, 2013 by Simon Phoenix
Phoe Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 I mean, it's a group of people you are in contact with 2-3 times per week at minimum over the course of a few months. All of the hard parts of initially meeting someone -- approach, having something to talk about, etc. -- are eliminated. You can just grip it and rip it. Which makes sense, but for me it never worked. I formed polite friendships with people but dating never happened. I wish I'd been aggressive and pursued, because it really is an ideal situation. Now that I'm in a small town with limited options, I wonder WHY did I not take action when I was in college and there were thousands of men around me every day? Why did I not practice approaching, get some experience. It was dumb of me. I wasted my chance. OP, college really is the best place to meet people. Don't waste it like I did. Use every possible minute you can to gain experiences
Author Ed the 3rd Posted September 7, 2013 Author Posted September 7, 2013 This this this a million times this. You're already ahead of the game with this belief. Men are not men any more. At least not in my generation. Most men my age are followers who have no confidence or leadership qualities when it comes to dating and sit in class drooling at the babes in class and not talking to them at all. Just watching from a distance. Until they build up the courage halfway through the semester to say "hello" and then a few weeks later work up the courage to have a conversation/try and get a number. Act fast. The faster you act, the quicker you get the approach anxiety over with, the faster you find out if you have a chance with her (and if not, move on), etc etc. The only guys who are successful are the ones who are fearless. Not the tallest, or best looking, or richest, or most popular -- the guy with balls gets the girl every time because he was the only one man enough to approach the girl. The old quote is "fortune favors the bold," not "fortune favors the good looking."Word. If there is one thing that is appreciated in today's society (not just by girls) its having some balls.
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