My world is falling apart.My Fiance is going to cheat on me. Should I let her?

[2sunny]

YOU didn't do anything. I would confront, bi-polar be damned! Just have 911 on speed dial.

 

Tell her she can cancel her trip and stay and try to work on the relationship, or she can go to Florida. But, if she goes to Florida the marriage is off and don't bother coming back. Then walk away. Be firm and don't make this an idle threat.

 

If she leaves, collect up ALL of her sh*t and drop it all off at her folks. If they ask what's up, just tell them the truth, that their daughter is currently in Florida having an affair with another man. Let them blow up her phone and read her the riot act. Then, go home and change all of the locks.

 

Ignore all texts, phonecalls and emails. Block her on facebook.

 

Yep - do this ^^^

 

And know that you NOW know who she is and what she's capable of = cheating! And staying one minute longer only means you are WILLING to have a life of being cheated on.

 

She is not who you THOUGHT she was. But now you know who she really is. Why would that be good enough? It's not!

 

"When people show you who they are, believe them."

-Maya Deangelo

 

My advice is going to be different than the other's. My advice is to stop, take a deep breath in and let it all out. Clear your head and then get down on your knees, put your hands together and thank the Good Lord Almighty that he has allowed you to see through the haze of love and see her for who and what she really is before you are legally joined in marriage and have children and mortgages and such together.

 

Then when you are done thanking the Lord, pack up her stuff and put it out in the drive way for her to pick up. If she has some heavy stuff that you think she may need help with, take a picture of it and send to her boyfriends and see if they'll help her pack it all up.

 

Then go out and do some stuff you've been wanting to do for a long time but haven't because you've been busy with her.

 

I agree - no need to waste any more time on a gal that won't be honest with you. There's no foundation for a healthy relationship.

 

Pack her stuff - change the locks. Tell her she's ruined the relationship by plotting and planning behind your back.

 

Someone who loves you doesn't do that - your enemies do that! Treat her as such! She's willing to use you but do whatever she wants - and by doing so - hurting YOU behind your back = THAT is not love!

[Deeplydisturbed]

Cut your losses and run. I know you're heartbroken but something that is this bad before marriage won't get any better.

[harrybrown]

Do not marry this woman. Wake up. If she goes through with this, it is over and she is history.