NotCamelot Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 I stopped having dreams about my Ws A many months ago. Then last night a really bad and strange one happened. In the dream, my W took me to the hotel where she screwed the OM. Took me to the actual room. The number on the door, the bed...... We were walking through the room and suddenly I wake up (thankfully). It was 4AM. I could not go back to sleep. She was snuggled up next to me. I really hated feeling her touch me at that moment. I haven't told her about the dream. I don't think I can/will. It really pisses me off that the dream happened. Things have been so incredibly good. Almost 16 months past D-day and the only thing that I deal with now are the memories. I know we can't control our dreams. But I wish I could.
IfWishesWereHorses Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 I think there is some protective mechanisms that cause the subconscious not to want to let you forget! Don't give it any more power than it deserves.
road Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 I stopped having dreams about my Ws A many months ago. Then last night a really bad and strange one happened. In the dream, my W took me to the hotel where she screwed the OM. Took me to the actual room. The number on the door, the bed...... We were walking through the room and suddenly I wake up (thankfully). It was 4AM. I could not go back to sleep. She was snuggled up next to me. I really hated feeling her touch me at that moment. I haven't told her about the dream. I don't think I can/will. It really pisses me off that the dream happened. Things have been so incredibly good. Almost 16 months past D-day and the only thing that I deal with now are the memories. I know we can't control our dreams. But I wish I could. Recovery is a two to five year process. Allow time to work.
ChooseTruth Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 I had another dream last night too. It sucks.....I wish I could just purge all the **** from my mind. I'm not even next to her anymore. sigh
Guitarjeff Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 Funny, a friend of mine who divorced his wife for banging someone said he had a nightmare that he had never been strong enough to leave her and demand to spend his life with a woman who would not cheat on him. In other words, his nightmare was that he was still with her and dealing with what you are dealing with. He is now with a new woman and they are happy and content.
Guitarjeff Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 Recovery is a two to five year process. Allow time to work. I think of it as 2 to 5 years to beat yourself down to where you stop wishing and feeling you deserve to be with someone who wouldn't cheat on you. infidelity recovery= wait until you are numb and dead inside from this cancer and you'll feel better.
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