goodnightrebecca Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 I haven't posted on here since god knows when but I feel like I kinda need it right now. So a little update. Some of you may remember my story (in the short verison: my GF for 2years dumped me out of the blue 2 months ago, we never fought, no visible problems and she never talked about her feelings to me but always talked about them to her friends (and this guy that she says is "only" her 'friend" but they've been hanging out a lot ever since). Now flash forward 2 months and I am here. There was a period (the last 3 weeks) where she never occupied my mind, instead I had kind of a mental breakdown but for other, more serious reason than her. And I honestly felt hopeful to get back out on the dating field and I didnt really care what she was up to. But yesterday she randomly messaged me and said "hey! how was your first day of classes?!" . This caught me a bit off guard because of the way she had been acting (basically posting things on twitter about this new guy and going on a camping trip with him and her friends, etc etc).. And also I was not really thrilled about talking to her because I am still very upset about what she did to me, how she broke it off with me out of the blue and all of the **** she's been after pulling since. But I ended up replying and this was our conversations. First is her, then its me. Hey ! How was your first day of classes ? Wednesday 5:45pm It went good Oh that's good ! yup. yours It was long haha ohhh ****tyyy : / I got a feeling this semester is gonna be brutal 6:18pm it probably will Yes, haha anyways just wanted to see how your first day was ! Talk to you later ! okk bye - Now I do not know if I handled that right and thats what I'm kinda stuck on. I didn't want her to use me as a "doormat" anymore, and I think I was to easy on her already for all of the **** shes done (i.e. going out with that "guy" when we were still technically going out and trying to rub it in my face). She said to all of her friends that shes "great" and that I'm "broken", but the matter of fact is I really am not. I've been feeling better up until this point, and now I don't really know if I handeled that well or not. Any thoughts?
PR08 Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 Thoughts? It's meaningless. Don't read into it. And stop stalking her social media as well if you value your mental health. It's fine if you're genuinely over it, but you're not.
Chi townD Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 Breadcrumbs. Pulling on the leash to see if the dog is still there. You proved that he was. Now, I got a weird concept for ya that might help a buttload. Why don't you start NC..... And don't come back on here and tell me that you haven't spoken to her in a couple of months. That may be the case, but you're not in NC. You stated that you're still following her on twitter. You know everything that's going on in her life. That's not NC. NC also includes all forms of social media! 1
xanitus Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 dude this is not NC. You are setting yourself up for more misery. Block delete! Be gone! Thats how you fall out of feeling "in love". She gave you the casual friend chat and barely even that. You know what needs to be done
JPMC Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 The internet has made getting over someone significantly harder. I told my ex to leave me be. Don't look at me on Twitter, LinkedIn, my blog, etc. 3 times on LinkedIn in the last 2 days. I refuse to engage. Thanks for respecting my wishes you psycho. I'm not on facebook. Yes, it massages my ego, to be thought about, but I want it over with. No contact is not knowing anything. Looking up someone is contacting them. No more breadcrumbs.
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