confused515 Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 2.5 year relationship came to a end in July. I was on the fence about where I was in life, experiencing depression and had no direction. I told the girl I loved that I need some time to myself and try to get out of my funk. I turned off my cell phone, stayed off the internet and jumped on a bicycle and rode across the country. When I got to my destination (a month later) I called her to let her know I made it and to see how she was doing. She was very different. I had known her for 10+ years and been with her for 2 in a relationship. She was talking in a different way and it was clear that she was emotionally detached from me/us. When I returned home we talked here and there. Before I left we talked EVERYDAY on top of seeing each other. I would send her a text and not hear back from her for hours. This was very unlike her. Then we made plans to see each other (first time since I left). She had lunch plans with friends but we would meet after. I texted her at 2pm and she said they were just finishing up and would be ready shortly. Well 6 hours later she finally called me and she was drunk. She never really drank for all the time I had known her and she never has not kept me informed on running late or things like that. This behavior continued, very short communication, not calling me back and ALWAYS being late for any plans we had. Again very unlike the girl I was with. We would be physical here and there, tell each other that we loved each other but her strange behavior continued. She was always texting someone. She would bring her phone in the shower room and be up late texting someone. She would get dressed up when I was leaving and be brushing her teeth in the middle of the day... Never saw her do these things. My gut was telling me something was going on. When I asked her if she had met someone else she always denied it and got annoyed. I told her that I broke it off and that she had every right to meet someone else but I think she should tell me since we are getting together and all physically. She still denied. I became obsessed with us and what was happening. I felt like I was a inch tall around her. My gut was telling me one thing and my head was trying to tell me another. Finally I told her that I do not believe her and I do not trust her. She admitted that she was seeing someone else, that they had great conversations and that he was interesting (ouch). Well I was very upset and hurt that she was stringing me along. I wish she could have just been honest with me and told me she was with someone. I had always been honest with her and I felt so betrayed. Its been a rough 2 months to say the least. I told her to please not contact me. I was pretty resentful. And I was devastated. I know that I broke it off but I would not have been with her or put myself through the suffering if she told me she was with someone else. Anyway she tried to contact me through text, email and phone. I did not reply to any. Then my birthday was this past weekend and she called to wish me a happy bday, sang me happy birthday and said she misses her best friend and to call her. I have not responded. I feel bad. I miss her and our friendship BUT it has changed since I left on my trip. I was always feeling bad after seeing her and I do not want to put myself there again. She was very emotionally detached since I have returned. Anyway I was hoping you guys could give my some insight.... Your opinions. I at a loss on what to do. After she looked me in the eye so many times and lied about things I do not think I can trust her or believe what she tells me Thanks
Chi townD Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 Anyway she tried to contact me through text, email and phone. I did not reply to any. Then my birthday was this past weekend and she called to wish me a happy bday, sang me happy birthday and said she misses her best friend and to call her. I have not responded. Did you get into a loving and caring relationship with her to ultimately become nothing more than a really good friend to her?
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